From Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/03/19 - IP#: 174.239.10.xxx  Click here to reply  
My sons' checkup with the pediatrician went well. She told me that the blood tests show normal blood sugar and cholesterol and something called an A1C test shows no evidence of prediabetes. Their blood pressures are normal. Leo is 5'1" and weighs 227 and Lane is still 4'8" but his weight is now 145. I talked with her afterwards. The need is to keep them from gaining more weight. As they get taller their weights should match their height.
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/21/19  - IP#: 39.44.71.xxx
Also do they have double chin, lovehandles(these are indicators that one is obese), also does your oldest have fat rolls making it difficult to do exercises, then u can do sit down exercises, like sit ups, lunges maybe, also does he get back pain after walking many blocks or red in the face?
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/21/19  - IP#: 39.44.71.xxx
Is important because if they're overweight at 12 years and they continue to gain then in their late teens they won't be able to enjoy teenage years so don't make them feel humiliated but politely make them understand rather than being to late to address the issue
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/21/19  - IP#: 39.44.71.xxx
..that they've gained weight, so wearing something fitted on the body may make them realize and they'll not gain more. Also don't buy much baggy t shirts also they don't make the kids realise of their weight gain, and not fitted but normal size shirts So they don't feel fat too but realisation..
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/21/19  - IP#: 39.44.71.xxx
Jesse, does your kids eat a lot in general or do they eat a lot of junk food, or sugary stuff? You also said they wear sweat pants around the house, probably stop that, because that's where the problem lies as they don't know when they've gained as they're pants are stretchy and they don't realis
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
..seconds and thirds at meals, just like Leo had been doing. They're not self conscious at all about how fat they are. When we were in Florida in January, they had no problem going shirtless. They have cousins there who are chubby and nothing was said about how big my boys have gotten.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
...Papa reload every month. You asked if they started to put on eeight afrer my wife died. Not right away, Leo started to get a little chubby 4 years ago, took boys husky sizes, then his weight ballooned 2 years ago. Lane got chubby when Leo's weight took off, then last summer he started eating
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
...with meals. They bring home lunch to school (no school cafeteria). Sandwiches, cookies, chips, piece of fruit.School sells milk, ice cream, fruit juice. Both boys have an allowance which I know they spend on snacks. My wife's parents (they live in Florida) gave them debit cards which Mama and
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
..pudding, cool whip. Their mom would have gotten a kick out of it, although she baked from scratch. For dinner we always have protein, starch, veggies (boy's like all veg), dessert. Breakfast weekdays is cereal/milk, toast, milk, fruit. Weekends we make pancakes/waffles, eggs, meat. They drink milk
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
One thing we all do together is cook and bake. Their mom loved and left a recipe file and sometimes we make her specialties. Both really get a kick out of helping me and they make simple recipes themselves. Last night they made dessert, chocolate cream pies. Bought pie shells, instant
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
Both have old phones that can only be used to call/text. Lane is going through a stage where he asks me a lot about his mom. Leo has memories of her but Lane doesn't so it's hard for him. Lane looks more like her (hair and eye color, shape of face) and he's happy when I remind him of that.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
Leo has never broken any furniture. They both like school and at parent-teacher conferences I am always told their peer relationships at school are very good. Their free time at home is spent reading (encouraged by school + their mom loved to read), video games. Limited time on their laptop.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
Both boys go to a charter school with no dress code so they wear sweatpants and polo shirts (men's size XXL for Leo, same size as me, L for Lane. If we go somewhere where sweatpants aren't appropriate they wear jeans as I said before.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
Sarah, Leo doesn't mention any of the pain you describe. Lane either. When we go to the mall we're not racing around. Leo is a little slow because he saddles but no problem. We're not walking long distances. Both boys say they're tired and hungry after walking. Both do chores at home, no problems.
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 39.44.115.xxx
Does Leo have any pain related to his weight? Or pain when he gets up from sleep or gets up from the couch after long time? Many overweight kids experience that also when they are standing up after long time, does he find difficult to stand at one place for a long time like shopping in malls for very long and wants to rest or sit down? Does he finds it irritating to go to malls because of all the walking? And do you find it difficult to find them shirt and tees for their sizes, and their waists, and in school does he wears uniform, how do u get them in his size? Has someone ever fatshamed Leo, or has he been through any embarrassing moment of breaking chair or stuff, kids usually eat more then and try to show that they are okay with their weight when they are actually hurt on the inside. How do you see Leo's weight, does it bother you him being unhealthy when many kids his age are more athletic. Also you said that you were overweight but I think you would not be as high as Leo is now, because at your age your 12 year old outweighs you, so you must be husky or pudgy but not obese for sure as you now weigh as him.
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 39.44.115.xxx
I think working on your oldest's weight, making him exercise, and being strict with him on food will in turn help the youngest as u said he follows him.And your oldest weighs more than u,n later if he is taller,he still will put on more weight and his weight will be more compare to height and an issue.
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 39.44.115.xxx
If they love ice cream then probably not stop them but no harm in buying serving for one other than buying and storing tubs of ice cream at home, this way they get encouraged to eat more. What kind of foods and sweet/desserts do they have throughout the day,in what quantity?
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 39.44.115.xxx
...but it can be done in a decent way, telling the kid to eat healthily and like you said if he was having peanut butter and bread,that you can subsititue brown for white bread. There is low caloried options, why don't go for that for their favourite foods.
