From Helen, Child's Age 13 - 04/25/05 - IP#:  Click here to reply  
This is not really for my daughter, but for my neighbors daughter. They are a very nice filipino family that we get along well with but their 12 year old daughter is very fat and they dont seem to be doing anything about it. She is 4'11 and about 230lbs! The poor girl is so sweet but she is like an over stuffed pig that is becoming so fat year after year. The family doens't seem to notice and feeds her nonstop all the time. This poor girl just inhales all the food and it pains me to see a great little girl in this state. Her face is swollen, she has a huge belly, butt, and thighs, and she has so many rolls of fat! Please, can some1 give me advice on how to bring this up to my neighbors so they can try to get her to lose some weight. I cant just stand by and let this girl eat herself to that size. When ever i visit her i hug and talk to her and i notice how fat she is becoming and i feel so bad. Please some1 respond!
Reply from Dee, Child's Age 12 - 06/17/05  - IP#:
Well if you have a kid introduce them to her and let them go walking together or anything that involves walking.

Reply from jenna, Child's Age 13 - 05/28/05  - IP#:
well, idk wat u should do if her parents dont care. well, if i were in ur shoes, i would report her parents to DCF b/c she is making the little girl at risk for any kind of disease. its obvious that they dont care.....its kind of....idk, but that is wat i would do, i would report the parents even though they think it is perfectly normal. i am sry that i cant help u more

Reply from Helen, Child's Age 13 - 05/11/05  - IP#:
Geez she eats all kinds of food and eats all the time, thats the problem. Not all the foods she eats are bad, even healthy ones, its just that she is constantly eating and her parents always have food in front of her. I just have to prove to them that she is unhealthy.

Reply from Tammy, Child's Age 11 - 05/09/05  - IP#:
What kind of foods is this girl eating? And how much does she eat, and how often? Her parents shouldn't let her do this, if it were my child I would help her to choose fruits over junk. I think you need to try to help the parents to understand that she needs to lose weight.

Reply from Helen, Child's Age 13 - 05/08/05  - IP#:
last night i babysat her and tried to bring up her weight with her parents and they just dismissed it and told me she can eat whatever she wants. I had to watch her for three hours sit in front of the tv and stuff her face with all the food in the house. I was able to notice how fat she was getting and it pained me to see her family let her get this big. I almost cried when i hugged her goodnight as her body was so fat and round i could barely wrap my arms around her. When her parents came home i tried to tell them she needed to lose wieght and they kept telling me not to worry about it. Anymore advice? I need her parents to realize her problem. pls reply.

Reply from jenn to helen, Child's Age 12 - 05/05/05  - IP#:
no, u should tell the parents about it. it si life threatening to the girl. ya, it could be tradition to have filipino's be on the heavy side, but it is really harming her health.she is not going to be able to move around pretty soon if she keeps eating. just try to tell her parents in a nice way that her health is way more important than a tradition that is soo unhealthy! GOOD LUCK!!! ~jenna

Reply from Helen, Child's Age 13 - 05/03/05  - IP#:
yea, I think thats true. I often see overweight filipino girls and women who are attractive. And my neighbors daughter is pretty herself, despite her wide exterior. But 230lbs, at 12? I think they might be overstuffing her a little too much. The poor girl doesn't realize whats goung on, she just inhales all the food that is given to her, and is just ballooning. I think that I should do what the first replyer said ask the parents if they have her health in mind. Even though being overweight is appealing (in their opinion), she might get a lot of dates but she is in very bad health. Should I continue to allow her parents to fatten her up like this, cause this their fault, not hers. I am however trying to encourage her to play with my daughter, but it is hard to get a girl that fat up and about. Any more suggestions?

Reply from Dan, Child's Age 12 - 04/25/05  - IP#:
many filipino overstuff girls as tradition. in the philipines fat is attractive. they are probably not doing it intentionally, just part of their tradition. try and encourage the girl to play with your kids.

Reply from jenna, Child's Age 12 - 04/25/05  - IP#:
well, if i were you, i would try to help her parents help her. i would tell the girl's family that she would be much healthier if she lost a good amount of weight. to aproach the situation, i would say that i have been worried about her health. it is a very hard thing to do. for being that short and that overweight, it is really dangerous. i know you and hre parents do NOT want to see her die at an early age just because they didn't aproach the problem sooner. i would just try to help her and her parents. You should sit down with her parents and explain to them what you feel. i hope i helped a little. ~jenna