From Marie - 08/17/05 - IP#: 198.182.163.xxx Click here to reply
I agree with both of the previous posts. Just remember in todays world we have the tools and the knowledge for weight loss. When I was growing up obese my parents did not have the knowledge and they did the best they could, therefore I did not resent them. If I were a child growing in todays world and my parent did not try every reasonable avenue to help me...support me, I would resent them in the end. As parents we protect our children from drugs, abuse etc. Food kills too and this too is our responsibility to save our children from the risks of obesity.It is never about the way the extra weight looks it is how it slows down and puts a damper on our ability to live a full and productive life and what it can do to our longevity and health.
From Debbie, Child's Age 13 - 08/15/05 - IP#: 70.110.176.xxx Click here to reply
The school year will be beginning soon and for those of us with overweight children it is a scary and worrisome time. I know that once again my son will be teased and harassed by knuckleheads who feel so bad about themselves that they need to put him down to make themselves feel better. Though my son is only 13 he is 6' 2" tall and weighs about 265. I do my best to support him in all his endeavors whether it is weight loss or some other thing he wants to accomplish. I adore him and let him know that he is great just as he is though he is aware that there are health issues with being to overweight.
We as parents must remember to give our children our full and UNCONDITIONAL love. Be a shoulder for your child to cry on, be the rock they can cling to when they feel like they are drowning be whatever they need you to be. Just losing weight is not the answer to their problems ... I... (view more)The school year will be beginning soon and for those of us with overweight children it is a scary and worrisome time. I know that once again my son will be teased and harassed by knuckleheads who feel so bad about themselves that they need to put him down to make themselves feel better. Though my son is only 13 he is 6' 2" tall and weighs about 265. I do my best to support him in all his endeavors whether it is weight loss or some other thing he wants to accomplish. I adore him and let him know that he is great just as he is though he is aware that there are health issues with being to overweight.
We as parents must remember to give our children our full and UNCONDITIONAL love. Be a shoulder for your child to cry on, be the rock they can cling to when they feel like they are drowning be whatever they need you to be. Just losing weight is not the answer to their problems ... I know that because I lost over 100 pounds and I still have the same problems in life that I had before except now I can't blame them on being overweight. Now I really have to deal with them and stop blaming my weight. Make changes in your whole families lifestyle to support your child's needs, after all even non-overweight children and parents will benefit from healthy foods and exercise. Don't make all *bad* foods completely forbidden because that just teaches the child to hide food and binge whenever they can. Allow those foods in single serving proportions and only occasionally. My son has lost a good deal of weight and he has gained a good deal of muscle from all the activities he has done this summer. I have told him I am so proud of him but not because he lost weight but because he is a wonderful person and anyone who has the chance to know him is very lucky. I will be here for him if he wants to talk about what goes on at school but I won't push him because sometimes it is even more humiliating to live it all again when telling the story. I will step in when he needs(and wants) me to. I also will be working with the school and other parents to try to figure out how to deal with the teasing and harassing that goes on every single day.
Please be strong for your children and do not make them feel like they are less because they are overweight. We are the adults and like it or not our habits and lifestyles have helped our children become overweight. We are the ones that need to make the changes to help all our children with whatever issues they may be facing. (view less)
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From Joe, Child's Age 14 - 08/15/05 - IP#: 66.8.225.xxx Click here to reply
This message refers to the previous post from Debbie. I want to thank her for her wise advice. Nothing against the well-meaning teens who post here on the parents board, but Debbie's post is just cwhat I come here to read. I'm a single dad. My two sons are 144 and 11. The 14 year old is 6'0" and weighs 325 and the 11 year old is 5'1" and a very heavy 270. I'm 380 myself and it's hard to make sure we all eat healthy when all 3 of us have big appetites. My sons say everything is OK with them, but reading Debbie's post alerted me to the fact that they may be teased at school, and I'm going to work real hard to make sure I'm there for them. Thanks again, Debbie.
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From Steve, Child's Age 23 - 08/11/05 - IP#: 200.88.31.xxx Click here to reply
I hope you all will forgive me if I slip my daughter Megan in as a child even though she is 23. (Actually Megan is not 23 emotionally as she suffers from impulsivity, low initiative and poor self esteem.) Megan weighs 220 and is 5' 6". She started gaining weight about 8 years ago when her Grandmother, with whom she had a conflicted relationship, died.
Megan still lives at home with us and is a good moral person with a great sense of humor. And as a family we eat a very healthy Mediterranean style diet with no sugar and low fat. So obviously she is bingeing offsite as she is exercising regularly with walking and an old Richard Simmons video. She has tried lots of diets with no real success.
