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 Craving And Resisting Food - How to Stop

=> How do you resist the foods? my doctor says i'm going to crave food because i'm going into puberty and its in my genes sometimes I feel bad for myself because all my friends are skinny and it feels like i can't wear anything to school without looking fat but my mom says i look fine and sometimes they hint at about how fat i am and i don't want my parents to think i'm wasting food by cutting it in half I feel embarrassed in front of my friends because their so skinny

=> How do i try to stop eating i eat soo much

 Stressed girl eating chocolate bar
If you crave certain foods and you find that you can't resist them, you might really have a type of food “addiction.” The more you eat the food, the more you want it, and once you start, you can’t stop. What’s going on?

Our brain has an emotional part and a thinking part. Our EMOTIONAL brain can be tricking us, telling us to eat something that tastes really good to soothe our sadness, boredom, loneliness, stress, or depression. That's why you get cravings. But, our THINKING brain is more rationale and knows pretty much what food our body needs for energy and repairs. It knows you don’t need the food you are craving at the moment. The thinking brain and the emotional brain can sometimes be in a tug of war!

Good News! The thinking part of the brain is BIGGER than the emotional part of the brain so WE CAN LEARN TO CONTROL THE EMOTIONAL BRAIN. It just takes practice to become aware of what is going on.

Practice talking to your brain and reasoning with your emotional brain when you have a craving for a certain food. Tell yourself, "No emotional brain! No! I am not going to let you trick me!!" I do not need that food because I am not hungry. GO AWAY!!"

Get in touch with your emotions and learn how to substitute other activities for eating. Make a list of things you like to do and refer to the list when you get a craving. Then, go do the fun activity instead of eating. Usually, if you can resist for a few minutes, the craving will go away. TRY IT, YOU CAN DO IT.

Check out Saying Goodbye to the Food Drug, Curve Your Cravings, and Preventing Food Addiction Relapse for more information and tips.


 Scared To Weigh Myself - How to Lose Weight

=> Hi lucy, I'm not happy with my weight im 14 and im scared of weighing my self because i Dont want to know the results, please could you give me advice on how to lose wight, i wont to fit into a size 6 maybe? Thanks xx

=> lucy im ten years old and im 125 pounds is that heathy and how do i lose it please help me thank you:)

=> I am 107 lb. and 12 years old.. I want to lose weight bc all my friends are skinny... and I don't believe I am skinny at all.. I do have chub... not 2 much but I want to get rid of it. Help

=> I never thought I was oversight until I did the weight calculator.which said I was. I am very sport active girl and I h AV emuacular thigha and a flat stomach but I am very short not even 5.1 so looking at me I guess I look very chubby. Honestly I don't know what to do because I am healthy and fit but I want to lose weight I am very self conscious. So could you please like give me some tips to lose weight or look skinnier. This was hard for me to write because I never even considered that Iwas oversiweight

 When we are ready to do something about our weight, we first need to know how much we weigh. We need the FACTS. Go to the weight calculator on this site to see if you are overweight.ouch

If the calculator determines that you are in the overweight range, you need to decide what you want to do about it. Learning about your relationship to food and overeating, how you deal with stress and learning how to tackle being overweight can be a first step.

We need to think positive. and build up our self-esteem. Then we are really to take on the work ahead.


 Eating Healthy and Still Overweight - How Do I Lose Weight

=> I`m overweight, how can some of my friends eat SO MUCH and JUNKFOOD too and be skinny when I exercise and eat healthily (me)and I'm overweight?

=> I am 12 years old and I weigh 200 lbs. I really want to be thin. I have been overweight since about I was about 8 years old. My mom is overweight, my brothers, even my dad was. What is an effective way to lose weight?

=> I'm 11 years old I'm 4"11 weigh 98 pounds and a boy. I have fat thighs that I get teased about and I have an unneccessary layer fat on my stomach. And I have a big butt it is probably 40 lbs of me. How can I get them to go away?

=> I'm 12, but am I'm overweight. Not obese, but neither am I at a healthy weight. I've been trying to exercise and eat healthier, but I've just got heavier. Help!!!

=> Dear Lucy Im 5 feet and I'm 152 pounds I dont know how I became so heavy and Im not a big junk or sweets person PLEASE HELP

 Being a healthy weight is a lifestyle choice. Eating healthy and exercising are part of that lifestyle. We may think we are following that path, but sometimes we still gain weight. How can that be? It may be helpful to take a REALITY CHECK. Here are some things to review that might help you:

1. Take some time to learn about overeating and healthy weight loss. What is your relationship to food and comfort eating? How do you use food in your life, for comfort, for stress? Why do you want to lose weight?

