From sum gurl, Age 13 - 11/21/03 - IP#: 69.75.6.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
here's a quesion that has nuttin 2 do with health...y is it that the gurls also gotta b perfect for guys to lyke them??? lyke we always gotta b skinny, we gotta b smart... talented and all that...
Reply From anne, Age 16 - 11/22/03 - IP#: 216.66.108.xxx show message replied to go to original board
i'm not perfect and guys like me...my sister's obese and she's always had guys. you just need to look for a guy with a great personality and wait untill they're mature enough to accept you for who you are...
From roxie, Age 17 - 10/09/03 - IP#: 195.93.32.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
my boyfriend is 16, he is 5'6" and approximatly 250lbs. His waist has a 52" circumferance and he always complains that his legs ache. he doesn't see that this is due to his vast weight problem and he constantly eats high fat foods. How can i make him see this is dangerous, i love him.
Reply From anne, Age 16 - 10/09/03 - IP#: 216.66.108.xxx show message replied to go to original board
my boyfriend's getting a little bigger too and i know in the future it will hurt his health- what we do though- is find fun physical activities to do. we walk to the store or play this game called dance dance revalution- today we're going jogging. find ways to slowly introduce him into exersize- say that it's for you and make him do it too- but make sure it's someything you both can stick to and try to make it as consistant as possable at least everyother day...
From robin, Age 13 - 08/18/03 - IP#: 68.104.110.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Ht. 5'9", Today: 150 lb (BMI %tile: 81) - why is it that someone wont like someone becasue the way they lo0k? i mean isnt it supposed to be about the personality, intellagence , and humor? i mean i am kinda hipocritacal about this but when i get to kno someone even if they are "ugly" or "fat" i get over that because of their personalites. i hate wen i hear from my guy friends that wow that gurl is hott i should get with her .... i mean they dont even kno if the chik is the meanest girl in the world! they are so0 sterotipical !! well , sumtimes ill be like wow that guy is hott .... go talk to him .... N get to know him and something like smoking makes him ugly ..... i mean a guy wouldnt care if u smoked if u were "hott" ..... is it only me that noticed this ? also, i am like 5 9 N 150ish i have a few extra lbz here N there but im not obice .... ppl r mean and i was in a fast fo0d resteraunt and i walked by these two preppy skinny chickz and i overheard them ... they were sitting there cappin on fat ppl .... i was appauled ! then they sed lo0k at that one ... they didnt point but i knew they were talkin bout me ! agh well i wrote enough .... now i feel better because maybe someone will answer back with some of there input on this subject! thankz a bunch yall! much luv! out
Reply From Arianna, Age 14 - 08/18/03 - IP#: 12.250.233.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Some people just know what type of girl they want. Everyone has different prefrences and for some looks come first and personality second. As long as you keep yourself well groomed and presentable a good should like you for you.
From robin, Age 13 - 08/18/03 - IP#: 68.104.110.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Ht. 5'9", Today: 150 lb (BMI %tile: 81) - why is it that someone wont like someone becasue the way they lo0k? i mean isnt it supposed to be about the personality, intellagence , and humor? i mean i am kinda hipocritacal about this but when i get to kno someone even if they are "ugly" or "fat" i get over that because of their personalites. i hate wen i hear from my guy friends that wow that gurl is hott i should get with her .... i mean they dont even kno if the chik is the meanest girl in the world! they are so0 sterotipical !! well , sumtimes ill be like wow that guy is hott .... go talk to him .... N get to know him and something like smoking makes him ugly ..... i mean a guy wouldnt care if u smoked if u were "hott" ..... is it only me that noticed this ? also, i am like 5 9 N 150ish i have a few extra lbz here N there but im not obice .... ppl r mean and i was in a fast fo0d resteraunt and i walked by these two preppy skinny chickz and i overheard them ... they were sitting there cappin on fat ppl .... i was appauled ! then they sed lo0k at that one ... they didnt point but i knew they were talkin bout me ! agh well i wrote enough .... now i feel better because maybe someone will answer back with some of there input on this subject! thankz a bunch yall! much luv! out
Reply From Arianna, Age 14 - 08/18/03 - IP#: 12.250.233.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Some people just know what type of girl they want. Everyone has different prefrences and for some looks come first and personality second. As long as you keep yourself well groomed and presentable a good should like you for you.
