From Olivia, Child's Age 9 - 09/16/05 - IP#: 68.253.18.xxx Click here to reply
I've posted here before and am still looking for some concrete advice. I am the step mother of a very big 9 year old. She is 4'2" and weighs in at 160. Her weight has been creeping up at the average of two pounds every two weeks. Since we have her and her 13-year old brother with us only two weekends a month, there's not much we can do but eat healthy - which we always do, encourage physical activity, limit TV and computer time. Both of her bio parents are diabetic and now she has asthma (weight induced). Bio-Mom won't move on the weight issue and this year the kids are really picking on her at school. What's a stepmother to do without being a complete butinski?
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From Lisa, Child's Age 11 - 09/11/05 - IP#: 69.163.194.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter has been getting really heavy. She is only 11 and weighs in at 185lbs. She is only 5'2". I buy her healthy things and pack her healthy things for lunch, but I think she takes things from her friends and borrows money from them and buys pizza, I told her friends parents to not let their kids loan my daughter money, so that way she could get healthier but it just breaks my heart to her getting heavier and pack on the weight, if you have any suggestions please post. Thanks, Lisa.
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From Debbie, Child's Age 13 - 08/31/05 - IP#: 70.110.145.xxx Click here to reply
One time when I was about 7(so that was many years ago) I was at the doctor and he told my mom that I was "obese". At that time I thought that he had told my mom that I was "a beast". I had never heard the word obese before that so I guess I heard words that I could understand but I do know that even to this day I prefer the word fat because somewhere deep inside obese still makes me feel like a beast. It just takes little words and comments to or about a child that can effect them for years. So parents please don't hurt your child with words because those words are the ones that build up inside and cause such unnecessary pain. Don't think about what parts of your childs' body are "too big" instead think about how much you love them and how devastating it would be to be without them. Then take a stand for them, let them know what it is about them that you love and cherish. Let them... (view more)One time when I was about 7(so that was many years ago) I was at the doctor and he told my mom that I was "obese". At that time I thought that he had told my mom that I was "a beast". I had never heard the word obese before that so I guess I heard words that I could understand but I do know that even to this day I prefer the word fat because somewhere deep inside obese still makes me feel like a beast. It just takes little words and comments to or about a child that can effect them for years. So parents please don't hurt your child with words because those words are the ones that build up inside and cause such unnecessary pain. Don't think about what parts of your childs' body are "too big" instead think about how much you love them and how devastating it would be to be without them. Then take a stand for them, let them know what it is about them that you love and cherish. Let them know they are smart, funny and beautiful. If there is a wonderful song or poem that has always made you think of them let them know. I wrote the lyrics down to "If I Could" by Regina Belle and gave them and a cd of the song to my son few years ago. I know that he cherishes them even to this day. Every once in awhile when we are driving somewhere and it is just the two of us I put my copy of the song in the player and he knows that I adore him no matter what. Fill your childs life with love, support and a healthy lifestyle for all. Let them know how important they are to you and show that in any way possible even if it seems like a corny thing to do. (view less)
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From Shannon, Child's Age 4 - 08/30/05 - IP#: 66.191.216.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter is 4yrs old. I think she has a eatting problem. She dont know when to quit. No one else sees this problem but me. My child weighs 65lbs when I was a sahm she was always the right size. Now my bf mom watches her while I work and she gets "over fed" and sometimes she even gets sick. I told my bfs mom to quit giving her soooooo much to eat. I dont know what to do . I need someone to talk too
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From Vincent, Child's Age 15 - 08/28/05 - IP#: 24.125.69.xxx Click here to reply
Hi folks I need help with my daughter. She is around 350lbs and all of it seems to be in her lower half. She has somthing like a 80inch waist and a massive rear end. She plays soccer with my son who is 6 but she is just to big to really move alot so she just sits on the ground infront of the goal. Her big sister is a chearleader and does some modeling so she is always so jelous. I dont think her health is much of an issue at this point because the doctor tells me shes fine healthily its just that all she can fit into is a pair of 9X sweats and a massive T shirt. She wears normal close to school, but usualy u can see her belly becasue most shirts dont cover her. Is there any athletic activities that you recomend for a girl with such a big waist and bottom because he thighs make it almost impossible for her to walk very long. We have a indoor pool, but she doesnt really like to swim and im not around alot to help her with stuff usualy our maids do most of the cooking and things of that sort. Could youall give me some advice.
worried in Flordia.
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From Maura, Child's Age 8 - 08/26/05 - IP#: 67.9.103.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter is 8 and she weights 161. This put tears in my eyes today, she is very tall for her age 5 feet. She was premature and very big, 8lbs 9 oz @ 21 inches. She was 5 weeks premmie. Her doctors kept saying her height will grow into her weight. Well that has not happened. The kids do not make fun of her which I am grateful for. Her dad's family all are overweight as 3 had the stomach surgery to lose weight. I am also 50 pounds overweight.
