From My friend is kayla, Age 14 - 07/20/14 - IP#:  Click here to reply  
Ht. 5'1", Start: 180 lb, Today: 180 lb (BMI %tile: 98), Goal: 100 lb - Ok so my friend as you can see is out of control obese and just looks so bad. For her sake I'm trying to help her. Unfortunately though whenever I tell her she should lose weight she gets all embarrassed and doesn't respond. I've tried every way to tell her. From you're looking a bit heavy today to your a bit too big for that outfit to you don't really need that cheeseburger. I even tried a talk at my house. We were relaxing in my basement and I told her I could see her belly hanging out. She got embarrassed and covered it up. I then told her that it looked a little bigger than it should and if she feels the need to cover it up it probably is. I then suggested she lose a little weight. She got all quiet and red but I really feel like I needed to help her so I told her how much better she'd feel and that the guys would like her more, and just that she'd be healthier, but she looked embarrassed and didn't respond. What so I do? How can I help her? What do I have to do to get through to her?
Reply from Louis, Age 15 - 10/12/14  - IP#:
What do you mean 'as you can see'? We can't see her.
Reply from A, Age 17 - 09/04/14  - IP#:
Hearing all of those things from a friend probably comes across as very hurtful. Sit her down and tell her "Im sorry, I said that because I'm worried about your health and I want you to be the best you can be." Otherwise, whether her belly sticks out or not isnt your business. And what she eats is not your business.
Reply from Rebecca G., Age 13 - 08/18/14  - IP#:
I agree with the others, you have to encourage her. The way you were doing this basically sounds like you want her losing weight because she would have more appeal to her, not because you care or your worried about her health. Support her in weight loss, don't tear her down
Reply from Abagail, Age 13 - 07/30/14  - IP#:
Some of the things you've told her are actually hurtful. You could try and go through this with her so she doesn't feel alone in this process. You could walk to her house everyday and go jogging together. Spend a lot of time with her. She might appreciate that more than making her feel too embarrassed.
Reply from Sarah, Age 14 - 07/29/14  - IP#:
Your not being helpful by being like that maybe if you try doing differnrt events to help lose weight with her and get her to try new food you bought that is healthy