From Tessa, Child's Age 14 - 05/24/20 - IP#: 100.15.215.xxx Click here to reply
Hello, it has been a crazy beginning of the year for all of us. DH works in the medical field, and I work in retail management/marketing for a supermarket so luckily we are both still employed and not facing down this crisis head on like so many people.
Lots of ups and downs. My oldest has basically reached his goal weight of 150lbs (at 5 foot 8) so we are all very proud of him.
That said, this virus and lockdown has hit right when our kids would normally be the busiest with sports and activities, and while we have been stressing maintaining an active lifestyle (playing basketball, biking safely, etc) both me and DH are working longer and more unpredictable hours so we can't really check up on my middle son's (Jack, 14YO) activity levels.
In early March, he did come to us and ask for help with his weight, which was a surprise as before he had been very argumentative about ... (view more)Hello, it has been a crazy beginning of the year for all of us. DH works in the medical field, and I work in retail management/marketing for a supermarket so luckily we are both still employed and not facing down this crisis head on like so many people.
Lots of ups and downs. My oldest has basically reached his goal weight of 150lbs (at 5 foot 8) so we are all very proud of him.
That said, this virus and lockdown has hit right when our kids would normally be the busiest with sports and activities, and while we have been stressing maintaining an active lifestyle (playing basketball, biking safely, etc) both me and DH are working longer and more unpredictable hours so we can't really check up on my middle son's (Jack, 14YO) activity levels.
In early March, he did come to us and ask for help with his weight, which was a surprise as before he had been very argumentative about his weight gain. So we all actually got him to a nutritionist and his doctor right before the lockdown started to make a plan, and left feeling very positive with the plan.
Sadly, with the lockdown, he has definitely put on more weight, which has left him more and more defeated and has led him to not want to continue. We have, as the doctors suggested, weighed him biweekly, and he has gaine around ten pounds since the visit, going from around 207lbs to around 218ish. We have stressed that we understand that it is a bad time, and that we understand that it is hard to stay active and eat appropriately in these circumstances, and that all we want for him is to do his best, but I fear he has lost a lot of his motivation, especially since his football coach has warned the kids that even if school is in session next year the football season is likely to be suspended, and I suspect football was one of his driving motivations since he was basically told after last season if he didn't get more fit he would likely not make varsity next year.
I'm at an impass and struggling. When this all started he was suddenly very motivated and even talked to us about his feelings regarding his weight (that he felt fat and thought his belly was ugly) which he had never been willing to do before other then platitudes that he was 'fine' or 'plenty skinny.' To go from that to where we are now with him telling us he doesn't care and that he thinks he was meant to be fat just like his dad, so why does it matter is troubling and makes me and my husband's hearts break for him. My husband himself, who already blames himself enough being obese himself (though trying to lose weight himself). (view less)
From Bill, Child's Age 19 - 05/21/20 - IP#: 69.61.184.xxx Click here to reply
Hi..
I am writing over a concern over my son considerable weight gain in his freshman year in collage. He has had weight issues through High School. But I was surprised when came home early because of the Covid and school closing. My ex wife says he told her he has gained about 80 pounds. she does not seem to be as concerned as I am. looking for any advice.
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From Dave, Child's Age 16 - 04/11/20 - IP#: 77.16.59.xxx Click here to reply
How are you doing during those times we have now? Things going like normal, or is it hard to encourage physical activity and good eating habits? Here, luckily going for walks is still no problem, but school and university is closed until further notice.
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From Tammie, Child's Age 17 - 04/08/20 - IP#: 173.81.124.xxx Click here to reply
Hello, this is my first time posting here. My daughter is somewhat chubby (5 feet and 140ish pounds). My problem is, she seems to take food whenever she is left home alone. Somehow she is still losing weight (she was 170 ish pounds) but I’m not sure how. Anyway, what do I do about her sneaking food? A few months back I found evidence of her hoarding snacks in a drawer in her room. Every time she’s left alone, food turns up missing. She’ll go through half a jar of peanut butter, or half a box of cereal, or bread, in one sitting while me and her dad are not home. I even think she’s eating the sugar and flour. I don’t know what to do.
