 What do I do about teasing? |
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=> There is a group of boys that always laugh at me. They don't do it to my face but as soon as my back is turned I hear sniggering. I see boys pointing to me and puffing out thier cheeks. It's really depressing. What should I do?
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 There are several ways to deal with teasing. The best methods probably depend on the situation and tactics you are comfortable in using. For example, if other kids try to confront you personally about your weight, consider the “Greta Garbo” method where you just stare back at them with your face empty of emotion. This will usually make the bullies very uneasy and they’ll think twice about teasing you again. Click on the above link to see a video demonstrating this technique.
If kids are teasing you behind your back, then there are other things you might try. For example, consider talking to a friend of the boys who tease you and ask if they can convince them to stop teasing. If there are other kids teased by these boys, ask them to join you in some after-school activity. By forming new friendships with kids who are experiencing the same problems, you may find strength in numbers.
Remember teasing is not your fault. Bullies tease due to their own insecurities. For more ideas on how to deal with teasing, visit our “Teasing at school...ouch" tip.
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| Losing weight fast: Is it safe? |
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=> i dontn like to be over weight. i have lost weight every day so far but i want to know how to ose istant weight fast. please help me and i wil never regret it. once i have lost the amount of weight i need to i will stay like this thank you
=> wekk am 17 years old am 5'1 and my doctor saids am over weight at 157 but am happy to say i lost 8lbs but i need a faster result can you help?
=> I'm 14 years old. I weigh 148 pounds and I'm 5'3. I'm losing about 3 pounds a week and I was wondering if this was healthy or not. I heared from someone that it wasn't safe to lose more than just one pound a week. Help?
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Safe weight loss is generally considered to be about 1-2 pounds (1/2-1 kg) per week for most people. Faster weight loss may be appropriate for those who are extremely overweight, but only under the supervision of your physician.
Rapid weight loss (more than 2 lb per week) is essentially starvation and can be damaging to the developing bodies of kids. Aside from potential damage to development, rapid weight loss often backfires, leading to subsequent weight gain. The extreme hunger from starvation often ends in comfort eating and bingeing. Weight loss of no more than 2 pounds per week avoids damage to your body and bingeing.
While it would be nice to see results quickly, it is safer and you’ll be more likely to keep the weight off if you lose it at a rate of 1-2 pounds/week. Try taking a picture of yourself once every week or two so that you can see the changes over time. It is easy to forget what we looked like one month ago or more, so pictures can provide the motivation and proof that show weight loss can work. In fact, if you replace some of your fat with muscle (which is denser than fat, thus taking up less space) you may be surprised that you look better than the scale says! |
| I’m so STRESSED about being overweight. I’m worried about my health! |
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=> Please,I want help!! Im so overweight and i'm so scared im going to die. As I type this im crying, because im afriad that i will never be healthy. I just need some help or ideas to help me. Im afraid to go to the gym, so that wont help. Im afraid to talk about weight to people, even my mom. I dont know what to do and im so scared!
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Going to the gym is not required to lose weight. If you feel self-conscious about your weight, you can start off exercising in private such as in your room by dancing to music, following exercise tapes checked out from the library or fitness shows you may find in the TV schedule, or lifting weights by using improvised objects such as canned food if there are no dumb-bells at home.
It also may help to identify the reason(s) you are overeating. Often kids are Comfort Eating to alleviate boredom, stress, frustration, anxiety, anger, sadness, depression, loneliness, and sometimes even happiness. Distracting activities can also help reduce overeating due to this type of emotional eating.
Here are some ideas for distracting activities:
Call a friend.
Listen to music. Dance to your music.
Go outside and walk.
Write poetry or journal.
Squeeze your hands together really tight until the urge to overeat goes away.
Go online to this site. See if anyone is in the chat room or boards.
Chew gum.
Drink lots of water. Keep a water bottle with you all the time.
Read a book.
Scream into a pillow or in your head.
Volunteer during the summer at an animal shelter or hospital during your most bored times.
Perhaps overeating is simply a habit of large portion sizes, which is common in the supersize culture of fast-food. Visit our “How Do I lose Weight?” page to learn more about the causes of being overweight and how to transition into a healthier lifestyle.