I am starting to have her work out in the fitness center and take her swimming everyday. I live in Texas it is still hot here, She is very stubborn about her eating habits. Believe it or not, she loves fish and chicken but hates red meat. I need a support group to help me because I do not want to show her any difference to some extent. She is comfortable with herself, but at 8 because of her fat level is causing her to start maturing.
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From Jennifer, Child's Age 6 - 08/24/05 - IP#: 205.188.116.xxx Click here to reply
HI.My son is 6 years old and weighs 62 pounds.He has a belly but I think he is perfect.I try to tell him he just hasent grown into his skin yet. I have recently had to come up with more definitions due to the fact he goes to his dads every other weekend and it turns out his dad and step mom are the ones telling him he is getting fat.As I write this with tears in my eyes and anger on my brain.I have talked to his dad about this and he says Im being pethetic.I know Iam not.I do not want my son to have emotional problems and hate his body.I have been looking on line for information to pass on to his dad to explain what he is saying is tramatizing to this poor boy.I have also come to the point I do not want to send my son to his fathers for this reason.But I do not want to punish my son for what he knows nothing about.AWWWW I'm so stuck can some one please help me???
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From F.Nurse, Child's Age 14 - 08/20/05 - IP#: 24.129.77.xxx Click here to reply
Parents, STOP talking about your children like this, behind their back to strangers ,instead get them personal help.
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From Ralph, Child's Age 14 - 08/20/05 - IP#: 24.254.246.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter, Rachel, is very big. I'm not exactly sure how much she weighs, because we don't believe in home scales and she refuses blatantly to get on the scale at school or the doctor's office. However, she is only around five feet tall, but wears a size 18 in jeans. We have to have them specially made from Lane Bryant to cut the length, and this can't be good. She plays no sports and is not interested in anything except books. My wife and I have no weight problems at all, and we keep no junk food in the house, but we are also an active pair. We try to get Rachel to walk the dogs with us, but she just heaves herself up and asks to stop after only about half a block. I took her to a swimming pool a few weeks ago, and I was slightly horrified at what I saw. Rachel has gained about 65 pounds in the last year, I would guess, and her stomach hid the bottom of her bikini completely. It was flabby and sick looking. I'm buying a scale in a few minutes, I just wanted to jot this down before I left. I'll post later.
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From Debbie, Child's Age 13 - 08/17/05 - IP#: 70.110.212.xxx Click here to reply
I was wondering if any mothers here of overweight children had undiagnosed or untreated gestational diabetes? I was diagnosed with it during the pregnancy of my youngest and had to give myself insulin and follow a diet and he is thin. I believe I had it with my 13 year old too but I was never tested so I never was diagnosed or treated for it. I definitely remember having the same symptoms that occurred with my youngest but never mentioned it to my ob/gyn so she never gave me the sugar test. I have since learned that gestational diabetes can cause the baby to have extra fat cells stored in him and making the baby larger than normal. With my youngest not only did I do the insulin but they induced my labor a couple weeks early to keep him from becoming too large. Now my oldest was actually born at 42 weeks or two weeks later than a normal full term pregnancy. The only reason he was... (view more)I was wondering if any mothers here of overweight children had undiagnosed or untreated gestational diabetes? I was diagnosed with it during the pregnancy of my youngest and had to give myself insulin and follow a diet and he is thin. I believe I had it with my 13 year old too but I was never tested so I never was diagnosed or treated for it. I definitely remember having the same symptoms that occurred with my youngest but never mentioned it to my ob/gyn so she never gave me the sugar test. I have since learned that gestational diabetes can cause the baby to have extra fat cells stored in him and making the baby larger than normal. With my youngest not only did I do the insulin but they induced my labor a couple weeks early to keep him from becoming too large. Now my oldest was actually born at 42 weeks or two weeks later than a normal full term pregnancy. The only reason he was born then is because they realized he had to come out immediately and it didn't appear he would be doing that on his own. So he was induced too. He looked so long and big... and all those cute little newborn diapers I had stocked up on were pretty much a waste of money because they didn't even come close to fitting him. Once again I rambled, sorry. I was just wondering about the gestational diabetes thing and if maybe that could be a contributing factor for some childrens weight problems. (view less)
From Debbie, Child's Age 13 - 08/17/05 - IP#: 70.110.212.xxx Click here to reply
Just a little story to share. When my son was 3 he was almost 90 pounds and kids his age only came up to below his chest. So I was advised to take him to a pediatric endocrinologist to have him checked. After the tests were done the doctor said that my son's metabolism was fine and that it did seem that he had a bit of and overgrowth. He was big when he was born 10 pounds and 24 inches long. The funny thing is that the doctor looked at me and said "keep him active, feed him healthy and forget about him having a career as a ballerina because he definitely isn't going to be a ballerina"
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From Marie - 08/17/05 - IP#: 198.182.163.xxx Click here to reply
...some things are just changing routine and will result in less eating. Eat at the table always, don't eat after dinner, always serve a fruit and a veggie with dinner so it balances calories, don't make leftovers, just drinking skim milk vs. whole will result in a 18lbs wt loss in one year..small changes that do not make you feel deprived. Shop the perimeter of the grocery store and skip the inner isles they contain the processed foods. Get a health magazine subscription they have awewome stories about weight loss and great meal ideas, muscle magazines are great especially for boys.