We live in a Third world country so our access to spas, etc. is limited. We have sent her to a psychiatrist but with no real success. I see Megan having more and more physical and... (view more)I hope you all will forgive me if I slip my daughter Megan in as a child even though she is 23. (Actually Megan is not 23 emotionally as she suffers from impulsivity, low initiative and poor self esteem.) Megan weighs 220 and is 5' 6". She started gaining weight about 8 years ago when her Grandmother, with whom she had a conflicted relationship, died.
Megan still lives at home with us and is a good moral person with a great sense of humor. And as a family we eat a very healthy Mediterranean style diet with no sugar and low fat. So obviously she is bingeing offsite as she is exercising regularly with walking and an old Richard Simmons video. She has tried lots of diets with no real success.
We live in a Third world country so our access to spas, etc. is limited. We have sent her to a psychiatrist but with no real success. I see Megan having more and more physical and emotional health problems due to her obesity and am more than willing to invest financially in her future. The problem is I don't know what to do. My questions: (Finally)
1. Are there other web sites or e-mail lists, perhaps monitored by professionals,that specifically address our situation profiled above that anyone could recommend?
2. Does anyone have a recommendation on a short term live-in spa-type facility that would help Megan? Or even an Internet based support group? While we are not "big rich" money is not an issue.
3. Do concrete rewards (bribes?) help children in losing weight? Megan has ALWAYS wanted to go to Florence, Italy. I have thought about offering to send her and her mom to Florence when she loses 25 punds and keeps them off for say three months. And she also really wants a car. I've thought about getting her a car at 50# and keepng it off for six months. But I also don't want to make the situation worse and I'm no psychiatrist. Your suggestions, please?
My thanks in advance and my sympathies to the folks listed who have lost their children.
Steve (view less)
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From Nancy, Child's Age 13 - 08/07/05 - IP#: 64.12.116.xxx Click here to reply
Hi - I have a 13 year old boy soon entering 8th grade at 5'0 and 140 pounds. I would like to find an e-mail pen pal for him for moral support. Any parents have a son near the same age that might be interested in the same sort of moral support? To e-mail me - please write ncstorrs@aol.com
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From Denee, Child's Age 16 - 08/03/05 - IP#: 207.144.198.xxx Click here to reply
my child is 16 5'6 and 240 pounds I see her crying every night and I wish I could help her but everytime i bring up her weight she gets mad at me. School is coming up soon and she does not want to go because she will be laughted at and made fun of please if you can help me e-mail me at jessandgram@winco.net
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From David, Child's Age 17 - 08/03/05 - IP#: 81.79.187.xxx Click here to reply
I came here to post some very bad news. My wife Caris has been keeping you updated about our daughter who was 500+ and almost immobile. I just thought I'd let you know that she passed away 3 days ago. She had just started on a supervised weightloss programme and had been donig very well. I guess it was too late for her. :(
I'm also very shocked and saddened to find out that another obese child from this board has passed away this week also.
Please don't let this happen to your child, stop them before they get as big as our Jen did.
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From matte, Child's Age 8 - 08/03/05 - IP#: 193.181.154.xxx Click here to reply
I guess I have the same problem, both I and my son overeat a lot. Are you or anyone else in the family heavy too?
Who pays for his food? Couldnt you buy less food? Is he mobile enough to buy his own food? How about a lock on the fridge. Does he drink a lot of sodas? I started buying sparkling water instead, my son got used to that after some time.
I guess your doctor is right unfortunately, if he keeps gaining like this he will not survive, what did he say when the doc told him that?
From Harold, Child's Age 16 - 07/29/05 - IP#: 84.65.162.xxx Click here to reply
I have to share a sad, sad story eith you. Last week, my daughter died in her sleep, she weighed 200 lbs and was very tall(being nearly 6ft). She was thinking very posotivly as the next day she was going to join a gym and get hel;p for her weight. She never had that oportunity so i am encouraging you, to help your children through this difficault challange. I know it's difficault as I myself was an overwigh child, being nearly 300pounds at 15 I won the battle and am just so shocked and sad that my lovely daughter Abigayle never even took the first step. God bless you and your children.