Finding support for overeating can really give some kids the boost they need to succeed in weight loss. If you don’t feel comfortable with talking about your weight with your mom, perhaps there is another adult you can confide in. Consider your school counselor or nurse, youth minister, or any other adult you trust. You can also Chat with Lucy, a Registered Dietician, every Wednesday from 7p-8p in the chat room. You can find support not only from her, but the other kids and teens that show up for chat time. We hope to see you there soon! |
| My family life is not ideal for losing weight. |
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=> im 12 and im 126 lbs my mom lives with her mom and no one will buy healthy food for me or the family so i try 2 stay fit and workout and eat rite and only have sugar free stuff but it wont work i need excize and how long do i do them
my mom woulnt let me go anywhere without her so she is lazy and so i stay home all the summer i cant go 2 a frinds house whitch im bored alot so dat makes me mad and sad so how can i be active when i dont and cant go no where
=> Hello, I weigh 160 and I'm only 12. I did the BMI test thing and it said that I could weigh like 130-150 to be at a healthy weight for me. I have big bones and I'm tall. My mom is always buying like a lot of junk food, because my family is like skinny. Well, except for my dad. And we are always in town because were like always busy and when my mom ge hungry she eats fast food which tempts me to eat something too. I am very very very embaressed about the way I look. I think that I am fat, ugly, that I don't look good in any clothes or shoes, I just hate me I hate the person I am I hate the way I look. I have like no confidence or anything. How do I gain some confidence and like how do I lose weight? Please help!!
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Both of you describe situations that make it extra difficult to lose weight. However, an open discussion with your parents about your desire to reach a healthy weight range may improve the home environment and make it easier to achieve weight loss.
Read our tip about “Talking With Your Parents About Your Weight Loss Wishes”. Before talking with your parents, prepare a list of all the reasons why you want to lose weight. Then write down a list of specific ways in which your parents can support you in losing weight. For example, if mom is pressed for time and always chooses fast food, explore other items on the menu that are healthier (chicken salads, fruit-yogurt cups, milk). Or find and suggest other quick eateries that have a healthier menu than where your mom usually takes you. There may be a local soup and sandwich diner with healthier food. If your mom doesn’t like you to leave the house without her supervision, see if there are adult-supervised clubs or activities in the area where she would feel comfortable allowing you to attend. Swimming lessons, outdoor arts and crafts classes, and more are offered by the YMCA, Boy Scouts & Girl Scouts, City Recreation & Park departments, and church youth groups in many communities. |
| IS MAKING YOUR SELF THROW UP BAD OR GUD FOR U |
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=> well i wanna noe dose it make u lose weight and is it gud or bad for u
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Self-induced vomiting (making yourself throw up) is bad for you. Self-induced vomiting is a type of purging often used by those with Bulimia Nervosa. Throwing up is always bad when used as a strategy for weight loss. Vomiting repeatedly may or may not cause weight loss, but it never helps to keep weight off permanently AND it puts one’s health in serious jeopardy.
Many medical problems can develop when attempting to use self-induced vomiting as a form of weight loss:
teeth erosion (due to stomach acid)
inflamed esophagus (due to stomach acid)
chronic sore throat (due to stomach acid)
stomach ulcers (due to a weakening of the stomach lining)
dry skin (due to water loss)
irregular heart rhythms (due to electrolyte imbalances - you lose essential electrolytes when you vomit)
fatigue and shortness of breath (due to loss of iron which results in anemia)
If self-induced vomiting does not stop, life-threatening conditions can develop:
higher risk for esophageal cancer
ruptured esophagus
perforating (hole that goes all the way through) stomach ulcers
seizures and brain damage (due to severe dehydration)
heart failure (due to severe electrolyte imbalances) |
| How do I learn to choose and appreciate healthy foods, especially when my parents buy junk food or take us out to eat a lot? |
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=> how did you learn to eat healthy
=> ill be 12 in 2 weeks and i weigh lets say a little bit over 170. i hav 2 little bros and my mom gets them all these snacks that r bad 4 u and i eat them and i cant stop can i hav som tips on how to stop!!!! please!?!?!?!?
=> How do I lose weight, because I don't plan my meals, but I stil excersize as often as I can. What can I do? (btw, I want to lose 24 pounds =/ )
=> how do i eat better even though i dont like most healthy foods?
=> i try so hard to lose weight............but its just so hard......i cant stop eating bad foods and my mom and dada always take me out to eat they wont stop.............i also dont like vegetables
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It can be tough growing up in a household that doesn’t provide the healthiest of food choices. Or perhaps your parents do offer healthy foods, but you don’t like them.
First, if junk food and fast food are a normal part of the menu that your parents’ provide, consider talking with them about making changes to help you lose weight. Your parents may not have learned how to eat healthy themselves while growing up. Or perhaps they feel squeezed for time and thus end up taking the family out for fast food or to other restaurants. Regardless of the reasons for your parents’ habits, be prepared to present ideas for changes such as suggestions for the grocery shopping list or offering to make side dishes for dinner if you are older. Check out Lucy's Healthy Eating tips and What's Cookin' for ideas.
If your parents already offer healthy foods, but you just don’t like them, there could be several things going on. Perhaps there is lots of junk food present in the house and you just find it too tempting or desirable compared to the healthy foods. Consider asking your parents to reduce the amount of junk foods or hiding them. Or, maybe the healthy food isn’t being prepared in a way that you would appreciate. For example, many kids may not like plain, steamed broccoli or cabbage as a side dish, but put it in soup, a casserole, or a stir-fry, and those vegetables can be hard to turn away. “Number Salad” is a fun recipe idea for kids to make. Did you know there is even a sweet potato chocolate cake? If you are really ambitious and already have experience cooking in the kitchen, click here for the recipe. Lucy really likes chocolate and this cake is a winner in her book. Sometimes learning to like vegetables and other healthy foods is just a matter of finding some recipes or preparation methods to make it a meal that one can appreciate and look forward to repeating.
