From Ted, Child's Age 14 - 11/04/22 - IP#: 91.219.212.xxx Click here to reply
Hey guys, I posted on here back in August about dealing with my nephew. He’s 14 and back in August he was 5’4 and 300 pounds. We went in for a check up this week and he’s 5’4 and 324 pounds. I’m really at my wits end here. I’ve stopped ordering fast food and catering to his wishes, but his dad sends him money and he’s loading up on junk food at school and on the way home. Every day I see food wrappers from Popeyes, kfc, McDonald’s, Wendy’s, all of those fast food places. I got a call from the school last week saying that he’s been having troubles getting to class on time - I think it’s due to him not being able to move around that big school so fast. His breathing has become more labored and I’ve witness him struggle getting off the ground and out of chairs. Stairs are a literal no-go as he’s heaving after half a flight of stairs. Whenever I’ve tried to talk to him about it he says I’m fat shaming him. I don’t know what to do. He refuses to exercise or eat less and the boy is going to have a heart attack if he keeps this up.
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 11/19/22 - IP#: 205.250.0.xxx Hopefully things have gotten better this week. He yells about fatphobia, maybe show him a few episodes of my 600lb life so he can actually see where scceaming fatphobia leads
Reply from Ted, Child's Age 14 - 11/12/22 - IP#: 91.219.212.xxx Mark, he pretty much does what he wants now. I can’t monitor him 24 hours a day and I can’t stop the money he gets, so he continues to eat junk food daily. Jesse, to answer your question we’ve seen the doctor twice and he’s talked about participating more in physical education classes and having a balanced diet. My nephew has told the doctor that he can’t participate in PE due to his asthma and that commenting on his eating is fat shaming him. Whenever someone brings up anything that could be remotely inferred to his weight he screams “fat shaming”. I prepared a salad for dinner tonight and he didn’t want to eat the “rabbit food” and that I was fat shaming him for not allowing him to get pizza. I’ve tried talking to him directly about his weight but he goes back and forth between he has no weight issue or that he’s a little chubby and that I’m fat shaming him. The kid can barely get up the stairs without wheezing but it’s “asthma” and is completely unconnected to his 324 pounds.
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 14 - 11/08/22 - IP#: 174.202.1.xxx When you take your nephew in for a check up, does the doctor say anything to him or you about his weight?
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 11/06/22 - IP#: 205.250.0.xxx Do you think if you let him see what will happen if he doesnt change by letting him do what he wants for a little bit and hit a mini rock bottom, so to say,and really see how the weight is an issue so he will be more receptive to your help. It seems like he will eat what he wants anyway even with you putting in this effort.
Reply from Ted, Child's Age 14 - 11/06/22 - IP#: 91.219.212.xxx Eric, he’s a couch potato at home. He likes playing video games and eating junk food. When I come home he’s usually either on the couch or in his bedroom. He doesn’t leave that spot unless it’s for food or the bathroom until it’s bed time. I disagree with your thoughts on his size, anyone at that size would probably struggle with their weight. I’m 5’10 and proportionally I would need to be hitting 400 to be his size. I’d have issues at 400, and I’m sure most folks would. Mark, I’m unsure what would help with his mobility other than him moving around more and eating less. The more he moves and the less he eats he will have more endurance. If you’re referring to a wheelchair, that’s a hard no. He’s fat and lazy not disabled. My house also isn’t accessible. It’s been very difficult finding clothes for him, but we’re managing thankfully. Online helps tremendously. Anytime I mention anything remotely regarding food or movement he screams that I’m fat shaming him and that he has no issue with his size. Today I brought home salads for dinner and he got mad and ordered pizza. My brother has completely spoiled this child and I’m at my wits end.
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 11/05/22 - IP#: 205.250.0.xxx Have you thought about getting him something to help assist in his mobility? If he's struggling to get around that would dissuade him from actively trying to do things. Also, maybe some better fitting clothes could help. His clothes must be starting to get uncomfortable for him with that added weight.
Reply from Eric, Child's Age 13 - 11/04/22 - IP#: 94.134.87.xxx What does he do in his spare time? He is big, but unless he is totally sedentary,that weight should itself not be such a huge challenge in everyday tasks?