From Helena, Child's Age 9 - 09/17/15 - IP#: 67.176.53.xxx Click here to reply
Hi - Googled and found this site - wanted to share. I sent my daughter this summer to a very nice 8-week camp. She wanted to go and even researched it herself, it was not so very far away, and the people seemed professional and nice, so off she went! My husband and I had planned to visit her but his aunt became ill and we had to fly across the country. My daughter's older sister, who is 19, volunteered to visit, and did, and it worked out. Probably better for sis to visit than Mom and Dad.
I went solo to pick up my daughter two weeks ago and almost did not recognize her because she had put on so much weight. Her stomach sticks way out in front of her and she has a big double chin and chipmunk cheeks. She is not just plump - she is fat, a fat little girl. I didn't say anything because she seemed so full of energy and enthusiasm and we were so happy to see each other, but I knew I needed to stop at Target on the way home because none of her clothes at home would fit her, I could see that. As we rode in the car, her shirt came up a little with the bumps and I could see her fat belly jiggling. I couldn't believe it. I will say, too, that when we were in the dressing room and I was helping her try some things on that...my God. At one point she turned to the side and her bare stomach is very, very round and full of bumpy flab and there is also fat on her arms and her thighs. I don't know whether to be angry at the camp, to say something to someone, or just keep my mouth shut. So far, I've kept my mouth shut. She hasn't been teased as far as I know, and she seems completely unaware of her weight gain. Maybe say nothing and see how it goes???
Reply from Helena, Child's Age 9 - 11/26/15 - IP#: 73.181.124.xxx hi...just wanted to check in and tell you she is still gaining weight, and one of the pairs of slacks I bought her two months ago now do not close. And that she now weighs more than me, her mother. And please don't judge me, I love her, but it is a little disgusting to see her eat, sitting there with her stomach hanging over.
Reply from Katy, Child's Age 15 - 11/15/15 - IP#: 70.193.64.xxx My daughter went to stay at her grandparents for this past summer and had the same thing happen to her. She gained about 100 pounds and now weighs 245 lbs. she was already pretty far before going there. I did not recognize her when she waddled out of the house to hug me. All of her clothes were to small and my mom didn't buy her new ones. So, wen she came to hug me, her shirt didn't even go past her upper belly and her shorts were on the verge of ripping. I didn't say anything to her but I talked to my mom though. She told me that Emily, my daughter, just ate and ate junk food the whole summer. And that she didn't realize the effects it had on her size. I was astonished when we got in the car to go home and the seat belt barley fit over Emily's belly. I asked Emily if she knew how much weight she had gained, and she said yes and that she liked it. SHE LIKED IT! I couldn't believe that my daughter liked being obese and ugly. I tried going shopping with her and she picked out small, tighter clothing that clung to her fat body, she said that they were cute. I bought them for her but then school came around and all the kids made fun of her. I just don't know how to tell her that she is obese and needs to loose weight!
Reply from Marlena, Child's Age 15 - 10/07/15 - IP#: 97.45.0.xxx Hello, Helena - I don't think you can get mad at the camp unless they force fed your child thousands of calories per day. When children hit puberty their hormones essentially rewrite their metabolism. Your daughter may have genes predisposing her to obesity - i'm sorry to use that word but it sounds like your child is very, very overweight at least. The best you can do is try to help her not get any bigger because the bigger she gets the worse it is for her out there in the world, every child needs a chance as an adult and when a young girl is already very overweight there is a good chance she will be an obese adult and it is hard enough to be a woman out there without being enormously fat, whether in the workplace or in the dating world, people just DO NOT like fat.
Reply from MaliceInWonderland, Child's Age 12 - 09/21/15 - IP#: 192.69.22.xxx hi, Helena - unfortunately there isn't a whole lot you can do in my opinion, I am starting to think society is so aimed at getting people to eat tons of calories at every meal that in the future, everyone will be enormous, it is already happening in America, you see it at malls - men, women and children 200, 300, 400 pounds and up. I'm sorry to say it sounds like your daughter falls into this category, both for her weight gain explosion over the summer, and that she is not concerned about it. It will be the norm in the future. Just understand she has her path and this seems to be where it's leading. Try to guide her, love her, make suggestions, MAYBE, but the last thing you want to do is humiliate her or make her feel you love her less because of her weight. There are other things in life. Yes, the weight, if she carries it into puberty and adulthood will give her a handicap in the working and dating world, but by that time I think everyone will be fat, so... Good luck and God bless you. :)