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 How do I get my parents to understand that I want to lose weight?

=> How should I approach my parents about my wanting to lose weight? They are both overweight, so they don't take me seriously. Help please!

=> Hi lucy I have a big problem I would love to tell mum that I wiegh 139 and am obese but I can't tell her give me tips on how to tell her plz

 Losing weight is hard, but it can be easier with the help of family and friends. Your parents might not readily support you because of many reasons. They may not think you are overweight. Please see the weight calculator to see if you are overweight. If it shows that you are overweight, show them the weight calculator and explain your desire to get to a healthier weight.

Here are some ways to talk with your parents about your weight loss wishes.

Once you have talked with your parents, try to arrange some family activities that donít involve food. Go for a hike through a nearby park, take a spring bike ride, go swimming together or play some outdoor games. Let me know how it goes!


 Where do I get the willpower not to eat sweets?

=> Hi lucy. I am only 12 years old but yet everyone of my friends is thinner and better looking than me. everytime i say i'm not going to eat sweets i end up doing just that. how do i get willpower to have a healthy diet?

 Craving sweets or salty foods can often be a sign of a food addiction. When you reach for these foods, ask yourself if you are truly hungry or if you are eating to cover up an uncomfortable feeling.

Eating the foods you crave will temporarily make you feel better, but will cause you problems later on like increased weight gain and decreased self-esteem. If there are certain sweets that you repeatedly reach for, try to pick one of those foods and eliminate it completely from your diet. You may have intense cravings for a few weeks, but over time these should go away. Then pick another food that you seem to be addicted to and repeat the process.

Getting rid of the temptations by removing high calorie foods from your house should help. It is a good idea to let your parents know which foods you need help on eliminating so they donít keep buying these foods. Rid your house of them so you won't be tempted!

Here are some other ways to help with food cravings. Having a plan in place to handle food cravings is a great way to help with your willpower. Get started on a plan today. You can do it!


 I hate getting teased about the way I look! What do I do?

=> A couple kids in my class are making fun of me and telling me go exercise. I'm not overweight or anything but all the fat goes to my stomach so it's big. I thought about going for jogs and start eating less but then I thought maybe I should stay the same to show them that I'm not overweight and that I don't care what they say. What do you think I should do? I need HELP!!!

=> I was running on my track meet. This one girl who is not on my team. She says something very mean almost a year ago. She said to me you are weird. I did not know what to do but tell the coaches. Well almost a month she said mean to my friend who is helping me in my track meet. And she was running with me and the girl said to her why aren't we faster runners? that was meant in a mean way. What do I do if that happens again? And soemthing mean about my weight 3 weeks a go.

 Unfortunately, teasing or bullying is something many of us deal with when we are growing up. We get teased for many different things, but someone who is overweight is often on the receiving end. While this feels very hurtful, try to remember that someone who makes fun of others actually has low self-esteem and is trying to make themselves feel better. Their goal is to get a reaction from you.

Practice ignoring them at home, so when they tease you, you will know how you are going to respond. If she or he no longer gets a reaction from you, he will eventually get tired of using you as a target. Here are some more ways to deal with teasing.

If you are getting teased because you are overweight, but you donít think you are, make sure to visit the weight calculator.


 I can't lose weight or I gain it back.

=> Hi I am from england and I feel like a failure, I'm always trying to lose weight but I can't and if I do I always pile it back on and I really like this boy but I cannot approach him at the size I am. And by the way I am 15 years old and I am 13.13 stone (195 pounds)

=> i wanna be less fat but all the things i do doesnít work

=> Im 15 I weigh 120 but about three weeks ago i weighed 108... Why have i gained this weight so fast?

 Losing weight and keeping it off is a challenge many of us face at some point in our lives. You gain weight when you take in more calories than you burn off. Weight loss occurs when we reverse this. You can loose weight if you eat fewer calories and increase the number of calories you burn through physical activity.

Start by keeping track of what you eat and how much. You might be surprised to see that you are actually eating much more than you think you are. If you are gaining weight rapidly and truly are not overeating, your physician should be consulted to help you determine a possible cause of your weight gain.

