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 Is it hard to lose weight?

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 fruit displayLosing weight is hard for most people. After all, shedding pounds usually requires making changes in how we eat and exercise. Many kids have a set routine in the kinds and amounts of food they eat plus how active they are each day. Improving upon these habits takes a conscious effort and often many slip-ups before we start seeing success.

Some kids may have a more difficult time losing weight because they have a stronger addiction to their problem foods. Kids who participated in a poll about food addiction helped us to form a list of common problem foods. When kids find that they reach for the same junk foods over and over, they will probably require more effort to kick their junk food habit so that they can lose weight.


 Should I lose weight?

=> 1) i am 13 years old and am 5.4 feet tall and im about 126 pounds...... idk if im average or not.. i think i am healthy, but when i go to the girls section in clothing store, all the 13 years old clothes look too tight for me!

=> 2) Hi I was wondering if you are 10 yaers old a girl and 4"10 is 103.6 lbs. over weight?????Please help me !

=> 3) Is being 5'2 and 120 good ? Im a size 7 - 9 in jeans should i loose weight ? I run 5 days a week at school

=> 4) I'm 15 almost 16 year's old and I'm around 5'6. I play volleyball and softball, and i recently quit basketball. It's really hard because I've gained nearly 10 pounds since volleyball ended. I don't want to be 140 pounds i want to go back to 130, or even 125. I don't know if i'm over weight all I don't is my belly looks nasty and my legs are huge. I need HELP...

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1) You are neither underweight nor overweight according to health experts. You can confirm this by using our weight calculator and talking with your doctor.

2) You are overweight. Use our weight calculator and enter your current statistics (age, height, weight, sex) to see if you are still overweight. Then talk with your doctor to see if you need to start a weight loss plan or if "growing into your weight" may be a better option.

3) We don't know if you are overweight because you don't provide your age or sex. Use our weight calculator to find out.

4) You are neither underweight nor overweight. However, you are at the upper end of the healthy weight range so you may want to monitor your weight closely by using our weight calculator. Talk with your physician about whether your desire to drop to 130 or 125 pounds is appropriate for you at this time.


 Sad about being overweight/obese

=> I never thought I would get to the point where I had to call myself "overweight" but now my BMI says that I'm actually obese. I have been dieting since I'm about 8 years old, and this subject has become more of a trauma than anything else. I'm always sad because of my weight,I don't do stuff that I would actually like to do because of my insecurities like dancing in public, and because of this I HATE to be seen in public whether it's in the mall or at my school's play. I just hate myself, I feel that I would be such a different person if I lost weight. But the problem is that I have tried every single diet that you could imagine, Atkins, Weight Watchers, The Cayenne pepper cleanser, not eating, eating just rice, name it and I can tell you all about it. I just loose my patience when I see no changes, no immediate changes I just stop what ever diet I'm doing and start to eat again. It's just frustrating. I just lost all hope and don't know what things to do to loose this weight that is an emotional burden to me and affects everyone around me! please help me

 How we feel about ourselves can greatly affect our weight loss efforts. Some kids find that it's hard to lose weight until they change how they view themselves.

Here are some recent posts from the Success Board that show how a change in attitude can positively affect weight loss:

From allison, Age 14, female - 10/16/10
"i always had weight problums science i starded kindergarden. when i steped on the scale and it said 240 i couldent believe it.i kept on geting on and off to see if it was just a glich. but it still said 240. I stayed up crying all night. i couldent even think how i let myself go liker that. on that day i changed my thinking, i changed my bad habbits...
i was a size 18-20 pants, now iam a 16-14.
form a 52 inch waist to a 47.
i feel so much better. and i wnated this so i did it the healthy way !! "


From Ally13, Age 23, female - 09/10/10
"I tried pretty much every diet out there, without much or lasting success. It was only in 2009 when I realized that I hit my heaviest (204 lbs.) while meeting my future in-laws that I said enough. Since then, I've had a total mental turnaround which is always what I knew I'd need to accomplish my weight loss goals...
I'm 140 lbs. right now and my final goal is to be 115 lbs., so I still have some work to do, but I'm quite proud that I accomplished what I thought would be impossible. I feel and look so much better and I don't dread going out in public anymore =D. "

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It's important to not to let negative thoughts take over your life. Instead, next time you find yourself thinking a negative thought, tell yourself "Stop It!", and replace this negative thought with a positive one. Beware of the "black and white" thinking with weight loss, because no one can follow the steps to weight loss 100% correctly the first time. Weight loss is a matter of the small successes eventually outnumbering the setbacks. The following three tips from Lucy can help you create positive thoughts and make your weight loss easier.
You Are What You Think?
Stinkin' Thinkin'
Self Esteem Start Up Kits!

