 Help! I'm getting teased about my weight! |
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=> I desperately need help!!!I`m 12yrs old and 173lb.Can you help me?I get made fun of everyday at school, plus i dont want to even swim anymore because im so big and i dont want people to be looking at me the whole time just because im big.I want them to look at me and be able to say "hey you look awsome!"
=> Hi!I just love this website with all the cool tips and all.But I am getting tired of being overweight. I want to be at my normal weight. I don't eat a lot but I keep gaining. And Friday, this kid in my class made fun of me and asked me if I liked to eat just because I was biting on my nails. I am 12 years old and 196 pounds.Please give me tips or a guide to succseful weight loss.
=> my story is that alot of pepole have make frun of me even my brother talks about me to his friends. so wiz can you please give me tips and ideas thats how could loose weight.
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 It is no fun being teased, especially about one’s weight. Here are a few ideas for dealing with peers and siblings who may tease you.
* Talk with a friend of the person who teases you and ask them to talk with the teaser to see they can be convinced to stop.
* Join a club or team sport that you will enjoy. This is a great way to allow people to get to know you better beyond outside appearances.
* Every day, write down something that you are proud of what you did. Negative thoughts from teasing will be reduced by bringing out these positive thoughts and feelings.
* Always remember, teasing is NOT your fault! People who tease only do so because they are insecure themselves.
For a full list of ideas on how to deal with teasing, visit Lucy’s Tip on Teasing at school.
The Healthy Weight School on our site helps explain how to break the habit of overeating. Within this section, please visit How Do I Lose Weight to see if you can relate to the causes of overeating and learn more about methods to effectively break this habit.
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| I’m overweight and suffer from low self-esteem. What should I do? |
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=> i am only a little overweight but i want to lose weight so badly because i don't have good self esteem right now. But I can't help the urge to eat sweets like icecream. I could use some help.
=> I am 12. I'm really tall and i have a lot of belly fat. I wouldn't really call myself "fat" just kinda chubby. All my best friends are really thin and i feel like i'm the outcast in a way. I don't want to be jelous or feel like their better than me in any way, but i do. i Wear a size 11 jeans and most of my friends are a sizev 8 or 9. I just want to be able to look in the mirror at myself and feel beautiful. The worst part is, i never have enough energy to work out. I'm always so tired. and my diet mainly consists of chips and dip. Please help me!!!
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Have you heard of "The Tale of Two Tanks"? In summary, the red tank is for food to fuel our bodies. The blue tank, on the other hand, holds the fuel to feel good about ourselves. Food does NOT go in the blue tank. Instead, letting out uncomfortable feelings and replacing them with activities that make us feel good about ourselves keeps the blue tank at healthy levels.
Feelings that many of us need to let out include jealousy, loneliness, embarrassment, boredom, and stress. Here are more examples of uncomfortable feelings that you may need to let out. Now, plan on some activities that many kids and teens say help them keep their blue tank full. Here is a list of ideas for your blue tank to get you started. Raising your self esteem can in turn help increase the chances for your success with weight loss. |
| How much am I supposed to weigh? |
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=> WHAT IS THE WEIGHT OF A 5'5 PERSON SUPOSE TO BE
=> lucy my mom says im not overweight (fat) but when i look at myself i am and i dont know what to do
=> Alright. So Im 13 years old...about 153 lbs. Im 5'3 and Im just a bit overweight. Im sposed to weigh in between 130-145...i think. I would really like to weigh about
120-130? Any ideas on how to lose it? I dont really care how long it takes to lose it....I just want the extra baggage GONE.
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The best way to figure out your appropriate weight range is by visiting our BMI calculator page. Basically the BMI number helps show the degree to which you are fat or thin. Higher BMI numbers mean you have more fat relative to your height. To use the BMI calculator, plug in your age, sex, height, and weight. Depending on your statistics, you will then learn if you are within the healthy weight range, overweight, or obese.