From ALICIA, Age 14 - 08/14/03 - IP#: 205.188.208.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Today: 168 lb - HI MY NAME IS ALICIA AND I WIEGH 168 LBS AND I HAVE NO CONFIDENCE IN MYSELF BECAUSE I AM OVER WEIGHT. I GET OFTEN ASKED IF I WAS PREGNANT BECAUSE OF MY STOMACH.I AM DEPRESSED AND I SHOULDN'T BE. I CRY EVERY NIGHT BECAUSE IT HURTS SO MUCH THAT I GET TEASED. WHEN I FINALLY GET THE COURAGE TO ASK A BOY THAT I HAD A CRUSH ON OUT HE JUST IGNORED ME THAT MADE HATE MY BODY EVEN MORE I AM STARTING HIGH SCHOOL IN 2 WEEKS AND I WANT TO IKNOW HOW TO LOOSE 40 LBS IN 2 WEEKS BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO GET TEASED AND I WANT TO HAVE CONFIDENCE TO TALK TO BOYS. IF ANYONE KNOWS HOW I COULD PLEASE E-MIAL ME AT OMARISBABYGURL84@AOL.COM. THIS WOULD REALLY TAKE ME OUT OF MY DEPRESSION.
Reply From charlotte, Age 17 - 08/14/03 - IP#: 68.165.42.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I agree with Jenna, there is no healthy way for you to lose 40 lbs in 2 weeks. However, high school could be the start of a "new" you. That is, become more confident and sure of yourself. Don't think that that guy didn't want to go out with you because you were overweight, he didn't deserve you because you are a better person than he is. Stand up tall, and make your presence known, in a good way of course. Be friendly and upbeat and care about people. Most of all, care about yourself. Take care of your body. Instead of thinking "oh I have to lose so much weight" think "I should take better care of my body." Try to eat healthier foods, try new activities and just have fun.
~chaz
From ALICIA, Age 14 - 08/14/03 - IP#: 205.188.208.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Today: 168 lb - HI MY NAME IS ALICIA AND I WIEGH 168 LBS AND I HAVE NO CONFIDENCE IN MYSELF BECAUSE I AM OVER WEIGHT. I GET OFTEN ASKED IF I WAS PREGNANT BECAUSE OF MY STOMACH.I AM DEPRESSED AND I SHOULDN'T BE. I CRY EVERY NIGHT BECAUSE IT HURTS SO MUCH THAT I GET TEASED. WHEN I FINALLY GET THE COURAGE TO ASK A BOY THAT I HAD A CRUSH ON OUT HE JUST IGNORED ME THAT MADE HATE MY BODY EVEN MORE I AM STARTING HIGH SCHOOL IN 2 WEEKS AND I WANT TO IKNOW HOW TO LOOSE 40 LBS IN 2 WEEKS BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO GET TEASED AND I WANT TO HAVE CONFIDENCE TO TALK TO BOYS. IF ANYONE KNOWS HOW I COULD PLEASE E-MIAL ME AT OMARISBABYGURL84@AOL.COM. THIS WOULD REALLY TAKE ME OUT OF MY DEPRESSION.
Reply From charlotte, Age 17 - 08/14/03 - IP#: 68.165.42.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I agree with Jenna, there is no healthy way for you to lose 40 lbs in 2 weeks. However, high school could be the start of a "new" you. That is, become more confident and sure of yourself. Don't think that that guy didn't want to go out with you because you were overweight, he didn't deserve you because you are a better person than he is. Stand up tall, and make your presence known, in a good way of course. Be friendly and upbeat and care about people. Most of all, care about yourself. Take care of your body. Instead of thinking "oh I have to lose so much weight" think "I should take better care of my body." Try to eat healthier foods, try new activities and just have fun.
~chaz
From Amber, Age 17 - 06/27/03 - IP#: 4.63.124.xxx go to original board
There was just a messege on here after stephanie's messege and I don't know where it went.They where saying that they were worried about their friend b/c they felt their friend was becoming overweight and while I was replying the messege went away. (I know I am not crazy...lol). So here is what I wrote them: If you are worried about telling your friend your feelings then I suggest that you spend more time with her. Invited her over to your house and have salads for dinner,or go to the mall all day so you both can get some exercise. You can ask her to join a walk-a-thon with you (even just a 3 mile one) and then you both can "practice" walking the 3 miles together a few times a week until the day of the walk-a-thon. Possible tell her you feel you are fat and want to lose 5 or 10 poundss, then ask her to be you "diet buddy". You may be able to help her lose some weight with out even telling her you think she is fat. I hope this helps. Bye.