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 Do I have a food addiction? Am I overweight? Why do I eat out of boredom?

=> Q: food problem? do i have a food adiction? i am 13 and i weigh 159lbs and i always eat and sometimes when i am not hungary i eat and i eat at night when evertbody is asleep what can i do? i am 13 and i weigh 159lbs. i need to loose 19lbs and i can't will you help me?

=> q: i have a weight proble. 1: sometimes i eat when i'm not hungary 2: i weigh 159lbs. 3: is this overweight?

=> how much should i weigh? i'm 13 5'1\2 i weigh 165lbs.

=> i turn to food when i'm boared and all i do is eat and thats almost everyday i need help

 All of the above questions were submitted by the same child over a three month period, so Lucy thought it would be best to answer these questions together.

Although you provided your "statistics" (age, height, weight), whether you are a boy or a girl also matters. Use our Weight Calculator to learn if you are healthy weight, overweight, or obese. The Weight Calculator will also show how much you should weigh (a range) based on the data you enter, but talk with your doctor to make sure the weight range is right for you.
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If you turn to food when you are bored or you eat when you are not even hungry, then these could be signs of emotional eating. If you find that you often eat the same food or type of food when you have these unpleasant feelings, then this may also be a sign of a food addiction. Check out "How do I lose weight?" to learn more about how finding comfort in food often leads to overweight, and how to successfully deal with withdrawal symptoms when cutting out problem foods. For specific tips on how to quit certain foods, check out Saying Goodbye to the Food Drug.


 Stress and comfort eating. Tough childhood or parental pressure to blame for overeating?

=> Hello, I am an overweight 12 year old. I was in a home where my mother used drugs, and I was exposed to a bad lifestyle. I was really skinny then, until my grandparents adopted me and since I had near to no food before and ate whatever I could when there was any food. Once I was given food as I wasn't before I splurged I was really young then. Now as I get older that year or two of splurging has caught up with me. It doesn't help that I live now in a house of hoarding and that gets me even more stressed. I am now 5 feet 6 inches and in the mid 100's what do I do?

=> Hi Lucy, i have been trying to lose weight for 8 months. My parents are always pressuring me and I gets so annoying that they make me soo mad that I just stress eat, and that has made it very hard for me to make my weight goal... Please help me...

 Stress is a common problem for kids. It's an emotion that many children identify as the reason why they overeat. We can experience stress for different reasons, but many kids deal with it by eating more.
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One of you describes stress from living in a house that hoards, on top of an already stressful childhood. The second question reports stress from parents who may be nagging or badgering you about being overweight or for other reasons.

It is important to try to find ways to cope with stress other than eating. Some ideas include: painting your nails, calling a friend on the phone, listening to your favorite music, going on a walk or run, building paper airplanes, and writing a poem. For a longer list, click here. Visit our Kids Helping Kids page and the Comfort Eating Board to learn how other kids deal with stress.

If possible, one may also want to see if they can reduce the amount of stress in the first place. If you feel you experience problems from a troubled childhood, consider talking with your school counselor or another trusted adult about your feelings. If your parents are becoming overbearing, then you might find helpful pointers in this tip: "When Parents are Unsupportive and Siblings Tease".


 Asthma and Overweight

=> I'm 12 years old and I'm only 4 feet and 11 inches tall. I just found out I'm obese and I've been having breathing problems lately. I weigh 128 pounds and it gets worse eachday. Today i just ate a whole entire packet of shortbread cookies with fudge. We just baught them today and I finished it all. I hate vegtables and only like a few fruits. I'm obese but healthy. I play a lot of sports like basketball, volleyball, soccer, and swimming. All my pants don't fit me anymore so my mom has to buy me size 10 or 11. I use to be a size 5. I tried throwing up but my friends told me it's dangerous. Then I tried not to eat. At first I lost a lot of weight. I weighed 94 pounds but a teacher had a talk with me about the dangers of not eating. Please help I want to lose a lot of weight. I want to be at least 98 pounds maybe a little more. As long as I lose a lot of weight. PLEASE OH PLEASE HELP!!!

=> im 10 and i weigh 148 pounds and im the heavest kid in 5th grade my friends are allways saying god im soooo fat and i always say look at this and they all laugh and i have asthma and its really hard to run off my weight because when i have to stop to take my inhalor everyone laughs at me and i always watch the movie sandlot the 1st one and i think they most be nice not to tese ham about his weight and do you know how i can get down to 90 pounds in 10 days

 Girl Taking InhalerNeither of you mentioned it, but Lucy wants you to know that asthma symptoms worsen if one becomes overweight or obese. There are probably many reasons for this link between overweight and asthma. However, one of the main problems is excess fat cells inducing chronic inflammation (swelling tissues) within the body. This chronic inflammation, in turn, can increase the severity of asthma. The good news is that asthma symptoms decrease when kids lose excess weight.

