From Lucy, Child's Age 10 - 06/01/15 - IP#: 92.13.34.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter, Heather, is ten years old, and as I have split with my husband I get her four days a week to look after. Her gets her friday-sunday, I get Monday-thursday.
The problem is, Heather has been gaining quite a bit of weight recently - she's always been a tad chubby, I'll admit, but over the past year (since me and my partner split up) she's really ballooned, to my dismay. I don't know her exact weight or height (she hasn't told me) but she's definitely quite overweight now, painful as it is to admit as a mother. She has a noticeably round, protruding belly that she is very self conscious about, and has a lot of trouble finding clothes that fit nicely.
If I had her all the time this wouldn't be a problem as I'd just change her diet up so she eats healthier - indeed, that's exactly what I did a few months ago. When she continued to gain weight I talked to her, and learnt... (view more)My daughter, Heather, is ten years old, and as I have split with my husband I get her four days a week to look after. Her gets her friday-sunday, I get Monday-thursday.
The problem is, Heather has been gaining quite a bit of weight recently - she's always been a tad chubby, I'll admit, but over the past year (since me and my partner split up) she's really ballooned, to my dismay. I don't know her exact weight or height (she hasn't told me) but she's definitely quite overweight now, painful as it is to admit as a mother. She has a noticeably round, protruding belly that she is very self conscious about, and has a lot of trouble finding clothes that fit nicely.
If I had her all the time this wouldn't be a problem as I'd just change her diet up so she eats healthier - indeed, that's exactly what I did a few months ago. When she continued to gain weight I talked to her, and learnt that her dad is very lenient with food, and that she snacks pretty much constantly whenever she's at his. The meals are also apparently often fast food, and she often eats an adult's serving instead of a child's one.
I'm sure this is what is causing the gain, but when I tried to talk to him about it he point blank refused to see me, and wouldn't hear a word of it. My relationship with my daughter is already strained (she sees me as too strict and prefers to be with her father) so I don't want to make things worse by insisting she doesn't eat certain things at her father's, but I can't see any other solution to this.
Please, I'm at my wits end. If anyone has a suggestion I would be so happy.
(PS, I can probably get her weight and height if that would be helpful.) (view less)
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From Ann, Child's Age 14 - 04/27/15 - IP#: 69.46.0.xxx Click here to reply
My family is trying to make a change. Last week we went to the doctors and the issue of weight got brought up as it always does and I got defensive as I always do. The doctor insisted this time that all 3 of my boys (14, 12 and 9) get blood work done as he was concerned. We went and they had blood taken and then went back on Friday. All three had high cholesterol and not just a little elevated but dangerously high. The two younger ones also have prediabetes. Today will be the first day we dont stop at mcdonalds for an after school snack. We have started going for walks this weekend and I realized how out of shape I am. I'm only a handful of pounds over and it has been a long time since I did anything vigorous. After 5 minutes I had 3 red faced panting boys with me. After 10 minutes they were begging to go home and I was feeling the strain myself. I didn't try and change their eating this... (view more)My family is trying to make a change. Last week we went to the doctors and the issue of weight got brought up as it always does and I got defensive as I always do. The doctor insisted this time that all 3 of my boys (14, 12 and 9) get blood work done as he was concerned. We went and they had blood taken and then went back on Friday. All three had high cholesterol and not just a little elevated but dangerously high. The two younger ones also have prediabetes. Today will be the first day we dont stop at mcdonalds for an after school snack. We have started going for walks this weekend and I realized how out of shape I am. I'm only a handful of pounds over and it has been a long time since I did anything vigorous. After 5 minutes I had 3 red faced panting boys with me. After 10 minutes they were begging to go home and I was feeling the strain myself. I didn't try and change their eating this weekend. I just watched closely at what they ate and when they ate it. It was no longer a mystery how they got to be fat. The $350 of groceries I had bought on Friday before we got the results was disappearing quickly into them and almost all of it was processed and fatty. Pizza rolls, pizza pockets, just plain pizza was being microwaved. Cans of coke were being consumed. Cookies and cake. It was alarming when I sat back and just watched how much they ate. I know plan to cut all that out. Hopefully the $350 / week I currently spend will decrease along with their cholesterol as we move to healthier foods. I just hope I'm not too late in making a change. (view less)
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From Charles, Child's Age 12 - 04/24/15 - IP#: 104.156.49.xxx Click here to reply
Over the last few years (since about 10) my son has been getting fatter and my wife and I didn't notice. On vacation he'd keep his shirt on when we went swimming. At home he wore baggy clothes to hide his size. Yesterday I walked into his room and he had shirt off and saw he had breasts. Not small ones either, ones almost the size of his mother. His belly was huge, soft and covered in stretch marks. I had been repressing the idea that he was big but now the evidence was clear. I weighed him and measured his gut (210 lbs and 51 inches!) and found out he was borrowing clothes from his bigger friends so that we wouldn't notice he was gaining weight. He did not seem to be bothered by his weight at all and does not want to lose. How do I put him back on the right path?