From Lacy, Age 15 - 04/21/03 - IP#: 65.28.35.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Ht. 5'3", Today: 136 lb (BMI %tile: 84) - Hi, I am 5'3 and 136 pounds. I am not as overweight as I used to be, but I still feel fat. I have been trying to lose weight so this one guy might like me. I really like him, and he knows it, but doesnt want to be my boyfriend. I THINK THAT IF I WOULD LOSE A LITTLE MORE WEIGHT (10 pounds or so) AND LOOK MORE APPEALING HE WOULD LIKE ME MORE AND WE COULD GO TO THE DANCE THIS COMMING FRIDAY TOGETHER!!!? I dont want to go with anyone but him and I really need to be thin because of this. I AM TO THE POINT WHERE I THINK I'LL JUST STARVE MYSELF TO LOSE SOME WEIGHT AND LOOK BETTER. ***Even if its just short-term... thats ok. I just have to look thin for awhile to get him to this dance.*** HELP ME! I dont really want to starve myself, so if there is any diet that really works... TELL ME SOMETHING I AM DESPERATE!!!!! (I'm going nuts here. I am not eating dinner! I think I'll tell my parents I have too much homework and go sleep in my room and avoid them.)
Reply From lisa, Age 14 - 04/21/03 - IP#: 65.144.130.xxx show message replied to go to original board
DONT LOSE WEIGHT FOR A GUY. trust me if the guy doesnt like you now he isnt going to like you because of 10 lbs. He isnt worth it. a friend of mine was only 125lbs and her bf told her she needed to lose weight. She began to starve herself like you want to and became anerexic. Her boyfriend ended up breaking up with her while she was in rehab. When she got back to school he thought she looked great and wanted to date her. But what good is it if they only like you when you are skinny. they have to be there for you in the hard times too. dont change appearance for someone else. plz dont
From male, Age 14 - 04/09/03 - IP#: 64.107.141.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
My friend asked me to help him loose weight even though he dosent think he needs to he will make me happy HE IS 220 lbs 5 ft 11 inches 38 inch waste i tryed a weight calcuylater it said he had 41 lbs of fat and 178 of hean muscle etc can some one help me help him loose about 10 + lbs he WONT do nothing that makes him sweat and his stomach is so large it is not hideable you can see from yards away . Please help me help him i worried he will gett heart disease diabedes obeisety and deathj to if he works to hard once he had to run to clas from floor 1 to floor 3 he was panting son hard i wthink i would need to get a O2 tank. Please help Jis stomach proboly extends 6+ inches with one HUGE and I mean huge role please help
Reply From charlotte, Age 16 - 04/13/03 - IP#: 68.165.42.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I hope this replies to the right message because my computer is acting a bit funny. If you don't mind you should probably "diet" with him. If he's eating fruit and veggies while everyone else is eating sweets and crisps then you should eat fruit and veggies too. Do fun and active stuff with him too, like going and playing fribee or football at the park. It will make it easier on him to lose weight and stay motivated knowing that you are there for him.
From Liz, Age 18 - 04/09/03 - IP#: 144.136.144.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Wow what a response! Thanks to all those who relied to my ealier question it gave me some new thoughts on the issue. And yes ami 'fat' guys dont really appeal to me BUT a guy can be a little chunky and its ok, but if a girl is normal weight or slightly overweight she is rejected. I am not obese or anything, just slighlty overweight is all. See for a girl to be attractive, she has to be VERY skinny, yet a guy can be very skinny or normal or slightly meaty and it makes no difference. Good point to who said guys just look for who they can have on a physical level. A complicated issue this one... but I still think some guys are shallow!
Reply From Georgina, Age 14 - 04/09/03 - IP#: 195.93.33.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I know exactly what you mean, but one other thing, next time you are out in town on a weekend, look around you at all the girls and women who are part of a couple. You will see that they are all different shapes and sizes!!!! So it must be possible and different boys must like different sizes! I don't know how it happens though!! But I told my brother (he is 19) what you said because he always has slimmish girlfriends and he said that a girl could have either a pretty face or a great body, it doesn't need to be both! But he also said that last summer when he was working on a children's camp (he is a student) there was a girl who was chubby and not particularly pretty and at first he wasn't interested in her, then as he was working with her and he got to know how much fun and interesting she was, he started to really like her, and he asked her on a date but she said no!!! (He is quite good-looking). So anyways that is just my thoughts on what youh said but it seems like there is always hope!!!!