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From Haley - 07/28/05 - IP#: 66.169.202.xxx Click here to reply
hey ppls i am looking to help ppl as myself to loose weight and i was wondering if someone would like their kid to bond with ppl like them and make friends their size and loose weight together i am 5 feet tall and 142 pounds and i would like someone to help me so we can help eachother my email address is koolie420@yahoo.com
From Jean, Child's Age 13 - 07/22/05 - IP#: 4.159.110.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter is 13 years old and about 5'1. She weighs about 135 at the most. She thinks she is overweight, but I don't know. She would really like to be 115 pounds before school starts, but she doesn't know how to lose the weight. She is a very picky eater, and during the summer, she gets so bored and all she does is eat.But it is very hard to lose the weight for her. She doesn't know what to do.
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From Geena, Child's Age 12 - 07/22/05 - IP#: 205.188.116.xxx Click here to reply
Everyone i need help with my daughter she is almost 13 and 5'7 weighs 230 i am 43 an though i am overweight i weigh less and that makes her feel bad. She really wants to diet but it is hard because she is a vegetarian. I am a single parent and have a VERY busy life and most times can't go to the grocery store so we end up eating out. She is already a fairly tight size 18 and i don't want her to get biger. CAN ANYONE HELP?
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From Tessa - 07/22/05 - IP#: 205.188.116.xxx Click here to reply
I was reading some of the comments posted here and i was a little dissapointed. For those who are reading this i do not mean to offend anyone, but some of you are only concerned with the weight factor of your childs health. I know I am only 15 and have not had a child of my own, but a lot of what i am reading is "I love my children but they're so heavy." and it's right for you to be concerned with your childs weight but not be criticizing them in the process of helping them. I am not going to name names but one woman stated that her daughter's stomach was quote "big, fat, and flabby." would you want your parents to talk about your body in this manner? No one wants to be told that it's just mean. My point is you should tell your kids the positive things about their body and not the negetive and that will most likly build self esteem. One of the most important keys to weight loss is self esteem and believing in your self. Thank you for taking time to read my comment (and to some rambling) - Contessa
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From Caris, Child's Age 17 - 07/14/05 - IP#: 84.68.223.xxx Click here to reply
Thanks for all the replies to my posts. I'm not sure if you've been reading about my daughter but I thought I'd give you a quick update.
The doctor wouldn't do a house call at first, but I went back and demanded that he did it. I told him that my daughters life was in danger and that I would sue if he didn't help me. Well he finally agreed to come around to check her out. After doing that he aranged for an ambulence to pick her up and take her to the hospital so that she could be weighed, and have everything checked. and also to see a nutritionist.
We found out that she weighs 541lbs so she was a bit over what I'd guessed and has a BMI of 98.9. They've let her come home and put her on a special diet. She has to go back to the hospital every week to be weighed and be checked over. The doctor has also put me in touch with a group that does water aerobics for bigger women a few... (view more)Thanks for all the replies to my posts. I'm not sure if you've been reading about my daughter but I thought I'd give you a quick update.
The doctor wouldn't do a house call at first, but I went back and demanded that he did it. I told him that my daughters life was in danger and that I would sue if he didn't help me. Well he finally agreed to come around to check her out. After doing that he aranged for an ambulence to pick her up and take her to the hospital so that she could be weighed, and have everything checked. and also to see a nutritionist.
We found out that she weighs 541lbs so she was a bit over what I'd guessed and has a BMI of 98.9. They've let her come home and put her on a special diet. She has to go back to the hospital every week to be weighed and be checked over. The doctor has also put me in touch with a group that does water aerobics for bigger women a few times a week. So as soon as she's lost a little bit of weight, enough to walk to the car then I'm going to take her to that. (I'll be going along with her because I'm in need of losing a few pounds too)She's doing so well now. She does have her moments of crying and being upset. She says she's starving which breaks my heart, but I'm not going to let my daughter die and when you're at the stage of not being able to stand under your own power then I can't imagine the strain it's putting on your heart. We are also waiting for the results of some blood tests they took to see if there is anything that is causing the weight, other than over eating and laziness.
But parents (and kids that are reading this board) let this be a warning to you. My daughter can't stand. My daughter has probably ruined her health a lot even if she does get thinner. Please don't let your children get to this stage. (view less)
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From concerned dad, Child's Age 7 - 07/10/05 - IP#: 66.8.224.xxx Click here to reply
Our son is 7-1/2, is 49" tall, and weighs 137 lbs. He's a real happy kid, has a lot of friends, and is real active. He has a real big appetite, takes seconds and thirds at all meals, and loves his snacks. I'm heavy and my wife is real heavy. I think we should all try to cut down, because our son has put on about 45 lbs in the last year. My wife doesn't think my son has any problems and says we shouldn't do anything which could make him feel he has a problem. Any advice from other parents out there? Thanks.
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