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 My friends are skinny

=> I am 12 years old, and I am 199 pounds, what should I do? I want to be just like my friends, and they are skinny, and I am fat, what should I do, so I can be like them?

=> i am fat i am 130lbs and 11 year old all my friends r skinny and i am fat they all are like 8 and 10- 12 and i am 16- 18 help me i am really scared 2 wear anything that shows my tummy or anything.

 First, remember that your friends like you because of who you are, not for how much you weigh. Not feeling like “the heavy friend” is all about attitude and self esteem. Keep in mind that all of your friends are different from each other, and you each bring something unique and special to your group.

People who are overweight are usually more prone to cravings, or eating due to emotional issues. This type of eating gives us pleasure while we are eating, but over time, we find we need more and more of the food to obtain the same feeling. Check out this tip about food addiction to find out more.

If you are ready to lose weight, your friends would probably love to help you along that path. If you feel comfortable talking to them, ask them to go for walks with you, spend an afternoon bowling or playing active video games (such as Wii), or have a kitchen day where you plan and prepare healthy snacks together that you can freeze for use when you need them. Here are some more ways you can ask your friends to help you on your journey to improved health. Good luck!


 Boredom eating and fast weight loss

=> i know im over weight but i have a problem that its not really cavings but just eating out of boredom and cause it taste good i try running and exercising but its not working as quick as i would actually like it too and my weight is a big problem so is there any way i could lose weight quickly and stop my horrible eating habits

 Rapid weight loss is not the safest method to lose weight, and it has been shown that weight loss that occurs gradually tends to stay off. It is generally considered safe to lose 1-2 pounds per week.

We don’t lose weight when we are consuming more calories than our bodies need. It sounds like you are active and exercising, which is an excellent start. If you find that you are eating out of boredom and even when you are not hungry, you may be using food to cover up emotions. This emotional eating becomes a habit, but habits can be broken with effort and patience. Try to plan ahead to deal with this situation by using something other than food to make yourself feel better. For example, if you are bored when you get home from school, keep a list handy of other things you could do instead of reaching for that snack. Go for a walk, draw or paint, chat with a friend. Of course, if you are truly hungry, you should eat a healthy snack, and always make sure you are drinking enough water. Ask your mom to pick up some healthy snacks that are easy to keep in the cupboard for just such a moment rather than chips or cookies.

Check out this previous tip about how to stop boredom eating to learn more.


 Feeling bad about not being able to lose weight.

=> I feel like a failure, I'm always trying to lose weight but I can't and if I do I always pile it back on and a really like this boy but I cannot approach him at the size I am.

=> Kids at school don't like me cause i'm overweight and they don't even know me all they see is the outside not the inside. what do i do to show them the inside of me?

=> Lucy, I give up. There is no way I can lose weight. I've tried for so long, and nothing works. I feel so depressed b/c I'm so fat. I need help!!!!

 First of all, you are not a failure when you do not lose weight! It is important to keep trying, over and over, as research shows that the more times people try, the better chance they have of losing weight. I know you can do it. Believing in yourself is part of the journey, along with hard work and patience.

fun exerciseMany people who feel they are too heavy use their weight to identify who they are as a person. You are much more than what you weigh. Remember, you are a unique and special person. It sounds like you need more confidence, but if you work at it, over time you can build up your confidence level.

HOW TO BUILD UP YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE

1. Start writing down things you like about yourself or things you have accomplished every day in a notebook or on the computer.

2. Write down the things you are talented in or have an interest in.

3. Read what you write down EVERY DAY and believe it!

Take the leap and join a group or take a class you have an interest in. You will then meet others with the same interests. Focusing on the interests you have in common will allow others to get to know the real you.

Over time, you will feel better about yourself, and you will show yourself to others as a more confident person that they will want to get to know better. Before you know it, that boy you like might just approach you. Good luck!

Click Self Esteem Tip and also here for more information on self esteem.


 How to lose weight?