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From ben, Child's Age 11 - 04/07/20 - IP#: 68.8.187.xxx Click here to reply
I need help. My so has gained ten pounds in two weeks! Iv'e tried diets exercising, all of it, my son is 166 pounds and is 5'2. Any ideas?
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From Jack, Child's Age 15 - 04/05/20 - IP#: 38.86.135.xxx Click here to reply
I’m worried about my child Jenna. She’s only 15 but she weighs 705 pounds! I don’t know what to do anymore. Anytime I take food away from her she physically fights me and I don’t believe in hitting my children so I just give her the food. She’s only 5’3 and weighing what she weighs is outstanding. None of here clothes fit in the slightest and she eats food all day long. I need some help so if anyone could shoot me an email that would be great. My email is jack63359@gmail.com
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From Felix, Child's Age 16 - 04/02/20 - IP#: 172.58.230.xxx Click here to reply
Hi Jesse, just read your last post. Has Lane seen the doctor since he was 150 pounds? If not a visit is in need once this coronavirus thing goes away it gets better. 243 pounds won’t “even out with height”. At 150, sure, at 243, most likely not. Lane would have to maintain his weight and be 6’3.5 to not be obese. Will he get that tall? Probably not.
I know you don’t want to push Lane into something similar as what your Mom did. You claim that you are concerned, which I’m sure you are, but what are you doing about it? Are you waiting for the “tide” to roll out? I’m going to tell you from experience, at this stage it’s not going to work.
You’re not going to detriment a child by encouraging him to eat less and move more. You will detriment a child’s physical and mental wellbeing by letting him to continue eat unhealthy amounts of food and get even more morbidly obese. (view more)Hi Jesse, just read your last post. Has Lane seen the doctor since he was 150 pounds? If not a visit is in need once this coronavirus thing goes away it gets better. 243 pounds won’t “even out with height”. At 150, sure, at 243, most likely not. Lane would have to maintain his weight and be 6’3.5 to not be obese. Will he get that tall? Probably not.
I know you don’t want to push Lane into something similar as what your Mom did. You claim that you are concerned, which I’m sure you are, but what are you doing about it? Are you waiting for the “tide” to roll out? I’m going to tell you from experience, at this stage it’s not going to work.
You’re not going to detriment a child by encouraging him to eat less and move more. You will detriment a child’s physical and mental wellbeing by letting him to continue eat unhealthy amounts of food and get even more morbidly obese.
Jesse, my whole family is obese outside of me. I’ve encouraged them to eat less food and move more and it hasn’t worked. Start early with Lane and maybe he’ll develop some habits on the path to a healthier life. I don’t mean to come off as standoffish as I’m in the same situation as you. I’m just encouraging you to do something while you can, while Lane is still healthy and can’t go out and sneak food. (view less)
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From Seong Hwa, Child's Age 17 - 03/29/20 - IP#: 174.192.199.xxx Click here to reply
I am worried for what to do about my son Jeongguk. He is 6'1, very tall for our family, and I think he weights about 270 lbs but I think it could be more. All his family told him that he needs to eat healthier, exercise, and mostly eat a lot less than what he does. It is very sad to see my youngest child do nothing but eat all day when he is at home. His friends comment on it and play with his belly to tease him, his older brother do this too, but he does not seem to care. He gets out of breath going grocery shopping,climbing stairs in our house and tying his shoes even but when I point it out he just ignores me. I talked to his girlfriend one month ago, she said he told her he wanted to lose weight. This made me happy and I thought I would see him change but he still eats a lot and I think gained even more weights.
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From Ben, Child's Age 11 - 03/22/20 - IP#: 68.8.187.xxx Click here to reply
When I wrote 14 I meant 140 yes lately he does seem do be eating a lot more then he used to . 5 months ago he was at a weight of 104 pounds but he put on almost 10 pounds a month and I haven't had time to do anything about it
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From Ben, Child's Age 11 - 03/20/20 - IP#: 76.217.205.xxx Click here to reply
Hello all, my kid is 11 years old 5'1 and 14 pounds. I didn't notice his weight gain until we were at a pool party and he was in his trunks. I could see all his belly rolls and man boobs.Please help!