Trying to lose weight by "throwing up" or "not eating" is dangerous, especially for kids who require many nutrients when their bodies are still growing and maturing. Attempting to "get down to 90 pounds in 10 days" when starting out at 148 pounds is unrealistic.

Instead, a safe rate of weight loss for most kids is 1-2 pounds (1/2-1 kilogram) per week. Check with your doctor to learn if this rate of weight loss is recommended for you. A safe rate of weight loss will help maintain your health and also increase your chance of successfully keeping off the extra weight.

If you think you just can't say no to things like "shortbread cookies with fudge", then you might approach this problem like an addiction to a drug. Learn how to Say Goodbye to the Food Drug and consider if changing how you relate to food may help you kick this overeating habit.

Finally, if other kids are giving you a hard time about being overweight, explore these tips about teasing:
Teasing at school...ouch!
Dealing with Bullies Greta Garbo's Way


 Exercise Ideas and Expectations

=> 1) im not overweight that much, but want to lose weight in my thighs. what kind of exercise will help me?

=> 2) if i am 17 years old and i eat doritos 4 days a week until i turn 20 without exercise what would my weight be?

=> 3) if you know a video or something i can do for exercise in my room please tell me cause i am desperate about my weight i dont want to be fat any more and i need to do some exercise in my hose in my room because i cat do it outdoors or in a gym.

=> So ive been doing tredmil every day since April and i have been seeing results, but my weight has not been going down, instead of me having a toned body ive been making a lot of muscle, is this okay for a teenage girl?

 The above four questions are answered in order.

1) It doesn't matter what type of exercise you use to lose weight if you want to shed pounds from your thighs. This is because you can't "spot reduce". When you start burning more calories than you take in, then your body will remove fat in proportionate amounts from all over your body. However, one can develop muscle definition (also known as "toning") in certain parts of their body by exercising those specific muscles. This can result in a more pleasing appearance since muscle takes up less space than the same weight of fat. If one is severely overweight or obese, it will be difficult to notice any toning because a layer of fat will still cover up improvements. For ideas on toning thighs or other parts of the body, check out ToneTeen for recommended strength training exercises.
Girl Exercising
2) This is an impossible question to answer since we need to take into account your total food consumption versus your energy use. Eating Doritos four times a week is probably not the only reason why someone would be overweight. Doritos are a very salty snack and a high salt diet causes us to retain water. Cutting down or completely eliminating Doritos would probably allow you to lose some weight by both reducing calories and allowing your body to release excess water (high salt diets contribute to high blood pressure by the way). If you commonly crave salty foods, consider alternatives such as pickles, saltines, and olives. See Foods to Help You Fight Through Cravings.

3) Check out what other kids have to say about various exercise videos and calorie burning activities by visiting Kids Helping Kids and clicking on "Exercise Ideas" and then an age group.

4) "Making a lot of muscle" usually means toning. Even if your weight has not gone down, you probably look and feel better if some of the fat is being replaced with muscle. It is almost impossible for people to develop too much muscle at any age (unless they are taking steroids), but check with your doctor to make sure your exercise program is appropriate for your age and condition.


 Food Addiction? " i just cant stop eating the food i love"

=> Hi... Im 12 years old and i weigh around 170-180 pounds. I am trying to lose weight before i go to a family trip, but i just cant seem to stick with my diet and excersise plan. My parent know about this and they encourage me every day... i think i have a food addiction!! Do you have any tips on how to lose weight and how to stick with a diet? Thanks a bunch!!

=> Dear Lucy, I'm 12 years old and I'm only 4 feet and 11 inches tall. I just found out I'm obese. I weigh 128 pounds and it gets worse eachday. Today i just ate a whole entire packet of shortbread cookies with fudge. We just baught them today and I finished it all. I hate vegtables and only like a few fruits. All my pants don't fit me anymore so my mom has to buy me size 10 or 11. I use to be a size 5. Please help I want to lose a lot of weight. I want to be at least 98 pounds maybe a little more. As long as I lose a lot of weight. PLEASE OH PLEASE HELP!!!

=> I just cant stop... i dont know whats wrong with me... My grandma trusted me 2 be home alone and the first thing i do is make myself 4 huge burgers that were like super greasy and a massive plate of salty fries.. idky i do this.. i need 2 stop but i dont know how. and i like drank 62 oz of apple juice and ive caught myself eating entire loafs of bread.. i need help :( any ideas?