If you are overweight or obese, please discuss the results with a health care professional like your doctor or school nurse to see what approach to weight loss may be best for you. Sometimes, if you are only a little overweight and are still growing, the safest strategy may be to just maintain your weight while you grow taller. But other kids may find themselves already in the obese category and taking more active steps towards weight loss should be pursued. Visit our healthy weight school to learn more about losing weight. View the bulletin boards and chat rooms specific to your age group where you might find additional social support to help you achieve your goals. Review the rules for our chat rooms and bulletin boards here. |
| I’m physically active, but I am still overweight. Help! |
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=> im 14 years old i play sports all year round. I don't mean to brag but im a very athletic person always doing some thing and i have an incredible amount of muscle in my legs arms and stomach but i also have about 3 inch thick layer of fat on my stomach and i have extra skin on my arms and legs and i really want to get rid of it i have no clue how to i went from barely eating anything from being obsessed with running every day and not having time to do school work and my grades going down. This did all start by my family getting we fit and it told me i was over wieght. however i am 5'4 and 156lbs and i am a fourteen year old girl
=> I think I'm really fat people say I'm not but I think I am. I do a lot of sports and I know I have mucules but I think I sahold a least lose 25-30 lbs. What should I do?
=> I'm 13 and i think I'm overweight. I'm about 183 pounds and i really want to lose waight. I love sports I play everyone imagineable but i'm still overweight i need help.
=> Hey Lucy. I'm 6'0" and about 240. I am thankful for being tall because it hides some of my weight. I can exercise, that is no problem. But when it comes to eating thats my weakness. What am I doing wrong? What can I do to control or even stop my uncontrollable eating?
=> Hi, Lucy! I don't think I'm too overweight, but it's embarrasing and I think I get laughed at occaisionally. Is there a small diet you can suggest for me? I'm also extremely athletic. Can you please help?
=> I am in highschool.So i decided to run track but after i run im so hungry so i eat alot of food but i want to stop and look great for the summer,plus im tall so i want to be tall and have great legs and stomach..but how can i do this?
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It’s great to hear that so many of you are physically active, but as you’ve found, it can be very difficult to lose weight through exercise alone. Successful weight loss is usually done through a combination of increasing physical activity and decreasing your caloric intake. Look under the food icon on the front page, and there you will see how far one has to walk to burn off the calories of different foods. For example, a typical fast food meal of a cheeseburger, fries, and coca cola drink, would require one to walk 10 miles to burn off all the calories of the meal! Of course, your body does use up some calories while at rest and sleeping, but this is relatively small. Thus, if you are not careful in your food choices, it is easy to eat many more calories than you burn, even if you are physically active.
Keep up the exercise! But please visit our healthy school to learn to identify the reasons you may be over-eating: boredom, stress, loneliness, anger, depression or some other emotional reason, or even cravings and addictions to certain types of food are common causes. In this section, you will also find many tips on how to deal with these feelings more effectively than using food to temporarily make you feel better. |
| Does short term use of steroids cause weight gain? |
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=> I am overweight since I was five. I became overweight when i was four because my doctor had put me on medicinal steroids for my asthma. Well I was suppose to take them for five days but the pharmacy had put on the bottle five weeks. So on the third week my mom had took me off of them. Because I had gained a lot of weight. So I am 16 now, and I have had this weight problem since. I have not had the luxury of being normal and doing things a normal kid could of growing up. I am currently around 300lbs. I am trying to loose this weight, but its not working as much as I would want it to be. I need some help. What can I do?
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Usually people need to be on long term steroid therapy, such as several months to years, before there is a noticeable side effect of weight gain. It is unlikely that significant and lasting weight gain can be attributed to a few days, or even weeks, of steroid use as a child. You may want to check with your physician to rule out any chronic medical side effects as a consequence of steroid use as a child.
