From Jessica, Child's Age 14 - 03/30/13 - IP#: 69.125.21.xxx Click here to reply
I have two daughters as you could guess they are overweight however they don't seem to notice and bought themselves bikinis should I tell them they are too heavy for bikinis. My 15 year old is 5'1" 139lb and has a 37 inch waist. Her belly hangs over normal clothes and her thighs are quite meaty. My 14 year old is 5'1" as well but 165lb, with a 43 inch waist. The doctor said she was obese and I can see it. She has many rolls and when ever she moves at all she jiggles everywhere. She is extremely fat. I don't to hurt them but I know they will be hurt even more if I don't tell them. They also embarrass me enough already they where bikinis I'll be known as mama whale. Should I tell them they are too fat for a bikini?
Reply from Annette, Child's Age 6 - 04/09/13 - IP#: 65.102.65.xxx I don't think you should say they are fat. Maybe you could talk to them and let them know the bikinis just aren't appropriate. I don't think it should matter whether someone calls you names, why would you be embarrassed of your own children? That seems to be your focus. As a mother being positive with them would be your best bet. Just my opinion
Reply from A - 04/03/13 - IP#: 96.127.224.xxx NO, don't tell them that. What kind of message would that be sending? Weight loss should be about being healthy, not feeling you're ugly and conforming to other people's beauty standards. Nobody is too fat for a bikini, and you should admire your children's confidence for wearing them. From the wording of your post it seems you care more about your pride and reputation (you say your children embarrass you) than about your children's well being. I'd like to think that isn't what you meant and that you're a good parent, but you should reflect on that. For them to lose weight, positive motivation is better than negative. You want them to lose weight for the right reasons after all.
Reply from Claire, Child's Age 12 - 03/30/13 - IP#: 69.125.21.xxx I think you should just tell them they are too fat. My daughter came home saying that she overheard her best friend calling her fat. I said " well you kinda are. You are very heavy." This made her cry at the time but she has lost 20lb and counting!! The thing that made me tell her was hearing others refer to her as "the fat one" who's Sally again? Oh the fat one over there! I heard that at a pool party I was picking her up at. She also got rejected by her crush because of her weight. So these just made me realize she needs to know that she is fat. Your daughters do too.