2. Take Inventory of what and how much you really eat and how much you exercise EVERYDAY. How often do you eat fast food? When and where do you eat? Write down EVERYTHING you eat, at meals as well as snacks. Write it down. Keeping a Diary can help you be more honest about what you actually eat and how much you exercise.

3. Focus on the positive. Diets and calorie counting often lead to frustration. Instead, give yourself credit for making the effort everyday to make healthy choices. If you mess up one day, brush yourself off and start again tomorrow. Every day counts. Give it a try and let us know how it works!!


 Fun Ways To Lose Weight

=> What are fun ideas to lose weight ... People make fun of me being fat and all my friends are twigs and then there I am the fatty I want and need to be thinner

=> I am over weight and i look in the mirror everyday tired of my flabby body. Give me some tips on how to lose weight indoors. Because i am very allergic to outdoors. Thanks!!!

=> I am 13 years old and in seventh grade.... I weigh 125 lbs and I don't know if I'm overweight but I go to a sporty school so everyone's skinny...... I want to lose weight so people don't think I'm fat and I want to be healthy. It's really hard, can you tell me what to do to lose weight? I joined volleyball and it starts in Janurary!

=> are your friends nice to you and dont bring it up that you are fat or anything not that you are now but i am kind of so can you give me hints or ideas to help me loose weight in a FUN way if you can and please dont tell ANYONE about this please i am sensitive and get really sad when people gring it up like Ohhh you are eating another peice of pizza and you are gonna get like a ballon and POP but i just walk away and ignore those people and when i get home i start to cry and tell my mom why cant i be like other kids being fast.The 2 days before thanksgiving there was a turkey trot and what this is a race where you start at a line and end at a line you run 2 laps around the school feild so the whole fifth grade lines up and when the horn blows EVERYONE runs and i was like in the middle but on the second lap i was the fourth last one but when i crossed the finished everyone yelled YEAH that I was not last oh and i am 10 but they were not trying to be mean and all of that they were being nice about it so there is my story! thank you lucy

 Here are some fun ideas to help you lose weight:

1. Get some MOTIVATION. Motivation helps keep us focused and keeps us going when we want to give up. Set small goals so you can accomplish them. Then set another small goal. Step by step, that is what works!

2. Keep weight loss fun. Try writing down as many activities that you can think of that you enjoy and place them in a big jar. Any activity you enjoy doing like riding a bike, going for a walk with a friend, or swimming are all examples of fun exercise. If you like doing an activity, you will be more likely to do it. That’s what counts. When you feel lazy or are about to eat something even if you aren’t hungry, reach into the jar, grab an activity, and DO IT!!! Right Now!! Be creative, mix it up, have fun!

Some examples of exercises that you can do right in your home or neighborhood are:
• Dancing to your favorite music in your room
• Jump Roping
• Hula hoops
• Walking or Running up and down Stairs
• Going for a walk


3. Start a Weight Loss Challenge With a Friend. If you have friends that also want to lose weight, you might start a friendly challenge where points are given for doing certain activities, drinking enough water, making healthy snack choices, and so forth. Check out the message boards on this site to meet others that want to be healthier also.

4. Make exercise a habit! like brushing your teeth or taking a shower. Find the time each day for exercise. JUST MAKE A PLAN AND DO IT!!!


 Do Sports Or Increased Activity Make You Gain Weight?

=> Sometimes when I do less sports I weigh less and look skinnier. I didn`t do swimming for a while and my arms started looking normal again. I went to one practice and then they started becoming larger again. I`m muscular but I still am overweight...

=> I'm 18 I weigh 160 & I'm 4 10. I have been trying to lose weight since I was 13. I lose like 10 then gain like 15...its so fusterating since I have a lot of mucsle mass added because I play soccer. Please help be thin!!

=> Im 14 147 lb its been driving me crazy i love running I run alot but somehow for some reason i gained weight instead of losing it please tell me why. ,&how could i lose it

=> Can you tell me why I still occasionally gain weight and then lose it all in 2-3 weeks easily? Sometimes even 6-7 days.

  It’s a common myth that muscle weighs more than fat. Actually, a pound of fat and a pound of muscle both weigh a pound! The difference is that fat and muscle differ in density. This means that if you looked at 5 pounds of muscle and 5 pounds of fat side by side, the fat would have more volume or space than the muscle.