Otherwise, you are facing similar challenges in trying to lose weight as many other overweight kids your age. Browse through Lucy's Tips to find topics and strategies that you can relate to and implement. You can also join Lucy on her Wednesday evening chats 4pm Eastern time where you can ask questions in real time and learn how other kids are dealing with their weight loss challenges. |
| I don’t know how to lose weight. |
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=> i am overweight and i need to lose weight. but i dont know how to lose weight. i weight 210 lbs. i am only 11 and im tall. i want to be as skinny as my friends. is it possible to wiegh 90 pounds at 5ft tall
=> Hi i am a freshman i weigh 175lb and i dont know to loose weight everthing i hace tried does not work for me can you give me some ideas how to loose weight.
=> How can I not be Overweighted?
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Eating more than we need can be bad habit and often it develops at an early age. Habits can be hard to break, but they can be broken little by little with persistence. Breaking this habit involves identifying the reasons you are overeating. Do you find that you are reaching for extra snacks when you are bored? Stressed? Lonely? Angry? Depressed? Food is a common way to deal with these unpleasant feelings because we feel good for the short time while we are eating, although the good feeling is short lived and the side effect is weight gain. Instead, try to find ways to deal with the unpleasant thoughts and boredom by using alternative activities such as calling a friend, going on a walk, or starting a new hobby such as painting or building a model railroad set. Visit the How Do I Lose Weight? section within our Healthy Weight School to learn more about to break this bad habit. |
| What does being anorexic mean? |
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=> Hi lucy. Im 12 years old, and weigh 6 stone (84 lb.). I find this very worrying, even though I am 5 foot tall. I am quite skinny but feel like i have to lose weight. I know that I am not anorexic because I eat, but i find myself counting calories and feeling ill before every meal. No matter what anyone says, I still feel like i need to lose weight but i want to do it in a safe way. I cannot let my parents know!
any tips?
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Based on your height, weight, and age, you are within the healthy weight range. In fact you are at the lower end of the healthy weight range, so losing weight may drop you into the underweight category. You can use our weight calculator to see what weight ranges are appropriate for you as you grow.
Even people who are anorexic eat. Many people with this type of eating disorder may think they are fat when they are really underweight. Anorexia nervosa is particularly dangerous in the growing years since undernutrition may cause damage to the bones, heart, and other vital organs. Girls with anorexia stop having menstrual periods, for example.
Anorexia typically starts out as a distorted body image. The child or teen believes he/she is overweight, even though online weight calculators say this is not true. Anorexia is often tied to the issue of control. For example, severely restricting food intake can serve as a means of controlling other people. One common situation anorexic nervosa patients face are extremely strict parents. If a child feels too suppressed by their parents or others, one way they may try to exert their own power is by manipulating the one thing that others can’t control – their own food intake.
Obviously, people with anorexia nervosa should not try to deal with this eating disorder by themselves. If you feel uncomfortable talking with your parents, look for another trusted adult such as a school nurse, teacher, mental health counselor, or a family friend. Our eating disorders web page has additional web resources. |
| How do I get motivated to lose weight? |
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=> i just wanted to know first do you have any ideas on ways to help me because i am the kind of person who says i will start tomorrow and then tomorrow comes and i say the next. Also my second problem is that my mom who really is the one who wants me to lose the weight because i dont like talking about it with my friends.... but anyways she is very discouraging when i say i cant go to the gym she always will reply with something like fine be on medicines at 14 or ok just keep getting bigger and bigger. please help me i feel so stuck i really do want to lose the weight but i feel like there are so many obstacles in my way!
=> i live in Mississippi. Down here sports i a really big thing. i weigh 230 lbs and id like to try and lose some weight to become something better than a 4th string offensive lineman and maybe make the baseball team. id like to try and lose 80 lbs.
=> i here really want to lose my belly fat for my birthday that is coming real soon. i will be 12, so of course that means now i am 11
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Whether one is losing weight for health reasons, sports, or wanting to look better for a special occasion such as a birthday, we are usually frustrated with finding the motivation to make the steps necessary to lose those extra pounds. Making changes to our eating habits and activity levels is hard work because they can represent big changes in our lives.