Think about why you overeat. Are you stressed out? Bored? Depressed? Suffering from low self-esteem? High calorie foods are often eaten as comfort foods rather than as fuel for our bodies. Try to find lower fat alternatives to these foods, and find things that you can do instead of turning to food.

Check out this page for tips for weight loss success. Start substituting activities for food and GET MOVING!! Even walking helps start you on your weight loss journey. You can do it!!!


 Parents won't help. What do I do?

=> what if you have no body to help you all there is in the house to eat is junk food. nobody to encourage you i am 11 years old and 183 pounds. what do i do and i have nobody to talk to no friends no parents no exsersize stuff and idont know wat to do.

 Kids on the bulletin boards and in the chat rooms can provide support and help. Most schools have counselors that can help.

Try to avoid the areas where the junk food is kept.

Even though your house has only junk food to eat, if you can learn to eat less of it you can still lose weight.

At meals put less of it on your plate to start with and no second helpings. A smaller plate also helps.

Smelling a gross smell, looking at something moldy, or tasting something gross while eating the junk food may help you to like it less. You can make a gross smell and taste by letting some milk go sour and keep it in a small jar.


 How do I keep a healthy weight?

=> I sometimes see food and eat it. I have issues with food in front me. I get really scared of gaining more weight.

=> This JESSICA's question: well whats the best way to loose and inch or so off of your stomach? i wanna be a size 2 in pants again.):

=> what is the average food that a 11 year old girl should eat?

=> WOW! When I used the weight calculater it said I was average and am not to overweight but am still fat. Every one says I am fat...so can you give me a good tip of turning skinny? please! P.S. Am a 11year old girl

 Some children think they are overweight when they are actually in the range for normal based on their age, sex, height and weight.

Check out the weight calculator to see if you are underweight, healthy weight, overweight, or obese. Once you have determined if you are overweight, see this page to learn how to start losing weight.

For some general information about recommended calorie intake and exercise levels for your age, check out the Calorie Capers Tip.

Regular exercise is good for everyone, whether you are overweight or not. See the Exercise Smart Tip for information about the importance of regular exercise.


 My friends are skinny

=> I am 12 years old, and I am 199 pounds, what should I do? I want to be just like my friends, and they are skinny, and I am fat, what should I do, so I can be like them?

=> i am fat i am 130lbs and 11 year old all my friends r skinny and i am fat they all are like 8 and 10- 12 and i am 16- 18 help me i am really scared 2 wear anything that shows my tummy or anything.

 First, remember that your friends like you because of who you are, not for how much you weigh. Not feeling like ďthe heavy friendĒ is all about attitude and self esteem. Keep in mind that all of your friends are different from each other, and you each bring something unique and special to your group.

People who are overweight are usually more prone to cravings, or eating due to emotional issues. This type of eating gives us pleasure while we are eating, but over time, we find we need more and more of the food to obtain the same feeling. Check out this tip about food addiction to find out more.

If you are ready to lose weight, your friends would probably love to help you along that path. If you feel comfortable talking to them, ask them to go for walks with you, spend an afternoon bowling or playing active video games (such as Wii), or have a kitchen day where you plan and prepare healthy snacks together that you can freeze for use when you need them. Here are some more ways you can ask your friends to help you on your journey to improved health. Good luck!


 Boredom eating and fast weight loss

=> i know im over weight but i have a problem that its not really cavings but just eating out of boredom and cause it taste good i try running and exercising but its not working as quick as i would actually like it too and my weight is a big problem so is there any way i could lose weight quickly and stop my horrible eating habits

 Rapid weight loss is not the safest method to lose weight, and it has been shown that weight loss that occurs gradually tends to stay off. It is generally considered safe to lose 1-2 pounds per week.

We donít lose weight when we are consuming more calories than our bodies need. It sounds like you are active and exercising, which is an excellent start. If you find that you are eating out of boredom and even when you are not hungry, you may be using food to cover up emotions. This emotional eating becomes a habit, but habits can be broken with effort and patience. Try to plan ahead to deal with this situation by using something other than food to make yourself feel better. For example, if you are bored when you get home from school, keep a list handy of other things you could do instead of reaching for that snack. Go for a walk, draw or paint, chat with a friend. Of course, if you are truly hungry, you should eat a healthy snack, and always make sure you are drinking enough water. Ask your mom to pick up some healthy snacks that are easy to keep in the cupboard for just such a moment rather than chips or cookies.

