From Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/18/20 - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx  Click here to reply  
Hey everyone, I’m a father of three boys, 17, 14, and 12 are their ages. As a single father, I’ve never been one to say no, which has led to all of my boys to be on the heavier side. My oldest is in the 400s while the two younger boys are in the 300s. It has been a minute since I’ve had the chance to get them on the scale, so I’ll have to update their weights once I do.
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 03/22/20  - IP#: 174.239.3.xxx
Hey guys, just wondering how things are going for you and your sons during the quarantine. I work from home so no change for me but my son is missing school and his friends. The Y here closed last week so no more swimming for us for a while. The library closed too so Lane can't even walk there like he used to. I know my son is eating a lot more out of boredom but can't do anything about it. I know I've put on more weight too. Hope you all are doing OK.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 03/20/20  - IP#: 174.239.2.xxx
Hey everyone, with all of the Covid19 issues, how are you all and your kids doing? We were just told today my son's school is going to distance learning for the rest of the school year. I've always worked at home so no change there. Since the last time I posted, Lane has out on some weight. He's 240 now.
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 02/20/20  - IP#: 89.245.221.xxx
My boys and I are doing alright, I guess ? Had to get them to get new clothes this monday because they've outgrown theirs again. and after Valentines day the begged and begged me to buy a lot of the reduced in price chocolate, which I did. We all had like way too much chocolate the last few days...
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 02/13/20  - IP#: 77.16.209.xxx
Hello everybody, it's been a while, how are you and your boys doing?
 
Reply from Janis, Child's Age 14 - 02/05/20  - IP#: 72.235.193.xxx
Anthony, how do you find a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders? Then, how do you do get your obese child to go to the psychologist? When I brought this up to my son when he it 300 pounds in 8th grade he got very angry, told me he didn't have a problem and I was "fat shaming" him and just flat out refused to go.
 
Reply from Anthony, Child's Age 17 - 01/30/20  - IP#: 93.186.202.xxx
Hi Jesse. I’m going to be quite honest here. You’re not a bad dad, it is great that you have taken the responsibility to ensure the best for Lane. However it is evident that him and you are taking too much comfort in food. Food makes you all feel better especially when grieving. Both of you need to see psychologist, one that specializes in eating disorders. I know it is hard when cooking and ordering for three when there is only two. But Jesse, Lane is much too fat for his age 11 years old and 230+ pounds is too much strain on his body. If he has not exhibited already he will begin to suffer from obesity related illnesses and struggles. He’ll start complaining about school and being tired and then he’ll be homeschooled and then he’ll have no exercise and be house ridden. I am a psychologist and a teacher and I have seen this happen so many times. So I beg you please see eating disorders psychologist before you and him end up on the show “my 600 pound life”. Make change before it is too late
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/29/20  - IP#: 174.239.5.xxx
Sorry to go on for so long. I didn't mean to hijack this thread.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/29/20  - IP#: 174.239.5.xxx
...in front of him. Like when he got invited to spend the night at his friend's, he didn't want to go but I insisted and said I had a lot of work to (a lie) and that I needed quiet so he should go. He went and had a good time. I stayed home and baked a batch of muffins and ate them all
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/29/20  - IP#: 174.239.5.xxx
...and everytime I see him waddling to the kitchen for more snacks or see his stretch marks I and then get motivated to change but then something reminds me of Leo and the anger rises up and I'm back in the kitchen. I'm just happy I've never let Lane know how I feel inside, always wear my happy face..
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/29/20  - IP#: 174.239.5.xxx
...because I make or order so much food, enough for a family of six, but by next morning the leftovers are gone with my eating after Lane is asleep. After we go to the Y, I stop meaning to get a diet soda but it always ends up with and Lane loading up on burgers and fries. I know I'm a poor dad for Lane..
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/29/20  - IP#: 174.239.5.xxx
..of me and at school, has friends over and he goes to their houses. I know I'm stress eating after Lane goes to sleep. I've eaten a whole pie in 30 minutes. I'm still so angry over Leo's passing. I go to a weekly grief group which helps for a day but then it wears off. I'm a poor model for Lane...
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/29/20  - IP#: 174.239.5.xxx
Janis, Lane is eating a lot more since his brother passed. Third helpings at meals are standard for him now. Continuous non-stop snacking when watching TV. He and I both saw psychologists but it didn't help him. The psychological told me all he did was cry and he wouldn't open up. Acts happy in front...
 