First, you many want to outline the reasons why you do want to lose weight AND the reasons why you don’t want to lose weight. Lucy wrote down her own chart of pros and cons to losing weight here. Filling out the chart helped Lucy to reflect on how making lifestyle changes may be hard, but it also made it less scary. Going through this process motivated Lucy to set some small doable goals that added up to significant weight loss over time. For instance, for the first few weeks, she decided to reduce the amount of soda pop she drank from two to one can per a day. After she achieved that goal, she then cut down soda pop to one can per a week and then finally none! Drinking enough fluids is important so Lucy started to drink more water, milk, and tea instead of soda pop. She also chose to start walking 15 minutes three times per a week. Once she achieved that, she felt motivated to try walking 30 minutes three times per a week. These small changes added up over time. Chose goals that YOU are interested in and that you feel confident in achieving.
Even though some kids may be reluctant to talk about weight problems with friends, you might reconsider after learning about how you can get A Little Help From Your Friends. |
| Sometimes I feel so hopeless about losing weight. |
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=> hi lucy. i am 11 and i weigh 172 lbs. i have lots of friends, so i should think who cares i have friends and seem happy but when i look at myself in the mirror i hate what i see. I’ve only lost a couple pounds and i felt amazing, like i could lose more weight
but then i look in the mirror, and im trying on clothes, and i think im never gunna lose weight
but you changed my mind. i now just realized that it takes a while but if i work hard and believe in myself i can do it.
so thank you. YOU ARE MY INSPIRATION!!
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You are right: believing in yourself, working hard, and patience are important attributes in successful weight loss. We can’t be perfect, but we can learn from our mistakes and be stronger as a result of them. A big part of trying to lose weight is learning to effectively deal with the thoughts that run through our heads. When faced with huge challenges, we are sometimes overwhelmed with negative thoughts and fall into the trap of “all or nothing” thinking. For example, one might think, “I just had four pieces of pizza for lunch. I’ve screwed up for today and so I might as well eat junk food the rest of the day.” Instead, replace disparaging thoughts with a more balanced attitude such as, “I ate four slices of pizza for lunch. I am going to drink lots of water until dinner time and go for a walk this evening.”
Click here to learn more on how to deal with Stinkin' Thinkin': All or nothing! |
| I am getting teased about my weight and I hate it! |
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=> i am a 11. i am really obese and i am soo fat and wobbly. i weigh just under 14 stone and i am a size 14 but my 4 lawers of fat still hang out. people call me fatty and big mama. i have stretch marks on it all. im soo upset
=> i am overweight and i really dont like it people at school make fun of me and laugh at me when i am walking up the stairs cause i am always out of breath and i really dont like it.
=> i am 12 and weigh 190 people always make fun of me and i hate it. i see all these skinny girls and i want to be like them, and i really like this guy but i am too fat for him. and i eat too much i cant help it, i have to eat ALL the time! plz help me wat did u do??
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Teasing is very common during school age years, especially for children who are overweight. People who do the teasing usually do so out of their own insecurities. This may not seem obvious at first, but if people were truly comfortable with their own lives, why would they go to the trouble of putting other people down? Although they may not realize it, most people who tease are trying to make themselves feel better at the expense of making someone else look or feel bad. This usually backfires in the long run, although it may take many years before they recognize and regret their bullying or teasing. In the meantime, there are ways to successfully cope with teasing when you encounter it. For example, ignoring remarks or smiling or joking when teased will probably confuse bullies and force them to reconsider their taunts. Click here to see more Lucy Tips on Teasing.
Self Esteem Start-up Kits can also help you deal with teasing as well as all the other challenges that often come with trying to lose weight. Start your kit today by writing down three things that you enjoyed during the day or that you like about yourself.
If you feel like your eating is out of control and “can’t help it”, you are not alone. Many overweight kids report similar feelings and often find themselves eating due to stress, loneliness, depression, anger, boredom, sadness, or any of the other negative feelings that we are all prone to experience periodically. Many of these negative feelings can be brought on by teasing. Visit our Healthy Weight School to learn more about how comfort eating can cause weight gain. |
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