=> I was wondering if you have any tips for me. I have been trying to lose weight but i just cant stop eating the food i love

=> hi lucy im 12 yrs old n im overwieght i hAVE A QUESTION OK?SO how did you do it i cant do it like last time me n my mom went to eat tacos n fries then my sister invited me to eat the next hour i knew i should of told her no i already ate but instead i was craving it n ate the hold thing. plz give me tips

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"I just cant stop...idky i do this.. i need 2 stop but i dont know how."
"I cant do it"
"i just cant stop eating the food i love"
"i just ate a whole entire packet of shortbread cookies with fudge. We just baught them today and I finished it all"
"I think I have a food addiction!"

Each of these statements is taken from a question above. All of these questions are related because they can be summarized by the last statement where a child suspects that she has a food addiction.

Some of you may have heard of such a thing as food addiction. Others of you may know about alcoholism (addiction to alcohol) and chain smokers (addiction to tobacco), but you may have never heard or thought of a food addiction. Just like alcohol and tobacco, people can get hooked on the pleasure of eating food. Not just any food, but typically junk foods that are high in fat, sugar, and/or salt. Cookies, pizza, cake, chocolate, pop, chips, fries, and ice cream are all examples of highly pleasurable foods. Junk food helps us feel better by crowding out the negative emotions. This is because is it difficult, if not impossible, to feel pleasure and pain at the same time. Unfortunately, eating junk food when we feel bad is just a temporary fix with the side effect of weight gain. Tackling food addiction requires that we recognize this addiction in ourselves. We can then look at the root cause of any commonly recurring negative emotions and find alternative ways to cope or avoid them.

If you haven't seen the poll already, visit
"What do you think about Oprah Winfrey's food addiction confession?" and make sure you vote!


 Help me lose weight!

=> ok dont tell my mom but i have tried using her diet pills they didnt work i want to lose weight cuz im 188 and im 5"2' and im 14 help i want to lose weight

=> hi,lucy!!!!!!!!!! hey actually i am a 13 year old girl and i am overweight kindly suggest me some ways to lose weight plz..........

=> I have a question about me loosing weight. My school dace is on the 11 of november, and I need to know how to loose weight before the dance, what should I do? Can you help me, and help me with my helth?

=> Hey wiz i need advice on how to lose weight right now im 5 feet 7 inchs and i weight around 180 and im only 12 yrs old no one makes fun of me but i wanna lose weight before that start. I dont know why but i gain weight even if i eat less calories please give me asvice

=> i am 13 and i weigh 159lbs. i need to loose 19lbs and i can't will you help me?

 Weight loss pills are dangerous for kids who are still growing. Even adults who take prescribed weight loss pills often have to visit the doctor once month to make sure they are losing weight safely. Do not take weight loss pills unless you are under the supervision of a doctor.

Losing weight also takes time to be most effective and successful. Make sure your weight loss goals are reasonable by taking into account the recommendation to lose only 1-2 pounds (1/2 - 1 kilogram) per week.
Healthy Weight School
Overeating is a habit. To break the vicious circle of overeating, you will need to make a plan and change the way you look at food. Some kids (and adults) use food as a source of pleasure. But eating too much food out of pleasure means we will gain weight. Viewing food more as a fuel source for our bodies can help us break the overeating habit. To learn more, read "How do I lose weight?" within our Healthy Weight School section.


 I turn to food when bored or sad. What do I do?

=> dear lucy help you see i want to lose weight but we have a house filled with junkfood and i eat when im bored help!

=> Dear Lucy, I feel really overweight but it turns out that I am not. NO boys like me because Im too dfar and not pretty. Whenever I am home alone and Im sad (this happens a lot) I just eat until I feel really, really, really sick!!!! I need help...

 Sometimes we eat even when we are not hungry because we have some unpleasant feelings that we want to cover up and go away. Boredom and sadness are common feelings that cause some of us to turn to food in order to make the bad feelings disappear. Unfortunately we usually pick junk food that is high in calories and then we create different problem: overweight!
Bored Face
Find alternative ways to deal with negative feelings. Many activities besides eating can help us feel better about ourselves and avoid weight gain.
Here are some tips to help you deal with emotional eating:
Beating the Boredom Blues
Stomach Hunger or Something Else?

Visit Kids Helping Kids to see the tips children your age have to offer about dealing with eating when bored, stressed, and other types of emotional eating. The Comfort Eating Board can also be a resource for sharing your experiences and learning from other kids going through the same problems.

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