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From Marie - 08/17/05 - IP#: 198.182.163.xxx Click here to reply
I agree with both of the previous posts. Just remember in todays world we have the tools and the knowledge for weight loss. When I was growing up obese my parents did not have the knowledge and they did the best they could, therefore I did not resent them. If I were a child growing in todays world and my parent did not try every reasonable avenue to help me...support me, I would resent them in the end. As parents we protect our children from drugs, abuse etc. Food kills too and this too is our responsibility to save our children from the risks of obesity.It is never about the way the extra weight looks it is how it slows down and puts a damper on our ability to live a full and productive life and what it can do to our longevity and health.
From Debbie, Child's Age 13 - 08/15/05 - IP#: 70.110.176.xxx Click here to reply
The school year will be beginning soon and for those of us with overweight children it is a scary and worrisome time. I know that once again my son will be teased and harassed by knuckleheads who feel so bad about themselves that they need to put him down to make themselves feel better. Though my son is only 13 he is 6' 2" tall and weighs about 265. I do my best to support him in all his endeavors whether it is weight loss or some other thing he wants to accomplish. I adore him and let him know that he is great just as he is though he is aware that there are health issues with being to overweight.
We as parents must remember to give our children our full and UNCONDITIONAL love. Be a shoulder for your child to cry on, be the rock they can cling to when they feel like they are drowning be whatever they need you to be. Just losing weight is not the answer to their problems ... I... (view more)The school year will be beginning soon and for those of us with overweight children it is a scary and worrisome time. I know that once again my son will be teased and harassed by knuckleheads who feel so bad about themselves that they need to put him down to make themselves feel better. Though my son is only 13 he is 6' 2" tall and weighs about 265. I do my best to support him in all his endeavors whether it is weight loss or some other thing he wants to accomplish. I adore him and let him know that he is great just as he is though he is aware that there are health issues with being to overweight.
We as parents must remember to give our children our full and UNCONDITIONAL love. Be a shoulder for your child to cry on, be the rock they can cling to when they feel like they are drowning be whatever they need you to be. Just losing weight is not the answer to their problems ... I know that because I lost over 100 pounds and I still have the same problems in life that I had before except now I can't blame them on being overweight. Now I really have to deal with them and stop blaming my weight. Make changes in your whole families lifestyle to support your child's needs, after all even non-overweight children and parents will benefit from healthy foods and exercise. Don't make all *bad* foods completely forbidden because that just teaches the child to hide food and binge whenever they can. Allow those foods in single serving proportions and only occasionally. My son has lost a good deal of weight and he has gained a good deal of muscle from all the activities he has done this summer. I have told him I am so proud of him but not because he lost weight but because he is a wonderful person and anyone who has the chance to know him is very lucky. I will be here for him if he wants to talk about what goes on at school but I won't push him because sometimes it is even more humiliating to live it all again when telling the story. I will step in when he needs(and wants) me to. I also will be working with the school and other parents to try to figure out how to deal with the teasing and harassing that goes on every single day.
Please be strong for your children and do not make them feel like they are less because they are overweight. We are the adults and like it or not our habits and lifestyles have helped our children become overweight. We are the ones that need to make the changes to help all our children with whatever issues they may be facing. (view less)
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From Joe, Child's Age 14 - 08/15/05 - IP#: 66.8.225.xxx Click here to reply
This message refers to the previous post from Debbie. I want to thank her for her wise advice. Nothing against the well-meaning teens who post here on the parents board, but Debbie's post is just cwhat I come here to read. I'm a single dad. My two sons are 144 and 11. The 14 year old is 6'0" and weighs 325 and the 11 year old is 5'1" and a very heavy 270. I'm 380 myself and it's hard to make sure we all eat healthy when all 3 of us have big appetites. My sons say everything is OK with them, but reading Debbie's post alerted me to the fact that they may be teased at school, and I'm going to work real hard to make sure I'm there for them. Thanks again, Debbie.
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