A pound of muscle will burn more calories at rest than a pound of fat. With exercise you develop more muscle mass, improve your metabolism, and increase bone density.

Improved metabolism burns more calories. Generally, one needs to walk a mile in order to lose about 100 calories. The amount of activity you need to do in order to burn a certain number of calories depends on your current weight and in part how vigorous your stride or effort while doing the activity. All kinds of activity including cardio workouts such as jogging, cycling, and simply walking are important for calorie burning and good health. So, keep active!

If you are gaining weight even though you exercise, you are probably still eating more calories than you are burning off. Changing the intensity of the same exercise routine or increasing or decreasing the amount and kind of food you eat just a little can also make your weight go up or down some in just a few days. Sometimes we think we can eat more because we exercise, but that is not the case. Check your food amounts. You may need to cut back more on the amount of food you are eating. Keep moving!


 Body Image And Being Bullied

=> Why do kids bully me and my brother half the time just for being overweight and fat? I mean I don`t really care anymore, and people are mean to me for everything else too and now I ditched my friends and became a loner. Which actually is happiest I`ve been in a while. I can be anyone I want and I`m lucky enough to know who I am even though I`m only 12. My 8 year old brother comes home half the time crying since everyone bullies him for being him. All the teachers think he`s the bully but even I have seen him get bullied. His teacher is basically ought to get him and I don`t know what to do! At least my brother has the connection with my grandmother that I lost since she always called me fat and told me I had to eat less. I weight 147-148 pounds but that isn`t so bad is it? I mean sure I`m obese but so was my mother and now she is underweight. It`s natural in my family on both sides to be obese or overweight as a child and grow skinny in my mid-late teen years. So why do kids and people try to break you if you`re fat?

=> im 13 . and i always wanted to be skiny but i never was. all my friends look like skinny twigs and i look like a big twig. any way im looking for a way to lose about 20-30 lbs. i want to reach this goal without buying and equetment . can you help me?

=> Im not over weight but i have too much skin and not enough muscle. Also people bully me at school because when i smile my cheeks get big. How do i get rid of this extra skin?

=> Will I ever be thin again or am I stuck like this forever ... I get depressed just because I'm fat and getting bullied I need help

 Being overweight can sometimes make us feel alone, sad or depressed. Kids at school might tease or make fun of us which makes us feel even worse. Here's a tip on How to deal with bullying. Here are other things you can do:

First, start believing in YOU! You are unique. Arm yourself with more information about building your Self Esteem and start thinking positive. Try some of the self confidence tips and you will start to feel better about who you are now. It will also help you to stand up to bullies.

Make a list of a few of the qualities that you admire in yourself. Your friends like you for your qualities, not because you are thin. You might be good at art or math, or a patient listener. You might be funny, caring, honest, nice to others. See!

Be honest with friends and parents and ask them for help. You’ll be amazed at how willing they are to support you if you just ask. If you are ready to lose weight, your friends would probably love to help you. Ask them to do fun things with you like go for bike rides or walks, play games or practice dance steps. Here are more ways you can ask your friends for help


 Fast Weight Loss - Why It Doesn't Work and What you CAN DO

=> how can i lose weight about 10 pounds or 12 would be great i have to lose this by december the 18 and i need to know how

 Fast weight loss doesn’t work and doesn’t last! Quick diets, and food fads are bad ideas. They don’t work either. So, be smart, lose weight safely! While most of us would like to lose weight fast, weight loss that occurs gradually (1-2 pounds a week) is more likely to stay off. Safe Weight Loss takes time and effort, so be patient.

Generally, successful weight loss requires healthy portion controlled eating and increased activity or exercise. We need to take in less (food) and put out more (exercise) in order to lose weight. Check out How to Lose Weight and other Weight Control Tips for more information.

Here are a few more tips:
1. Keep a food and activity diary. This helps you focus and tracks your progress. Try cutting back on food amounts and increase your activity. Review your progress daily. Start with small goals. For example: to lose 1-2 pounds. Once you reach that goal, try a new goal. You’ll be more likely to stick with it and it won’t be so overwhelming.
2. Check your weight on a scale every couple days. That way, if you are gaining, you can cut down food amounts a bit more and increase your activity. Lose weight the healthy way! You'll be glad you did!


 How Lucy Lost Weight - Lessons Learned

=> How did u get through all of the trouble about being overweight?

=> hey!plzz help me i like to eat but i want to lose wait also what should i do i m really overweighted plzz help me

=> I always feel awkward around my friends there all skinny and i'm overwieght.