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From Bea, Child's Age 15 - 04/23/15 - IP#: 24.205.165.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter keeps gaining weight. I know she weighs about 200 lbs. her stomach is huge,looks pregnat. She exercises with her brothers, but, even though they are quite slim, she keeps growing. We cook quite healthy and exercise as a family, but her belly is massive, bouncing and jiggling and sticking out of her clothes. I love her, but I don't know what to do.
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From Karl, Child's Age 11 - 04/17/15 - IP#: 172.218.202.xxx Click here to reply
I am still struggling with my step-sons weight. As I said before, I've been married to his mother for about a year and didnt want to bring it up while we were dating or engaged but he is huge and no one seems to care. I've tried bringing it up with my wife but she says he's fine. He's not though. I don't know what to do. Can someone please help? Either reply on here or email me directly karlbarnard230@yahoo.co.uk
From Lisa, Child's Age 17 - 04/16/15 - IP#: 67.87.200.xxx Click here to reply
I believe my son is getting fat. He his 5'5 and is probably done growing. He was very skinny growing up until about a year ago. Last November he weighed 127 lbs on our scale. Now he ways around 140 lbs on the scale. However, I decided to test our scale's accuracy by putting 100 lbs of dumbbells on it, and it only came out as 95.6 lbs! So when I do the math, accurately my son was probably around 133 lbs last november and is now a little over 145! He used to be athletic when he was young but not so much in his teen years. Last year, his clothes were usually either 16-18 xl child size or small sized shirts, and wore size 28 pants. Now he has to wear medium sized shirts and his size 30 pants are ready to pop open! His waist is around 36 inches! Just last year it was not even 34... The majority of his gains are going to his belly and his chest. I am worried because he is most likely done growing, and his father is pretty large. Also, he is very picky and doesn't have a large appetite, however it has been increasing recently. Is he overweight? Should I trust my bathroom scale or no?
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From Julia, Child's Age 11 - 04/14/15 - IP#: 124.178.182.xxx Click here to reply
Dear parents,
Just recently I have taken my 11 year old son to have a check up at the doctors and the results came back and read that my son had a height of 4'7feet and had a weight of 92Lbs or 42kg in detail the results said that he had 3 belly rolls 1 big belly roll at the bottom of his belly and two medium belly rolls at the top of his belly the doctor also said that he was too chubby I asked my son what he thought and he thought he had an average weight PLEASE HELP ME!! HOW DO I KNOW if my son is overweight and if so how much by and how can I get him to realize how overweight he is! THANKS Julia
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From Kati, Child's Age 7 - 04/03/15 - IP#: 173.29.179.xxx Click here to reply
My son is somewhere between 4'8 and 4'10. He is very active and prefers water, juice, or fat free milk. He eats very little but he weighs 121lbs. I'm afraid that something is wrong or that he is overweight. He gets picked on for his weight at school because he is taller and is heavier than most kids in his class. He wears 16 husky pants and 16-18 size shirts. Any suggestions on what could be wrong?
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From Jake, Child's Age 12 - 04/01/15 - IP#: 166.137.139.xxx Click here to reply
I am very concerned about my son's weight. We adopted George 6 years ago. He was always a little pudgy, but never concerningly so. However, in the past 15 months or so, he has gone from 110 lbs to almost 165 lbs. he has always been well liked, and at his private school, he wears brand name polis and jeans to keep himself up to par with the other kids. The name brands do not make clothes that fit him, and when I go to pick him up, the front of his shirt is untucked and his belly fat clearly hangs out. He still goes to the pool with his shirt off, and isn't really made fun of. I'm worried that he doesn't realize he is overweight and will continue to pack on the pounds. By the way, he is 5'2" and has a short and stocky build. He recently turned 12. How do I addres this with him?