Reply from Janis, Child's Age 14 - 01/29/20  - IP#: 72.235.193.xxx
Mark, Fabian and Brett: I'm concerned about your sons being so large that they're inactive and on the way to being immobile. Dave and Jesse, I'd be worried about a boy who wakes up during the night to eat. My son went thru a stage where he was frequently doing this, once he ate a whole pie between midnight (when I went to bed) and 6:00 a.m. (when I woke up). Turns out he was reacting to stress caused by his paternal grandmother and me fighting over his custody. He gained 18 lbs in a month! Once that issue was resolved, his nighttime food binges stopped. So Jesse, could your son be under a lot of stress? I know you had mentioned earlier about the passing of your older son. I'm sure this has caused stress for both of you. Just a thought.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/28/20  - IP#: 174.239.5.xxx
OK, Dave, glad to hear it's nothing to worry about. I'll just let him eat.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/29/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
Yeah, it has happened here a couple times. Noy very often, but sometimes. Not a big problem, I think..
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/26/20  - IP#: 174.239.3.xxx
I woke up at 2 a.m. today and my son was in the kitchen eating cake and milk. I asked him why and he just said he was hungry. He had just had a bedtime snack at 10:00 p.m. Second time this week it's happened. At breakfast he ate his usual. Is this something that all uour kids do? New for us.
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/26/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
My boys are similar to Brett’s, a lot of weight goes to their chest, belly and arms. Stretch marks all over those areas, and their faces hold a lot of weight as well.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/25/20  - IP#: 174.239.3.xxx
My son is big all over, arms, etc but his thighs, hips, rear end, sides and especially his chest are huge. The inside of his jeans and sweatpants wear out real fast. He's still active even tho he waddles now instead of walking. Lucky he's not as big as Brett's and Fabian's sons.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/26/20  - IP#: 209.97.159.xxx
My boys are much taller, but they carry a lot of weight on the thighs, butt, hips and belly. No issues with walking and no health issues of any kind, luckily. I don't want to blame any of you, but don't you ever worry about the health or mobility of your boys? Caring for two or three almost immobile teenagers sounds pretty bad for both you and them..
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/25/20  - IP#: 174.239.1.xxx
Fabian, don't feel bad and blame yourself. It's real easy for kids to pack on weight without parents realizing it. You lead your every day life, you don't realize how much the kids are eating and suddenly they've gone from chubby to very fat.
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/25/20  - IP#: 89.245.107.xxx
Honestly, I dont know Brett, I havent weighted any of us in ages, and I dont even where our Scale would be, if we even still have it.
My boys are really really large though. Sorry I can't help all that well. Man, I sometimes feel like a bad father when talking about their struggles.
 
Reply from Brett, Child's Age 13 - 01/25/20  - IP#: 185.153.176.xxx
I only have to help my youngest in the shower and bathroom. If the older one needs help he's not saying it. It sounds like our boys might be similar weight. What exactly do your boys weigh and what size clothes do they take?
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/25/20  - IP#: 89.245.107.xxx
Honestly, Brett, things sound really similar to whats happening here. Back pain, knee pain, sometimes finding it hard to get up or taking a longer time, and yeah, honestly any activity is hard to motivate them for. they even seem annyoed at having to get up to get to the bathroom at home. Glued to the couch or the bed is honestly a really good way to describe it. Both sweat a lot too, like they did a big workout all the time. and my younger son has been standing in the hallway leaning against the wall on the way to the bathroom , because he's so out of breath. and about where they carry their weight ? Honestly their bellies are enormous, along with their chest and thighs. Stretch marks are all over the place, even on the legs and on their backs. And about them having trouble reaching stuff, yeah. I have to help my younger son with bathroom stuff and I have to help shower both of them, get both dressed and idk.
All this is hard sometimes
 