 You might remember The Story of Lucy and the Pit. I had an eating problem and loved to eat even though I felt awkward and embarrassed around my friends who were all a healthy weight. I couldn’t do many of the fun activities they did or if I did them, I felt breathless. Here are some things for you to try that worked for me:

Ask Your Friends For Help. I realized I needed to lose weight and so I asked my friends to help me. Asking friends for help really works! They can be very supportive and help you to stay away from unhealthy foods. Ask your parents to help you cut down food amounts and be active as well.

Avoid Problem Foods. I drink mostly water and low fat milk now and have TRAINED MY BRAIN to stay away from my problem foods like sweets and soda. I did that by checking off in a food diary how many days I could stay away from my problem foods and learned how to stop craving certain foods. Soon, I didn’t miss them and I was starting to lose weight! You can do that too!

Cut Down Food Portions. When I go out to eat with my friends, I usually box up half the food when it comes to the table before I start to eat and save the other half for the next day for lunch or dinner. When I’m at home, I dish up a salad plate with smaller size portions and don’t have seconds. Cutting down food portions really can help you to lose weight.

Do Distracting Activities. I realized that I craved certain foods so I learned to AVOID THEM and substitute fun activities instead. My friends showed me that activities like walking, swimming and skating are fun. I found that when I did active fun stuff with my friends, I didn't even think about food! It worked!

Get In Touch With Your Feelings. I learned how to get in touch with my feelings and emotions and got support from trusted friends. That really helped too!

You'll have ups and downs but keep at it. Try the chatroom and check out ideas in the tips area as well as stuff from other overweight kids on the pre-teen and teen bulletin boards. Keep positive, you can lose weight too!


 Can't Stop Eating - Where is My Willpower?

=> im 14 and i was 140 less then a week ago and i scaled myself today and im 145 i try to stop eating but i just can NOT for anything at all if im bored...i eat. if im hungry (witch is like every 5 mins)...i eat if im sad ... i eat please help i want to lose weight i hate it because my sister is a toothpick and i want to be like her and wear what she wears but i cant...i get teased every day because of my weight PLEASE HELP!!!!!

=> well i keep trying to lose weight, but it just doesnt come off. it gains. i excersise sometimes, but still, nothing changes. ive only eaten one donut this hour. i dont get why i have to be so fat. people dont understand what i go through. i make myself throw up, but then i get hungry and eat everything. i wish i could be skinny like everyone else.

 What you are describing is often called emotional eating. When you eat for reasons other than hunger you usually gain weight.

Here are some ideas that can help you to lose weight. Keep practicing them and they will become a healthy habit.
1. Pay attention to why you eat. Do you eat only when you are hungry? Or, do you eat because you are bored, stressed out, depressed, anxious or other emotional reasons? You might be emotionally “hooked” on certain foods and may need to learn to control your emotional eating in order to lose weight.

2. Motivation is also key to losing and maintaining weight.

3. Keep a food, emotion and exercise/activity diary. Daily entries keep you on track and accountable.

4. Set small short term goals and take it step by step. Little by little you will build on your success!

5. Don't give up! You may not succeed every day, but just try again the next day...and the next...YOU CAN DO IT!!


 Surgery As A Solution To Losing Weight

=> I have been obese all my life and i have not had a day when i have not been bullied sometimes i don't want to even live I am thinking aBOUT HAVING surgery to reduce my weight, maybe that will help

 Gastric bypass surgery is a major surgical procedure, with many risks and side effects and something you would want to discuss with your parents and your physician only after other treatment options like a regulated diet and exercise program have failed. A team of doctors, nutritionists and psychologists can help you and your family determine if you are a candidate for such surgery.

Gastric bypass surgery is most often performed on morbidly obese patients (BMI’s in the over 40 range) and those with life threatening conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease and arthritis. Doctors usually don't perform the surgery on children until they have gone through puberty and have stopped growing usually around 12 for girls or 15 for boys. This is because there could be increased likelihood of a nutritional or vitamin deficiency after surgery, which could hinder bone growth and sexual development.

Commitment to a New Lifestyle Change. The success or failure of gastric bypass surgery depends on you.
1. You must commit to and learn to restrict the amount of food you eat FOREVER.
2. You must be motivated to make permanent lifelong changes in diet and exercise FOREVER.
3. You must learn how to handle difficult/stressful situations without using food to comfort yourself FOREVER.

In reality, it’s learning to think about your relationship with food in a whole new way for the rest of your life. You must change your emotional relationship to food. Otherwise, gastric bypass surgery long term results are doomed to fail.

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