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From Karl, Child's Age 11 - 04/01/15 - IP#: 172.218.202.xxx Click here to reply
I am struggling with my step-sons weight. I've been married to his mother for about a year and didnt want to bring it up while we were dating or engaged but he is huge and no one seems to care.
He won't let himself be weighed so I don't know how big he actually is and it's a delicate subject around my wife. She and her family and his bio-dad feed him what he wants, when he wants. My wife will cook for us and a separate meal for him that's exactly what he wants. Every single day. He is definitely overweight and I'm worried he is going to become obese (or he might already be obese).
I dont know what to do about it either. His life is in his computer chair surrounded by all the snacks my wife brings him and stuck in front of a screen. She doesn't regulate his bed time so he'll stay up until 4 am playing grab a few hours sleep before school and again I can't seem to get it through ... (view more)I am struggling with my step-sons weight. I've been married to his mother for about a year and didnt want to bring it up while we were dating or engaged but he is huge and no one seems to care.
He won't let himself be weighed so I don't know how big he actually is and it's a delicate subject around my wife. She and her family and his bio-dad feed him what he wants, when he wants. My wife will cook for us and a separate meal for him that's exactly what he wants. Every single day. He is definitely overweight and I'm worried he is going to become obese (or he might already be obese).
I dont know what to do about it either. His life is in his computer chair surrounded by all the snacks my wife brings him and stuck in front of a screen. She doesn't regulate his bed time so he'll stay up until 4 am playing grab a few hours sleep before school and again I can't seem to get it through to her that this is not healthy. His diet is high in fat, sugar and salt and that's about it. No nutritional value!
He goes to his dads house and Its the same thing. He goes to his grandparents house and its the same thing.
I feel like i'm the only one in the family afraid for the poor boy's heart, but as the newcomer to all of this I don't know what to do or say and I don't want to start a fight that ends with us divorcing over this. Please help. (view less)
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From Mark, Child's Age 15 - 03/30/15 - IP#: 172.56.35.xxx Click here to reply
Hi all, I have a problem with my step-son's weight. Since July or August, he has gone from 150 pounds at 5'10 to 218 pounds at 5'11. He used to be on the cross country running team, but we moved this summer and has become extremely lazy since then. As far as I know right now, Mark eats breakfast at home and at school, lunch at school, a snack after class, a fast food (like a hamburger) on the way home, dinner and then some form of dessert. I have told him repeatedly that this is unhealthy and he needs to stop, but as he uses his own money, I can't stop him unless I take his money, which I can't because it is his earned money. Mark tells me that he will stop, but has become very nonchalant about it. It does not help that his mum does not think he is fat. His current activity level is extremely low, and he is starting to get winded from physical activity due to his rapid weight gain. At this point, I am totally out of ideas.
Thanks. If you have any ideas, you can email me at (mc_isidore@outlook.com) or post here.
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From Matthew, Child's Age 16 - 03/26/15 - IP#: 198.50.233.xxx Click here to reply
My son 16 year old son has always been in great physical shape. We all take great care of our health and he has two older brothers (17 and 19) who also continue to exercise and stay trim. Carter has always very skinny, healthy, athletic and usually one of the best on every sports team. About 6 months ago and almost as if overnight, he had quickly deposited a very generous amount of subcutaneous belly fat, a full set of belly rolls and his chest fattened into mounds. He is a very smart kid, gets good grades and he basically said he didn't feel like doing any of the sports he was the team captain or a lead position on and decided to get lazy, eat more snacks than any person could ever need and lay around in his bed and play his xbox.
