From Vincent, Child's Age 15 - 08/28/05 - IP#: 24.125.69.xxx  Click here to reply  
Hi folks I need help with my daughter. She is around 350lbs and all of it seems to be in her lower half. She has somthing like a 80inch waist and a massive rear end. She plays soccer with my son who is 6 but she is just to big to really move alot so she just sits on the ground infront of the goal. Her big sister is a chearleader and does some modeling so she is always so jelous. I dont think her health is much of an issue at this point because the doctor tells me shes fine healthily its just that all she can fit into is a pair of 9X sweats and a massive T shirt. She wears normal close to school, but usualy u can see her belly becasue most shirts dont cover her. Is there any athletic activities that you recomend for a girl with such a big waist and bottom because he thighs make it almost impossible for her to walk very long. We have a indoor pool, but she doesnt really like to swim and im not around alot to help her with stuff usualy our maids do most of the cooking and things of that sort. Could youall give me some advice.
worried in Flordia.
Reply from Miranda, Child's Age 12 - 12/29/06  - IP#: 209.89.134.xxx
You can't force your Child to exersize or do anything they don't want to. You can limit time spent on the computer or watching TV. Try and find some cool music your kids like and ask them to do an aerobic workout with the music on. Try and eat healthy foods most of the time and don't eat fast food if you can avoid it. also try to talk to your child and make them aware that there are health risks associated with being over weight. Hope this helps!

 
Reply from Vincent, Child's Age 15 - 10/09/05  - IP#: 24.125.69.xxx
thankyou for all your support guys. It seems that her diet that the doctor put her on has helped her loose about 15pounds ontop of the 6 she lost at the begaining. its nice to know somepeople accauly care and thats very comforting. So once agian thanyou.

 
Reply from Debbie, Child's Age 13 - 10/04/05  - IP#: 70.16.156.xxx
Vincent, I haven't gotten here in quite awhile but I am happy that your daughter is having success with her weight. It really is about loving the heck out of them and when they finally decide it is time then they will do it. My son dropped 20 pounds this summer and he does a million times better with food temptations than I do. I told him that he is my hero. He also grew an inch and now is about 6'4"... I hope he stops growing soon because he barely clears our doorways(heightwise) and he now wears a size 16 in shoes which look like small canoes docked in our closet. Good luck to you and your beautiful children in all that you strive to do!!

 
Reply from janeal, Child's Age 15 - 09/30/05  - IP#: 12.203.162.xxx
i I am the mother of janeal wilcoxson she is 12 and weigh 255 she is on this fab diet that is working I really wanted to send her to this camp/bording school the best in the coutry but of course i could not afford it but u may can its 2,000 a mouth but they have coverage and a loan plan it maded me sound that i could not send her but i dufffuclty think u can probably send ur daugheer its NAF u can go to yahoo and look up schools foe over weight teens it helpp my daughter alot here is my daughter email so u and her daughter and be good friends nealiegirl15@yahoo.com

 
Reply from Vincent, Child's Age 15 - 09/16/05  - IP#: 24.125.69.xxx
Yes, we had her checked. Accualy her mom had her checked. She does not have any problems. Her weight is all due to overeating and no exersise. Its just so wierd for me that shes so big... her sister is a size 2 and my girlfriend is a size 2 and her mom is a size around there. I am happy to report that the docter put her on a diet and she has lost 6 pounds. Thankyou for your support.

 
Reply from Debbie, Child's Age 13 - 09/11/05  - IP#: 70.110.144.xxx
Vincent, have you ever had your daughter checked for hypothyroidism? It is always good to rule that out when someone gains weight and has no energy. That way if she does have it then she can be put on medication and her metabolism will improve and she would get her energy back. Don't get me wrong the medication won't make her lose weight ... I wish it was that easy but it would help. You seem to be such a concerned dad and she is lucky to have you. I know what you mean when you say that no one in your family has been overweight and it is difficult to deal with. My youngest son who is 6 is as thin as a rail and I am always going "how did that happen in this family of bigger people" I know it is different than your situation but I definitely grasp it.

 
Reply from Vincent, Child's Age 15 - 09/02/05  - IP#: 24.125.69.xxx
Well I agree that Its not all due to lazyness it is partialy due to it. That is why she gaint so much weight. She just never got off the couch to do anything and in a couple years the weight just piled up. Also I think it is partily due to my fault because due to the face im off doing business I tended to spoil her. But anyhows I will take what you said to hart. Nobody in my family has ever been fat so its just akward for me to deal with this. Thankyou for the advice.

 
Reply from Debbie, Child's Age 13 - 08/31/05  - IP#: 70.110.145.xxx
I seen that you wrote that your daughter is quite lazy but I must tell you that if she is 350 then you must realize that doing most physical things at that weight is exhausting. Hauling around that much weight stresses the body in so many ways, I know because I was there at one time. Depression is also quite common in overweight children because life is so difficult for them. Everyone seems to judge and criticize them, the kids at school, their parents and most of all even themselves. The truth is that your daughter needs to decide for herself that it is time to lose weight. You as the parent need to support her without pushing it. Get active with her, keep the processed and unhealthy foods out of the house but NEVER criticize her if you think she isn't trying hard enough. More physical activity and healthier foods are good for everyone whether they are fat or skinny. Just stick with what you can do with her and support her, talk with her and just be there for her with complete and unconditional love. Being fat my entire life I know that there wasn't a single morsel of food that went into my mouth just because I was hungry ... it was always about trying to stuff something down. Like my thoughts, my emotions and pain... trying to fill some empty hole inside. You may see your daughter as someone who is too lazy or inactive and someone who eats too much but I guarantee you that it is so much more than that. I know that my son became very overweight when he was quite young because he was his fat mommys' eating buddy. He struggles now because of me but I am here for him and he is really starting to overcome this and I am so proud of him. I wish the best for you and your daughter but please remember that there is something more going on than what you see on the outside of your daughter. The inside must heal for the outside to change.

 
Reply from vincent, Child's Age 15 - 08/30/05  - IP#: 24.125.69.xxx
yea she cant run track. Aperently she has lost about 20 pounds to thats good, but she just has such a large bottom half. She wants to loose some weight because people always tell her she has such a pretty face. How sterotypical eh? but yes iv gotten her to play basketball everyday so thats good and she has started walking a mile everyday. She isnt having too much trouble she is just quite lazy so its hard to get her motivated to do it but when she gets started she can do it. So thankyou for the advice and if anyone else has any sugestions than please post them.

 
Reply from Matthew, Child's Age 8 - 08/30/05  - IP#: 165.247.220.xxx
Hi well i think track or tennis or basketball are good, because you know u dont have to run all that far and can customize it and it is a good workout. And if you want to talk about it email me at wildernes@seeqmail.com or i think talking to her might help too. i hope things improve