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 39.44.115.xxx
I can understand that fat shaming must be a sensitive topic for you, like any other normal parent, but it's ones duty as a parent to make the child realise when they have crossed the line between being chubby to being fat or obese, and it's not necessary to be harsh or humiliate the kid
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 39.44.115.xxx
Oh, it's tragic with what happened to your wife and I can imagine how it would have effected your family. Do you think it also played a part in their weight gain and they were gaining weight all those years but it became evident only when they turned 10 or 11?What do they have for lunch dinner?
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
Both boys have friends at school and sometimes i have some of them over for a sleepover on the weekend. Lane really looks up to Leo and Leo is real cool with his younger brother, so no problems there luckily. I notice that if Lane wants or doesn't want to do something, Lane always follows.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
It's later here. Lane just got up and told me he couldn't sleep because he's hungry, so i told him to take a banana or an apple. I went jnto the kitchen and found him making a peanut butter and banana sandwich. So what would you have me do? Take the food from him? No way would i do that.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
...inseam and Leo is shorter (5'2" to my 5'7") so we just roll up the legs. Lane is now too big for boys husky sizes so he wears mens 32/28 relaxed fit jeans with the legs rolled up. Most of the time they just wear sweatpants, more stretchy so don't have to buy new clothes so often.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
When I got engaged, my mother was very critical of her because of her size. After a big argument, I decided to cut off all contact with my mother, she's so toxic. So I am sensitive about my boys feeling ashamed of how they look. Right now Leo and I wear the same size jeans (42 waist). I take a 30
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
By the time I was 14 I had grown 5 inches taller and lost 20 lbs, but I was so embarrassed about my body I never took my shirt or boxer shorts off even in the PE locker room. My wife was a big help in helping me accept myself as I am. I miss her so much. If it wasn't for my son's I couldn't go on.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
...a ton of weight. I was averafe size until 11/12 when i started to quickly put on a lot of weight (70 lbs). My mother went nuts, fat shamed me at every chance, would ask family at get-togethers what they thought of my big boy boobs, big belly, and big rear end. I was totally embarrassed.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
wife was driving home from a baby shower (would have been our thurd, a little girl). I was home with my boys. They were 5 and 3 at the time. Each of them was over 8 lbs at birth, chubby the first year, then were average weight until each got to 9/10, when he started eating a lot and put on
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
Sarah, I'll try to answer all your questions. Please bear with me as I access this site from my phone and I can only input 300 characters at a time.The boy's mom, my wife, was always heavy. 200 lbs when we got married. She died in a car crash 7 years ago (our car was hit by a drunk driver as my
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/19/19  - IP#: 39.44.115.xxx
Jesse, do you give in to their demands of junk food? What lunch and dinner do they have, how many helpings, what type of snacks do they eat and how many times? Do you say no when you think they've had enough eating for the day? Why don't you try exercises at home like sit ups if they don't want to go out?How many hours do they spend on the couch munching and playing video games? If they don't realise they're overweight then why not weighing them and yourself together as your oldest may be near or more than your weight and shorter, why not swapping clothes of your oldest with you and if they don't fit him in the waist or hips( hint him in a polite way), what are his hips and waist measurements anyway, are they larger than you then you? You could maybe make them realize this way but obviously making sure they don't feel humiliated or hurt, but do get your message through. It's good that you at least took them out for walk but why didn't you tell them no when they came back and ate bowls of ice cream? Is it because they throw tantrums or feel bad or think that you're fatshaming them or just you didn't wanted to refuse them? How was their mother on their weight, did she have any problem with them being overweight? Does Leo have difficulty and needs help in any stuff like clothes due to his weight, do he needs bigger chairs in school or do kids call him names or bully him or he has friends?
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 15 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 77.18.56.xxx
At least half an hour walk and then food is better than no walk and probably having food anyway. It's more important introducing some physical activity than a diet. How is your oldest about walking when he that big, can he walk for half an hour without pain?
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/18/19  - IP#: 39.44.115.xxx
Jesse, I think that it's good that you initiated your boys to go for a walk, but if they are not willing to do it on regularly then there's no use as a walk a day and then eating a lot after coming back would do more harm to their weight than the good that the 15 min walk would do, tell them this
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/16/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
going by myself, Lane asked me to bring back some
peanut butter and bread (we ran out) I said I need the exercise (hint) and Lane told me I'm not fat and I shouldn't worry. This from my son with a big pot belly and huge butt. They just don't seem to realize how fat they are.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/16/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
It's hard for Leo because his legs and hips are big and he saddles when he walks. After we got home, both boys headed to the fridge and got bowls of ice cream. Today is colder but I suggested we walk again but both boys begged off, saying they were busy reading for school. When I said that I was
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/16/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
Sarah, it's a busy time for me at work because of tax season. Yesrerday was very warm at after I picked the boys up from schoo and our McD's stop I suggested we go for a walk because I need to be more active and lose weight. They came with me but both complained of being tired after 4 or 5 blocks.
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/13/19  - IP#: 39.44.115.xxx
Jesse, I face the same problem with my son too but I try hard not to give up. Just stick in there.
Do you do any exercise related stuff at home with them,Zumba or some other routines? Those are real helpful.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/10/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
I decided to try to lead my son's to eat less by example since I need to lose weight too. At Subway for lunch, I order a chopped salad, my son's each order a foot long + chips + cookies. I didn't want to make a scene so didn't say anything.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 12 - 03/10/19  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
Sarah, not having success. Trying to cut down on food intake for all 3 of us (I'm up to 233 pounds) but my sons insist they're hungry. This morning I limited their breakfast to cereal/milk, but an hour later they had made themselves nutella sandwiches because they were still hungry, they said.
 
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 03/06/19  - IP#: 39.44.173.xxx
Jesse, are you continuing any diet with your boys?