Check out this previous tip about how to stop boredom eating to learn more.


 Feeling bad about not being able to lose weight.

=> I feel like a failure, I'm always trying to lose weight but I can't and if I do I always pile it back on and a really like this boy but I cannot approach him at the size I am.

=> Kids at school don't like me cause i'm overweight and they don't even know me all they see is the outside not the inside. what do i do to show them the inside of me?

=> Lucy, I give up. There is no way I can lose weight. I've tried for so long, and nothing works. I feel so depressed b/c I'm so fat. I need help!!!!

 First of all, you are not a failure when you do not lose weight! It is important to keep trying, over and over, as research shows that the more times people try, the better chance they have of losing weight. I know you can do it. Believing in yourself is part of the journey, along with hard work and patience.

fun exerciseMany people who feel they are too heavy use their weight to identify who they are as a person. You are much more than what you weigh. Remember, you are a unique and special person. It sounds like you need more confidence, but if you work at it, over time you can build up your confidence level.

HOW TO BUILD UP YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE

1. Start writing down things you like about yourself or things you have accomplished every day in a notebook or on the computer.

2. Write down the things you are talented in or have an interest in.

3. Read what you write down EVERY DAY and believe it!

Take the leap and join a group or take a class you have an interest in. You will then meet others with the same interests. Focusing on the interests you have in common will allow others to get to know the real you.

Over time, you will feel better about yourself, and you will show yourself to others as a more confident person that they will want to get to know better. Before you know it, that boy you like might just approach you. Good luck!

Click Self Esteem Tip and also here for more information on self esteem.


 How to lose weight?

=> hi i need to lose weight my sister calls me fat because my tummy i need to lose weight

=> I just started transition years and everyone knows I like a lad but he only goes for skinner girls i did the bmi test and i am over weight as i already knew but i want to loose weight for me too so if there is anyway that can happen please let me know

=> I AM 13 AND I WEIGHT 193 AND EVERYBODY SAY IM OVERWEIGHT FOR MY AGE EVEN MY DOCTOR AND I REALLY WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT BT I DONT KNOW HOW SO I WAS WOUNDERING COULD YOU HELP ME GET MY WEIGHT DOWN TO 110...THANK YOU LUCY

=> I'm over weight, and I want to loose it, but I don't know how! I've been searching on google and I have started doing those things. I don't care about what people say about me, I don't care when I hear the other girls saying, "She's so fat,". But deep down I do care! But as I've grown up, I don't want to talk to it with my Mum or Dad because I'm embarresed to say it. Please would you tell me some ways, please!

=> Hi Lucy, What are some easy ways to lose weight?

=> hi im 12 years old and my weight is 53kg i want yo lose weight before my family comes for the summer how can i lose in so little time?

 This is a very common question among teens and adults alike. Unfortunately, there is no fast and easy way to lose weight. A good general rule for safe weight loss is 1-2 pounds per week.

Overeating is a habit, or addiction, and often is associated with certain feelings. To stop overeating, start thinking about the reasons you snack or eat large portions. Do you look for foods that fuel your body with energy, or do you seek out foods that give you pleasure? Some foods that make us crave them more are chocolate, chips, cookies, French fries and pizza.

Ask yourself "Am I really hungry, or am I bored, stressed, or something else?" Learn to recognize the feelings that cause you to overeat. Once you recognize this, substitute other activities that give you pleasure instead of reaching for that snack. Examples of other things to do would include riding your bike, taking the dog for a walk, reading a book, dancing to your favorite music, calling a friend, take some pictures, or drawing. What would you put on your list of things to do instead of eating?

Set goals for yourself. If you need to lose 50 pounds, start with a smaller goal so that you can see success. Tell yourself you will lose 3 pounds over the next 2 weeks. When you reach that goal, set a new goal. Reaching the smaller goals will motivate you to continue.

Weight loss takes time, effort and patience. You may not actually see results right away, but if you keep at it, I know you can do it!

Once you are ready to begin, take a trip over to our Healthy Weight School for more information and tips.

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