Within 4 months my boy had put on over 40 pounds. He'd never gained any weight before but last summer he couldn't even run a normal speed or keep... (view more)My son 16 year old son has always been in great physical shape. We all take great care of our health and he has two older brothers (17 and 19) who also continue to exercise and stay trim. Carter has always very skinny, healthy, athletic and usually one of the best on every sports team. About 6 months ago and almost as if overnight, he had quickly deposited a very generous amount of subcutaneous belly fat, a full set of belly rolls and his chest fattened into mounds. He is a very smart kid, gets good grades and he basically said he didn't feel like doing any of the sports he was the team captain or a lead position on and decided to get lazy, eat more snacks than any person could ever need and lay around in his bed and play his xbox.
Within 4 months my boy had put on over 40 pounds. He'd never gained any weight before but last summer he couldn't even run a normal speed or keep up with me and his mom because he'd start huffing and puffing and just struggle to move his own body....my very athletic and energetic boy had just put on so much fat that his muscles/any bones or signs of his rib cage were covered and the poor kid would start to run and his giant pot belly would bounce up and down and weigh him down until he could barely breathe....his brothers, his mother and I didn't once bring up his belly until he complained about it to us. but for all of us it was sad to see how quickly our super star soccer player/basketball team captain/ and active outdoorsy kinda kid had fattened himself up and become a grouchy couch potato. OF course I wanted to say something when he'd just look so unhealthy when he'd come with our family in public...we didn't want to force him to stop feeding himself enough junk for 10 people.... His face eventually started to fatten up and he started to have people not recognize him at the mall or have high school buddies come up from begind him and reach under his shirt and squeeze and "truffle shuffle" handfuls of his belly. I felt bad for him because I know that all the guys from his high school really started to tease him and pat his belly or even call him "the face/neck fat in public when he started growing himself a double chin and really started to bother him when his tshirts and clothes got so tight on him that the poor thing couldn't even button up his pants and his shirts were nearly all skin tight.... I remember taking his close buddies to the beach and all three of his friends actually started asking him how much he weighs these days and then his best friend jason asked him without any hesitation how it must suck to always have been athletic and good looking to now be the fattest and doughiest dude who's belly got too big even close his surf shorts, they just cling to your gut.
Carter couldn't believe someone really called him out and didn't sugarcoat it....and basically before we left the beach the three of them told him how shocked they were to their baseball/soccer/football/basketball teammate and their good friend become so heavy and just so fat and out of shape....I didn't say a word but I knew that my boy didn't like being the bloated ex-athlete friend, and he sure hated his friends always pinching into his belly or trying to jiggle his blubber. When we all left I know he finally took a good look at himself in the mirror and felt vulnerable.
He asked me the next week if I would help him to start exercising. I said, I'll get him working out but he had to stop buying 5/6 or more snacks and scarfing in as much fattening junk as he'd been putting away. He really tried his best to work out but it was hard to get that belly off of him, even after six months of running, climbing, biking, lifting, and playing a little bit of soccer he's definitely gotten more fit, and his face arms and legs have toned up but he's still sporting a round little pot belly, probably 15lbs, but he just tries to suck it in to try and stop his belly from poking out especially because he feels a lot more confident that all his friends think he's back in perfect shape when hes in clothes....he knows he doesn't have the discipline to stop feeding that wicked appetite of his but he understand that his weight is his responsibility. (view less)
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From daniel, Child's Age 11 - 03/25/15 - IP#: 1.122.109.xxx Click here to reply
NOTE Im the child not the parent
recently I have been gaining a lot of weight and when I sit down my belly spills about 3 inches over my pants I also have 3 big belly fat rolls I need help to lose weight do you have any ideas thanks
daniel
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From kallee, Child's Age 11 - 03/25/15 - IP#: 1.122.109.xxx Click here to reply
Lately my 11 year old son has been gaining a little weight and today I woke him up when he sat up I immediately noticed 3 fat rolls on his belly two big ones and a medium sized one and his belly hangs 3 inches over his pants I asked him if he think he's fat he said he didn't know I asked our doctor and he said he was over weight PLEASE HELP ME how do I get him to realise how over weight he is PLEASE HELP ME
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From Lesli, Child's Age 11 - 03/24/15 - IP#: 1.122.109.xxx Click here to reply
my 11 year old son weighs 42kgs and has an average height for his age. Yesterday I saw him sitting on the coach with out his t-shirt on and his belly now hangs about 3 to 4 inches over his pants and I am a little worried about his weight WHAT DO YOU THINK. PLEASE HELP ME.
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