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From Rosa, Child's Age 16 - 03/05/20 - IP#: 136.152.143.xxx Click here to reply
My son Oliver has always been a very picky eater and thus weve always had problems getting him to eat healthy, and unfortunately the food he does like is very calorie dense. Hi appetite has ballooned since he became a teenage, as expected but the increased calories really hasnt done well for him. Standing at 5 foot 10, he started HS at about 170 pounds, a bit chubby but nothing we were too worried about, but now 2 years later, his weight has gone way up, 250 pounds. I really dont know what to do, he no longer fits in any of his clothes and has a massive belly now.
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From Randy, Child's Age 17 - 02/03/20 - IP#: 71.224.67.xxx Click here to reply
Hey everyone, I posted about my son Isaac a few months ago (and forgot to follow up, sorry!). He actually stopped gaining weight as quickly once he joined the football team, so I thought he’d be able to lose the weight eventually. However, that wasn’t the case; ever since football ended back in November, he’s been gaining weight even more quickly than before! I think the football coach weighed him in at 320 during the season, but he’s definitely a lot heavier than that now, maybe even over 350! I honestly wasn’t even aware of how much he had gained because he always wears really baggy clothes, but about a week ago he was walking around the house shirtless and I noticed the stretch marks all over his body and his belly jiggling everywhere, noticeably bigger than I remember it was back in the summer. When I tried to press him about his weight, he just said that he was “bulking up” for next... (view more)Hey everyone, I posted about my son Isaac a few months ago (and forgot to follow up, sorry!). He actually stopped gaining weight as quickly once he joined the football team, so I thought he’d be able to lose the weight eventually. However, that wasn’t the case; ever since football ended back in November, he’s been gaining weight even more quickly than before! I think the football coach weighed him in at 320 during the season, but he’s definitely a lot heavier than that now, maybe even over 350! I honestly wasn’t even aware of how much he had gained because he always wears really baggy clothes, but about a week ago he was walking around the house shirtless and I noticed the stretch marks all over his body and his belly jiggling everywhere, noticeably bigger than I remember it was back in the summer. When I tried to press him about his weight, he just said that he was “bulking up” for next season. I don’t think he realizes that at this rate, he’ll be well over 400lbs by the time next season comes! His weight has been getting in the way of a lot of things too… I’m have to buy a bigger car for him now because with his size, its getting a lot harder for him to squeeze into the drivers seat of his current one. It’s getting harder for him to get up the stairs too; he’s almost always breathless, and more often than not on weekdays he just sleeps on the couch in the living room instead of walking up to his room. His girlfriend broke up with him too a few weeks ago (probably connected to his huge weight gain), and he’s been eating even more ever since. He’s even started ordering two lunches every day at school, though I can’t really blame him, I know he’s going through a lot right now. We’ve had to size him up a size too (from 3XL to 4XL), though I don’t think he really cares. I’ve struggled with my weight all my life too, and it really hurts me to see my boy going through the same things I had to deal with. Anyone have any tips? Thanks! (view less)
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From Tessa, Child's Age 14 - 01/27/20 - IP#: 100.14.185.xxx Click here to reply
I posted a while ago about my 14 year old son Jack who was, at the time chubby-to-overweight (five foot six, 179lbs). This was in late November, and my biggest worry at the time was his rapid weight gain.
Since then, I have been trying really hard to motivate him to lose weight, but he has been hesitent and has often lashed out.
To make matters worse, his appetite has gone through the roof. On the rare occassion we order pizza, we will order two large pies for the five of us (Me, DS 16 who is on a successful diet so isnt eating too much, DS 9 who is skinny as a string bean, and DH who is, admittedly obese) which I think is a perfectly fair amount with maybe a few slices to put in the fridge for a snack later. But Jack will devour his 2 pieces, then whine until we allow him more, and then talk about how he could eat a whole pizza himself. Same with everything, nothing is ever... (view more)I posted a while ago about my 14 year old son Jack who was, at the time chubby-to-overweight (five foot six, 179lbs). This was in late November, and my biggest worry at the time was his rapid weight gain.
Since then, I have been trying really hard to motivate him to lose weight, but he has been hesitent and has often lashed out.