=> hi i need to lose weight my sister calls me fat because my tummy i need to lose weight

=> I just started transition years and everyone knows I like a lad but he only goes for skinner girls i did the bmi test and i am over weight as i already knew but i want to loose weight for me too so if there is anyway that can happen please let me know

=> I AM 13 AND I WEIGHT 193 AND EVERYBODY SAY IM OVERWEIGHT FOR MY AGE EVEN MY DOCTOR AND I REALLY WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT BT I DONT KNOW HOW SO I WAS WOUNDERING COULD YOU HELP ME GET MY WEIGHT DOWN TO 110...THANK YOU LUCY

=> I'm over weight, and I want to loose it, but I don't know how! I've been searching on google and I have started doing those things. I don't care about what people say about me, I don't care when I hear the other girls saying, "She's so fat,". But deep down I do care! But as I've grown up, I don't want to talk to it with my Mum or Dad because I'm embarresed to say it. Please would you tell me some ways, please!

=> Hi Lucy, What are some easy ways to lose weight?

=> hi im 12 years old and my weight is 53kg i want yo lose weight before my family comes for the summer how can i lose in so little time?

 This is a very common question among teens and adults alike. Unfortunately, there is no fast and easy way to lose weight. A good general rule for safe weight loss is 1-2 pounds per week.

Overeating is a habit, or addiction, and often is associated with certain feelings. To stop overeating, start thinking about the reasons you snack or eat large portions. Do you look for foods that fuel your body with energy, or do you seek out foods that give you pleasure? Some foods that make us crave them more are chocolate, chips, cookies, French fries and pizza.

Ask yourself "Am I really hungry, or am I bored, stressed, or something else?" Learn to recognize the feelings that cause you to overeat. Once you recognize this, substitute other activities that give you pleasure instead of reaching for that snack. Examples of other things to do would include riding your bike, taking the dog for a walk, reading a book, dancing to your favorite music, calling a friend, take some pictures, or drawing. What would you put on your list of things to do instead of eating?

Set goals for yourself. If you need to lose 50 pounds, start with a smaller goal so that you can see success. Tell yourself you will lose 3 pounds over the next 2 weeks. When you reach that goal, set a new goal. Reaching the smaller goals will motivate you to continue.

Weight loss takes time, effort and patience. You may not actually see results right away, but if you keep at it, I know you can do it!

Once you are ready to begin, take a trip over to our Healthy Weight School for more information and tips.


 How do I know if I'm overweight? How do I convince my friends?

=> I need to lose weight. About 30 pounds to be precise, but I dont look that fat and my friends think im mad trying to lose weight. I tell them i neeed to, and i want their support but they just wont except im fat. They think im lying even though im a good 1 or 2 stone heavier than them Do you have any ideas on how i can make them belive im overweight and that i need support.

=> i want to lose weight! first because i like this guy at my school and he really likes me back!but he can like me even more.. it just i think it because of my weight! i aint that fat but i mean if i can lose more weight! so can you please tell me some tips! for home and school! please help me as soon as possible!! bye!

=> how do i know if i'm overweight? i tend to eat alot of food. i need help on how to stop as well

 ouchSome children think they are overweight when they are actually in the range for normal based on their age, sex, height and weight.

Check out the weight calculator to see if you are overweight. Once you have determined if you are overweight, see this page to learn how to start losing weight.


 Cow's milk vs soy milk to lose weight

=> My friend has lost a lot of weight after switching from skimmed cows milk to low fat soya milk. Should I consider this too as I am desperate to lose weight?

 Lower fat and calorie food and drink choices are part of an overall healthy diet. If you are currently drinking skim milk, switching to a low fat soy milk alone will not make you lose weight. However, if you are drinking whole milk or 2%, a change to a low fat milk beverage would be a good choice for you. Weight loss will occur if low or non-fat milk is part of an overall healthy weight loss plan, including 3 healthy meals and 2 healthy snacks per day.

It’s a good idea to read the nutritional labels on the packages, as soy milk may not contain enough calcium for your bones to be healthy. Click this tip for information on reading nutritional labels:


 Teasing

=> Everyone teases me about my weight. All the time, and I'm getting sick of it. There's a boy in my class named "Abe". Abe is the school nurse's son, and also the teacher's pet. He gets away with calling me fat. I try to laugh it off, but it's getting annoying. The other day, he called me fat, I gave him a knuckle noogie(not hard) and he whined to the teacher about it. I tried to tell her that he called me fat, but she didn't want to hear it, and she said that I should've told her. She wouldn't have gotten Abe in trouble anyway! Help!

 Unfortunately, kids tease other kids about many things: clothes, hair, what kind of car their parents drive, and weight, just to name a few. If you weren't overweight, the bully would find something else to tease you about. Often, their goal is to get a reaction from the person they are teasing as they are insecure and it makes them feel better about themselves.

