Reply From Melissa, Age 17 - 09/16/11 - IP#: 24.2.110.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I eat lunch at school every other day. One day I go home, the next I bring my own lunch. It works out pretty well for me. I looked at a BMI chart and the shortest height on it was 5 feet tall. If at 5" and 140 lbs you're only considered overweight, so minus a few inches and I think it'll be the same for your friend. Not obese just overweight.
It's honorable and kind of you to want to help your friend. But in the end the only person who can change her is herself. You can't force her to lose weight or change her lifestyle only she can do that. You could talk to her and tell her of your concerns and let her know you are there for her and are willing to help her - but you can't change her. The desire to lose weight must come from within yourself, outside forces do not help. Let her know your worried but let her make her own decisions - it's her body, her health. Not yours. Be a positive example by eating well and exercising and maybe you'll influence her for good!
Reply From Marina, Age 23 - 08/24/11 - IP#: 24.36.172.xxx show message replied to go to original board
If you talk to him honestly about how important it is for you to lose weight. With him on board, it will make a big difference in your success. If he really loves you, he will want to help & not sabotage you. Before I got engaged to my fiance, I had the same talk with him & the next day he joined a gym with me and started eating healthier with me & thanks to his support I now weight 100lbs less than when we had the conversation! Just tell him that you appreciate when he does sweet things like make breakfast in bed but right now you need him to support you with your healthy lifestyle & that it means a lot to you. Next time he surprises you with unhealthy food just say "thanks, but no thanks"....that'll make your point! Maybe in the future if he suprises you with breakfast in bed it'll be a fruit smoothie and rye toast with skim milk! :D (or whatever) good luck!
Reply From Ricky, Age 17 - 08/11/10 - IP#: 173.54.212.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Hey Jessica! You where saying that you hate it when your best friend says she fat. Hae you ever told her you what to lost weight? If she is your best friend she would understand and ease up on comments like that. I had the same problem to all my girl friends are super skinny and was always sayiing they were fat when they are barely over 100lbs. After I told them how I felt about my weight and what I was trying to do. They really don't speak like that anymore infront of me. Hope that helps. If you just want to vent out at all let me know and I'll give you my email adress. =)
P.s. I am a girl if you can't tell by my name. =)
Reply From Taylor, Age 15 - 07/14/09 - IP#: 75.66.40.xxx show message replied to go to original board
If your friend is really short, then that may be a healthy weight for HER, if she's about your height or taller, it's not. And it shouldn't be about being SKINNY it should be about being healthy. You seem to want this for all the wrong reasons. It shouldn't be because you wanna be stick-thin like your friend, or you want boys to like you (at eleven it shouldn't matter that much anyway, you have PLENTY of time to date, don't grow up too fast, because you can't go back). Make this about you, and being healthy. Also, being heavy doesn't make a person a loser. If people are going to pick on you, they most likely will whether you're heavy or not, they will find a flaw and they will pick at that. You just have to learn to toughen up, it's hard, but it's survivable.
Reply From Taylor, Age 15 - 02/07/09 - IP#: 75.66.64.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Is it really worth quitting because of what everyone else thinks. If your friends are laughing about it, than they're not good friends. And this isn't about THEM it's about you. So keep your chin up, and keep working hard. This isn't for them. It's for you. And you deserve to do this for yourself.
From Tara, Age 13 - 12/28/04 - IP#: 152.163.100.xxx go to original board
no matter what you weigh just be yourself.I weighed 140 and lost 7 bounds from just doing everyday stuff playing basket ball walking and doing crunches.Even if you are unhappy with your weight just remember its your personality that people look for not your weight.so dont thin you have to lose weight to make people like you. do it for yourself and good luck.I know i need it lol.