To make matters worse, his appetite has gone through the roof. On the rare occassion we order pizza, we will order two large pies for the five of us (Me, DS 16 who is on a successful diet so isnt eating too much, DS 9 who is skinny as a string bean, and DH who is, admittedly obese) which I think is a perfectly fair amount with maybe a few slices to put in the fridge for a snack later. But Jack will devour his 2 pieces, then whine until we allow him more, and then talk about how he could eat a whole pizza himself. Same with everything, nothing is ever enough. Seconds, thirds even and he will complain he is still hungry.We try to stay firm, but every time it becomes a fight. He has started to 100% sneak food, and when he is out of the house there is little we can do besides limit his spending money, which can only go so far.
He has put on even more weight. We finally got him on a scale and were shocked (but not really, sadly) to find that now he is 197lbs. He has outgrown clothes he fit perfectly mere months ago, and is wearing 38inch jeans. It seems like all of his weight has gone to his belly, and he has a lot of stretch marks there.
Its really taken a toll on him, last week he was invited to an offseason football practice/meetup and I felt really bad watching him. For one thing, he had to wear his High School's football shirt which he hadnt touched since the end of the season (mid-November) and it barely covered his belly to start. And the exercises, which were not at all hard (think basic, push ups, sit ups, etc; not lifting or anything crazy) were hard for him to complete. By the end he had sat out most of the sit-ups, and was panting heavily. Apparently at the pizza buffet the team went to afterwards, he ate almost 10 slices of pizza plus other stuff, though that's according to him as parents weren't invited.
When, after weighing him, I asked if he wanted help to maybe lose some weight and get more fit, he threw a fit and said he didnt care and that he thought he was skinny enough so we should just drop it.
I just dont know what to do. He is such a handsome kid, if you just look at his face, but as soon as you see the rest of his body you just feel sad. He can barely fit into clothes he wore fairly comfortably a few months ago, let alone a year ago, and every time we try to nicely help him, he brushes us off and says he thinks he is fine how he is, he has even said that he thinks he is skinny or thin! (view less)
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Hey everyone, I’m a father of three boys, 17, 14, and 12 are their ages. As a single father, I’ve never been one to say no, which has led to all of my boys to be on the heavier side. My oldest is in the 400s while the two younger boys are in the 300s. It has been a minute since I’ve had the chance to get them on the scale, so I’ll have to update their weights once I do.
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From Timothy, Child's Age 12 - 01/17/20 - IP#: 217.138.199.xxx Click here to reply
Hello,
I have to admit I feel a bit lost at my situation. My wife and I split up about two years ago. At first we were able to do regular visits then I had to move for work and now that I've moved back the change in my son is horrifying me. He has always been a chubby child, maybe on the fat side of chubby. Now though he is definitely fat. From everything I can tell his mother gives into his every food whim. He has tried tantrums on me and at first I tried to say no but they got so severe I ended up giving in. He's a 230 lb kid having a full blown tantrum. That's a little scary even for me as that's a full 70 lbs more than I weigh. I have been doing my best to only cook healthy meals. At first he wouldn't eat them but now he knows it's all he's getting. However, he has told me he hates coming to mine because I'm mean. I don't want to lose my son, I feel I've already lost so much... (view more)Hello,
I have to admit I feel a bit lost at my situation. My wife and I split up about two years ago. At first we were able to do regular visits then I had to move for work and now that I've moved back the change in my son is horrifying me. He has always been a chubby child, maybe on the fat side of chubby. Now though he is definitely fat. From everything I can tell his mother gives into his every food whim. He has tried tantrums on me and at first I tried to say no but they got so severe I ended up giving in. He's a 230 lb kid having a full blown tantrum. That's a little scary even for me as that's a full 70 lbs more than I weigh. I have been doing my best to only cook healthy meals. At first he wouldn't eat them but now he knows it's all he's getting. However, he has told me he hates coming to mine because I'm mean. I don't want to lose my son, I feel I've already lost so much time with him, but I also don't want to give into him.
He's told me that his Mom would start crying, and say things like, "Don't ever leave me like your Daddy did. I need you here with me forever, please?" Then HE would get upset and start crying, and then she would start apologizing and say "I didn't mean to make you cry," and then give him ice cream and chocolate and chips and whatever else his heart desires.
I just don't know what to do about the situation. No custody fighting isn't going to work. It was hard enough to get custody sharing and with how he feels about me right now for not feeding his overeating I doubt I would come out seeing him at all. (view less)
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