From Louise, Age 15 - 05/19/03 - IP#:  Click here to reply  
Ht. 5'2", Today: 154 lb (BMI %tile: 95) - Hi, my name is Louise. I'm 5'2 and about 154 pounds. I've been overweight since I was about 8. It is making me so unhappy! The worst thing is the comments that people make especially my mum. She calls me names and teases me about my weight all the time. It hurts so much and its like I'm always waiting for the next critisism. Like today when she dropped me and two friends off at school she said that in future I should walk cos I'm getting too fat. Last weekend she was shouting at me for not helping enough in the house and she called me a "big fat thing". She is always telling people I am fat in front of me and she calls me dumpy. My dad tells me I have no personality and no sense of humor. I feel so self consious at school and I hate PE (getting changed). I only have a few friends. I think my mum hates me. I have never felt close to her. We are very different in every way (including looks) as I am adopted. She is dark and has always been skinny although she has gained weight lately. I have always been blonde and chubbier. She keeps telling me that she always thought I would be tall and slim but instead I am short and fat. When I buy new clothes she says that everything I pick out is only for slim people. Its like she never stops. I can't remember anyone ever saying anything good about me and I feel like such a failure and a dissappointment. I know it looks like I am feeling sorry for myself but it is how I feel. Like there is no hope. I feel totally alone. Most days I wish I was dead.
Reply from kristin, Age 15 - 07/27/04  - IP#:
im 15 and im 5ft 7 in tall and weight 185 am i overwieght?i thing im fat and i got low self astem .
Reply from jessie, Age 16 - 05/28/03  - IP#:
It sounds to me like your mom isnt a very nice lady. I understand that it is really hard to lose weight when you have no support, but we are all here for you and you dont want to die. Life is the greatest gift and the grass always looks greener on the other side. There are also unhappy skinny people look at your mom she wouldnt say that to you if she was happy with herself. If i was you I would stand up and tell her that you dont appreciate her rude comments and that this is you and she should love you no matter what!
Reply from Leigh - 05/21/03  - IP#:
Louise. You seem like a great person who needs to tell her mom how she feels. Teasing you might just be her way of fighting back. Confront her and explain to her how she makes you feel when she teases you. She might not even realize how much it hurts you. Stay strong and keep thinking positive.
Please stay in touch with me! Reply to my message! Byes~ Leigh
Reply from April, Age 14 - 05/20/03  - IP#:
Aww Louise don't feel bad. my mother did at to me too. But since I am very strong-willed I todl her how much I hated it. It took a while for her to realize how hurt I really was. Just stand up for yourself and tell her how she is not helping you any by telling you how fat you are. Sometimes parents thin they are helping you by telling you you are overwight (as if you don't already know). Just explain yourself, that's all you can do. And if she doesn't care, show her how much you care by actually trying to lose weight FOR YOURSELF (not for her). And never feel like dying. Life is already short enough. *SMYLE 4 YOU*
Reply from kelsey, Age 14 - 05/19/03  - IP#:
Your mom is verbally abusing you, this sounds like serious problem, especially beacuse she has altered your thinking, It is a good possibility that she is doing this to feel good about herself, I suggest you feel brave enough to confront her about it, and if she still does not lay-off I suggest you take matters into your own hands and tell a school counsler, they can get help for you and your mom.
Okay then, hoped I helped,
Reply from brittany, Age 13 - 05/19/03  - IP#:
hey i know how u feel ok besides the mom thing i amd over whight and i'm working on exercising and if you will write back and maby if you have AOL than we could talk ok well i got to go ok bye wish ya luck