From Blaire, Age 13 - 04/09/03 - IP#: 152.163.188.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Hi, this really isnt about me its about my friend. See, shes my age and 5'6 and 150 lbs. She used to be really skinny like 2 months ago but she gained like 20lbs in 2 months. All she does is eat, and I'm really worried about her. She doesn't think that she is overweight and she thinks that I'm just over reacting, but shes my best firend. If anyone can help mehow to tell my friend, email me at artgal16713@aol.com
Reply From Marie, Age 14 - 04/09/03 - IP#: 65.28.35.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Hi, it does sound like your friend may be overeating. Try to help your friend by suggesting healthier food to munch on (since she/he insists on eating) Try fruit instead of chips... stuff like that. Otherwise, its your friends choice. One day it will come to her, shes overweight. but as of right now, shes ok, just not in great shape. I wouldnt tell her shes fat or anything. just gently say to her, "you need to keep that great body you have, dont blow it on snack food when ur not hungry". or if you are overweight, "Will you help me eat better, will you try this diet with me?" Just make up stuff like that. but dont give her too many compliments otherwise she will think shes fine and wont change her habits. Good luck.
From Kirstie, Age 11 - 02/10/03 - IP#: 67.235.152.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
I am having a big problem. I don't know how to make friends and keep them. I become a friend with somebody and they dont want to be my friend anymore. I need some advice how to make friends and keep them. Please oh please help me.
Reply From Georgina, Age 14 - 02/12/03 - IP#: 195.93.33.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Ask them questions about themself. Most people LOVE talking about themself and it makes them like the person who is asking. Show a genuiene interest in them. Smile and laugh a lot. It really works!!!
From Todd, Age 13 - 02/09/03 - IP#: 209.204.121.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Today: 180 lb, Goal: 140 lb - Weigh 180 right now. Want to get down to 140. Please help! Want to impress someone special. Thanks for any excercise tips or dieting tips. ---Todd---
Reply From narisa, Age 17 - 02/09/03 - IP#: 205.188.208.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Hey Tod, you shouldnt lose weight because you want to impress someone special, you should do it for yourself! I mean its good that you want to impress her, but she should be impressed with you just the way you are! If she's already impressed then it doesnt hurt to impress more i guess hehe , but make sure that ur doing it for the right reasonS! If she didnt like you before you lost weight and she ends up liking you afterwards, why would you want someone so superficial anyways?? It's just a thought...
From Jessica, Age 11 - 02/05/03 - IP#: 216.221.81.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Today: 120 lb - WELL I HAVENT REACHED A GOAL I WEIGH 120 POUNDS AND I CRY ABOUT IT EVERY NIGHT I HAVE LOTZ OF FRIENDS AND I AM POPULAR BUT NO BOYZ LIKE ME THAT MUCH THIS ONE GUY HIS NAME IS ANDREW HE ONLY WOOD LIKE ME I DID SOMETHING WITH HIM AND I DONT WANNA DO THAT KINDA STUFF I AM TO YOUNG WELL ANYWAYZ I CANT EVEN FIT INTO SIZE 16 KIDS AND I AM A 5 FOR TEENS !!! ITS VERY EMBRASSING I AM TRYING TO STRAVE MYSLEF BUT WHENEVER I SEE SOMETHING YUMMY I JUST WANNA EAT IT SO I THINK THATS WHAT I AM GOING OT DO STARVE MYSLEF!!!!!! I REALLY DONT CARE IF I DIE OF IT !! BECAUSE I AM WAY TO FAT !!
Reply From gemma, Age 14 - 02/09/03 - IP#: 172.136.97.xxx show message replied to go to original board
hi jessica
dont worry!! forget that stupid boy andrew...find ur self a guy who liks you for you ok!!
if u want to lose weight u can...im in the same position as you overweight and i hate it to!!
dont go crazy over starvin urself this is how u get ill...u need to eat healthfully and do some exercise evan if its walkin to the store once in a while its a start...plus ur still quite young so work hard to get it off now then thx ur self later...keep ur chin up gurl
gemma
ps good luck...and love ur self ok
From Anonymous, Age 16 - 01/25/03 - IP#: 24.192.202.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
hi everyone. i was wondering if any of u feel the same way as i do. i'm fat and disgusted by what i see in the mirror everyday. i try to go on diet but i just can't stick with it. i also blame weight and ugliness on not EVER having a boyfriend in my entire life. and i'm already 16. i've NEVER even gone on a single date before. if any of u r going through the same thing or have any advice please reply. thank u very much
Reply From catherine, Age 17 - 01/27/03 - IP#: 195.92.168.xxx show message replied to go to original board
i know the way u guys r feeling. i never had a boyfriend up until a year ago. i blamed that on being fat because im 220lbs and thought no guy could ever like me. i decided i hated feeling sorry for myself and to look like i didnt care about my weight and b confident even if i wasnt. well it worked and i have the most gorgeous boyfriend who is a fitness instructer & doesnt care about my weight. people send out vibes and men arent attracted 2 negative vibes. if you make the effort you will get a boyfriend....good luck....xxx
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