Finally, remember no matter how healthy one eats, portion control is still important. We tend to pig out more on the junk foods or when eating out. Portion control tends to be easier when eating healthier foods. |
| I want to lose weight specifically in my thighs! |
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=> im kinda overweight but i lost like 4 or 5 pounds. My hardest spot to lose weight is my thighs. what my question is, is what was the best way for you to lose weight in your thighs?
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You can not “spot” reduce weight in specific areas of your body. Many girls would like to get rid of fat in the thighs, buttocks, and stomach because those body areas are where fat tends to accumulate. In males, fat mostly goes to the mid-section. However, if you lose weight, some fat will come off of those high fat areas anyway.
Many people may refer to “toning” as a way to improve appearance in certain parts of the body. Toning is another word for building muscle mass, which is obtained by doing weight bearing exercises. Increasing muscle mass and definition can improve the appearance of the body. However, muscle definition is difficult to see unless the body fat has been reduced to within the healthy range. |
| How can I get the motivation and energy to lose weight? |
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=> hey, i need help finding the energy and motovation to loss weight. Can you help?
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Many people know how to lose weight through exercise and healthy eating, but still find it challenging to make any progress towards weight loss. Finding the motivation for losing weight can be tough work!
The Motivation March can help you focus on specific goals to get you started in losing weight. Each week, pick one or two things to change in your life that you think will help shed some pounds (or stones). For example, cutting the number of sodas you drink in half or walking 10 minutes in your neighborhood each day. Ask yourself how confident you are in making the change. Go through a pro/con list for these changes. Then, keep track of your work. Reward yourself when you are successful (just not with food)!
In addition, support from friends, parents, or online motivational mates can also go a long ways towards building self esteem and the desire to lose weight. Consider posting on the bulletin boards or using our chat rooms if you find it helpful to share your struggles and knowledge with others. Monitoring your progress through your very own weight chart and allowing your results to appear on the weigh-in page should also provide the added incentive to keep making changes in your life to reach a healthy weight. We hope these tips help! |
| My parents split. I got depressed and started eating more. How can I stop this? |
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=> okay see when my parents split i got depressed and started eating i didnt want to but everytime i dont eat what i want when i want im really grumpy i mean ive been losing weight nut its like that yo yo diet i do good then b/c i lose weight i seem to pack it pack on like one week im 210 then the next im 190 its weird i love who i am and what i look like i just want to feel healtheir and happy again like i used to be how can i control my eating without being depressed and a total jerk to everyone around me?
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It sounds like you may be eating to numb the feelings of depression. Eating for feelings instead of hunger happens a lot. This is called “comfort eating” where people use food in an attempt to cover up such feelings as boredom, stress, depression, anxiety, anger, loneliness, frustration, and nervousness. While food does provide some pleasant feelings, (especially sweet or salty foods), it is a short-term fix that does not address the underlying problem. Instead, as you acknowledge, comfort eating is making you too heavy and damaging your health.
We think you might find the 10 steps in “Giving Away and Grieving Your Friend Food” helpful in breaking this habit and changing your relationship with food for the better. Especially important is step #8, where you write down a few ideas of things you can do INSTEAD of eating to help make you feel better when you are depressed. Here is a list of ideas for things to do instead of eating . You might also like the Comfort Eating bulletin board where other kids and teens post their struggles and successes in overcoming their urge to comfort eat. You are not alone and this board may help provide extra support with a network of other kids experiencing the same challenges with food. |
| How much should I weigh? |
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=> 1) Hi Lucy, Im 15 years old, 5'5" and weigh around 130 lbs. i think this is over weight. If so, by how much?
=> 2) I am 12, 5foot 6 and 11stone 8. my dad said that my weight is prerfict for my hight but my mum said that i am verry over weight,what do you think
=> 3) How much should a 13 year old girl weigh if she's 5ft 2
=> 4) I weigh 135lbs. And I'm 1 amlost 12 is that good
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1) You are within the healthy weight range. 
2) Your mom is right; you are obese. As a girl, the healthy weight range for your height and age is 92 pounds (6 stone 8 pounds) to 139 pounds (9 stone 13 pounds), give or take several pounds at either end of the range depending on whether you just turned 12, or soon to turn 13.
3) At 13 years, 0 months, the healthy weight range for a 5' 2" girl is 84 to 123 pounds (38 to 56 kilograms). At 13 years, 11 months, the healthy weight range for a 5' 2" girl is 86 to 127 pounds (39 to 58 kilograms).
4) I don’t know. It depends on your height. Please visit our weight calculator to find out. |
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