Teasing is very painful, and I know it’s hard, but if you can try to ignore the bully, he will no longer be getting the reaction he is looking for, and he will eventually get tired of you as a target.

Talk to a friend or a teacher you trust. Have you noticed the bully teases other kids? Approach those kids and hang out together. You can work together to stand up to the bully and make some new friends.

Click here for some other suggestions about dealing with teasing.


 High calorie and tempting foods

=> My mom bought these really tasty chickin strips. the problem is, they are 240 calories, and hav 24% protein. if i eat it, i will get 240 calories( bad ) and 24% protein ( good ) Lucy,i need ur help!!!

 It is great that you are reading the labels and identifying foods that are not as healthy for you. This is a big step in breaking the unhealthy food cycle. Many foods are made to make us want them more, and are very addictive. These foods are generally foods high in fat or sugar. It is hard to avoid these foods and to stop craving them, but you seem to be on the right track.

Ask your mom if you can shop with her, and read the labels at the store. Try to find a lower fat option (I have seen grilled chicken strips in the frozen section that also have a lot of protein, but less fat and calories and are great on salads and in sandwiches) I would guess the strips that your mom bought have a high percentage of fat also. If you do eat them, remember to watch your portions and balance them out with some fresh veggies or fruits.

Click this tip for information on Reading nutritional labels.


 How do I get motivated to exercise?

=> My mom says running is the best way to burn off weight but whenever i say im going to run i always say something like nah well maybe tomorrow or i dont feel like it how do i force myself?

=> I NEED HELP BECAUSE I AM FAT AN OVERWEIGHT. I WEIGH 162 OR 166 POUNDS AND I AM 4"10 INCHES TALL I NEED TO LOSE WIEGHT...CAN YOU HELP ME WITH MY EATING PROBLEMS AND EXECRISE

=> I really HATE exercizing and it seems like it never works any suggestions on how to make it more fun

=> I have weight issues.I'm 150 pounds and 5'4.I always feel bad and i want to know how to drop at least 20 to 30 pounds. My mom’s always nagging me about me being fatter than my friends. Honestly, I know I'm a little over weight but I just make excuses about exercising all the time. Can you PLEASE help me on how to lose weight and feel better about myself ?

 Just as it took a while for overeating to become a habit, it will take some time to develop the habit of being more active. Sometimes we "get down" on ourselves if we overeat or don't exercise one day, so we give up. Breaking the food addiction takes time, patience, and work. The key is don't give up and believe in yourself! Low self-esteem is a common concern among overweight teens, and even non overweight teens. Check out this tip for some ways to improve your self-esteem.

fun exerciseIdeally, exercise should be a combination of strength training (to build muscle) and aerobic activity (activity that raises your heart rate and is good for your heart and lungs). While running is a common form of exercise for many people, it is not for everyone. Some people have knee or foot pain that makes running not an option, or they may not want to be seen at the gym or out on the trails.

Decide on activities that are fun for you, and that you can do at home. It is important to “just do it” at first, even when you don’t feel like it. Find an exercise buddy, and work together to meet your goals. It is more fun to go for a walk if you have someone to chat with while you are doing it.

Start slow… dance to 3 upbeat songs, walk or run up and down a flight of stairs 2 times twice a day. Gradually increase the length of time to do these activities, and soon, you will notice you feel better and that you actually look forward to your “exercise.” It won’t seem like such an effort after all. If that seems too difficult at this time, you can “lift weights” while watching TV! Keep a couple of bottles of water by your favorite chair and use them as weights to do arm curls during commercials. Starting somewhere is better than not starting at all. Exercising even a little today, is better than waiting until tomorrow. Get going!!!

Click here to find some helpful websites on this subject.


 Overeating

=> I was wondering what i should do about eating to much

 This is a very common problem among teens. Do you eat when you aren’t hungry? Do you eat to feel better because of some way that you are feeling: bored? stressed? anxious? lonely? Overeating becomes a habit, just like smoking becomes a habit, or addiction.

A good way to start breaking the overeating habit is to write down in a notebook what you are feeling when you reach for food. Once you identify why you are eating, you can take steps to substitute a different activity for overeating.

This tip can help you BREAK THE OVEREATING HABIT. Good luck!

For more information on overeating and how to lose weight, visit our Healthy Weight School

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