Reply From Katherine, Age 14 - 09/05/04 - IP#: 66.44.58.xxx show message replied to go to original board
you don't have to dress revealing and "slutty" to attract guys, believe me. most guys that are actually genuine are not attracted to something like that. be yourself, if you want to act more girly, thats great. but don't do it just for guys. try nice blouses or shirts from stores like old navy or gap. show off assets that you like about yourself, like eyes or something. good luck, and remember to be yourself. hope i helped, Katherine
Reply From anne, Age 17 - 08/25/04 - IP#: 216.66.102.xxx show message replied to go to original board
instead why don't you set an example? she pulls out the chips- you pull out carrots and exersize with her! but do it surriptitously- like play an active game opr sport and really get her into it. don't go to her and tell her straight out that she's fat because that could reaqlly hurt her feelings
From Taylor, Age 11 - 04/26/04 - IP#: 67.168.12.xxx go to original board
i have been overweigt since pre-k in kindergarten i got called slow poke cuz i ant runn but when i was in 3rd grade i was in 4 sports a year and i was a good runner and im not shy around guys i have lots of guy friends so dont let your weight problem stop you from stuff cuz i was shy beforebut now i just set my weight aside and it dosnt bother me i try to loss weight but dont let it get to you and im still over weight i weigh 161 lbs and im 11 but guys like you for ur inside sometimes if he likes you for your out side hes not worth it
From mikayla, Age 13 - 04/24/04 - IP#: 24.18.50.xxx go to original board
I lost 8 pounds since easter. I am now 5'4 and 152 pounds. I learned something last night at a dance. I learned that alot of boys don't care if I am overweight. I asked 7 boys to slowdance with me and 5 of them did. Also when I was club dancing a boy came up to me and started dancing with me and doing weird moves. My friend, Vincent and I started laughing and went along with it. Then the boys said "well thanks for letting me dance with you! You guys are great dancers!"
Reply From *ray*ray*, Age 13 - 04/09/04 - IP#: 66.67.111.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I bet that your friend would really apprechiate your help. I know that when I was younger I used to ask my friends for help, unfortunatly they never really could becuase I guess they just didn't know what to do but I think the first thing you need to do it tell her that your concerned about her weight. Don't tell her that shes too fat or that she needs to lose a ton of weight becuase that will hurt her feelings and if shes an emtional eater then that could result in more eating which won't improve the situation. Just say something like "____ (her name) I'm really worried about you. It seems like your gaining alot of weight recently and I don't care about what you look like but I want you to be healthy. If you want me to help you lose some weight then I will" or something similar. Some things you could do to help her is make sure you don't buy any extra junk food when she sleeps over and ... (view more)
Reply From tay, Age 11 - 04/04/04 - IP#: 64.12.116.xxx show message replied to go to original board
hey i get lots of boyfriends im still fat but I'm pretty cute and i have a cool personality if you are sweet, funny, and a little cute you can get a boyfriend and if that doesnt work get a boyfriend that is the same size as you and anywayz boyfriends arent that great bleieve me they are at times but not all the time!
Reply From Maggie, Age 12 - 03/06/04 - IP#: 12.73.120.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I would only tell them if they are your best friends and you can trust them. If they are not, they will most likely tell people.
Reply From Shawna, Age 15 - 02/06/04 - IP#: 24.71.223.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Hey, I don't know if it necessarly that you are fat it may be because you think you are fat and you do not have good self esteem and so the turns guys off if you are really shy and don't put yourself out there. I know this girl and she is quite overweight and she is so pretty and she has hed boyfriends. On the other hand I don't think I am that big. I am 5'7" and 150 pounds and I am average/big for my age. And I have never had a boyfriend before and you shouldn't feel bad about it. Especially because many of the guys that are very young care about that now because lots of them are small themselves. But once you get to be 15 and 16 and 17 guys have matured and they are like 6'0" tall themselve so they would be more comfortable going out with a bigger girl. I hope this helps. There is help in the future. Trust me. Guys are starting to become interested now. I have a good friend who is 6'4" and he is about 200 pounds and I like him so much. And he is comfortable around me. Hope all this helps. Good luck. Dont do it for the boys, do it for you.
Reply From Kaitlynn, Age 11 - 01/11/04 - IP#: 141.153.242.xxx show message replied to go to original board
hoo needs them anywai? hoo cares? u shood be happi th wai u r. gt bettr frends. the ones u think wil like u for hoo u r not how u look. taik my advise.