Reply from Brett, Child's Age 13 - 01/25/20  - IP#: 181.214.40.xxx
I definitely hear the concerns around mobility. My youngest is also my bigger concern. They both have trouble bending over because guts get in the way. At school they struggled with fitting into desks, with back and knee pain. At home they have become attached to the couch. At first I used to encourage walking, but they would complain and argue and eventually I gave in. Now I feel it would be too hard for either of them to make it around the block. The youngest is sweating and out of breath going to the bathroom or the kitchen. I don't know what to do about it. Out of interest where do the rest of your boys carry the majority of their weight? My boys its in their guts, moobs and love handles. As can be seen from their stretch marks.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
As to the future, I hope Lane takes after me (I was 225 and 4'11 at the end of grade 8, then had my growth spurt and graduated HS at 5'7" and 230, I didn't gain more weight until I got married at 21). Lane's nowhere near puberty yet. When it happens I hope he'll get taller and the weight will even out.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
How is his mobility diminished? Luckily my boys don't have any issues, but they are older (so taller), so they are probably smaller while still over 300. We should all in the family be more physically active, but with winter and snow 7 months a year and none of us enjoying any winter stuff it's hard. Oldest will go to university later this year..
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 89.245.58.xxx
For my kids I can say, mobility is already kinda impacted, more so for my younger son, since he's still less tall, they still manage OK, but I have noticed things for them being harder or them asking for help more. And clothes I got them around Thanksgiving are already really small on them, like a lot of both of their bellies pokes out of the shirts which ride up, and they can't pull up their pants fully. And I would say pretty much the same as Mark, I do t know how to handle future developments but I'll try my best to look after my kids and keep them happy
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
Well all my boys have outgrown their clothes and as for the future I’m not sure what’ll happen, at this rate they’ll only continue to grown and their mobility especially for my youngest has diminished. I don’t know what I’ll do if they end up immobile, only thing I can do is continue to care for them.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
Not only here it's happening then. I don't know the exact weight of my boys, but I can see they arw bigger. You guys with *very* large kids, what do you see in the future? Seems like at least some of your boys are getting close to (or at) a size that is impacting mobility - how will you handle this?
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Both my son and I have put on a lot of weight since my older boy Leo passed away at the beginning of October. I still get food for 3 even though there's just 2 of us, plus myself I'm doing a lot of stress eating because of my grief and trying not to burden Lane with my sorrow.
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
The holidays has surely made an impact on all of our weights. I know I’ve gained some and my boys have for sure. Sometimes our weight is stable but for the most part they continue to grow due to lack of physical activity and eating what they want.
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 89.245.58.xxx
And about weight being stable? Eh no, as expected the holidays saw us all put on quite a bit of weight, but it always is climbing up quite a bit, I know it's not good, but it keeps happening. I know it's because of our eating habits and not being active. As Dave said, it's ok now, but what about a year or three down the line?
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 89.245.58.xxx
We have that happening really often, people are rude as heck. It's not a every time thing, but roughly once a week, from comments to me or my sons, to insults, to sometimes even yelling at them. Things like booths being too small (sometimes it took a long time and help from the staff to get one of my sons unstuck) or things like me having to help my kids in the bathroom (putting pants back on and stuff outside of the stall, because they needed help and we didn't fit in together) don't help. And yeah, we go in the places still, but tend to get delivery or drive in more too.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 209.97.159.xxx
Do your boys keep a somewhat stable weight as it is now, or are they getting bigger? My boys (and myself) have had a somewhat stable weight for some time, but the last couple months it has been, due to winter and other things, less physical activity and more food, and we have all gotten bigger. I don't mind the size of myself or the boys as of now, but I also see that it's not good if this trend of weight gain continues..
 
Reply from Brett, Child's Age 13 - 01/22/20  - IP#: 181.214.46.xxx
I'm sorry that happened Jesse. I have had that happen with my boys as well. We now stick to the drive through and eat in the car. They don't need to hear that kind of talk. For my youngest it was an embarassing enough situation as he was stuck half in to the booth and couldn't get any further but was having trouble getting out too. To then have a random busybody interject with a comment about his weight was unhelpful and hurtful. You telling the lady who talked to you that you would get the manager was far more polite than what I said. I don't really like my boys hearing me swear at someone but I was so done.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/23/20  - IP#: 209.97.159.xxx
Wow, that is a disgusting and rude way to behave. At least she maybe had enough common sense to attack you alone and not your son or both of you together. Why can't those mind their own business? They would never do this if your son was very skinny..
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/22/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
...anything like this ever happened to you and your kids? I've been fat since age 10 and at 35 I'm used to stares and snide remarks but she made me so angry. At least she didn't say anything in front of my son.Any thoughts? I'm still angry.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/22/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
...to stand on line. The woman comes to my table and says out of the blue "Can't you see how enormous your son is? Stop feeding him so much." I was stunned, finally i said "please leave before I call the manager." She frowned but left. Lane came back with his shake and fries and we left. Has...
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/22/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Something happened today I need you guys' opinion about. Picked my son Lane up at school. He got the top score on a big test yesterday. So, we stopped at McD's as a reward for him. We get our food and sit and eat and I notice a woman (maybe 30 y.o. staring at us. Lane wanted some more so he goes..
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/22/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
My wife left several years ago, so I’m the only one in charge of my sons. It hasn’t been easy so having them in online courses rather than attending school in person has been a big help. Although it’s saved me a lot of time, it has been bad for my boys’ weight, they don’t mind their size and they’ve said they’re perfectly fine with how they are, but I will admit they’re quite large for their ages.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/22/20  - IP#: 209.97.159.xxx
Thank you! Yes, single dad here, the boys live with me full-time. Both boys were always large, so was I. Ex-wife hasn't said anything about their weight, luckily. I try to motivate both myself and them to lose weight, but no success so far. We have all three gained weight lately due to the last months eating habits.. I am fully aware that we should all lose a lot of weight, but at the same time, as long as the boys are happy, have a great social life, doing well at school and seem to be all comfortable with being big, I don't want to push it too hard, I just let them eat like they want to. We try being physically active, but it's not easy in the winter here. In the summer, it's a lot more tempting to spend time outside. Organized sports never tempted any of them, though.
 
Reply from Felix, Child's Age 16 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 172.58.229.xxx
Hi all, firstly I wanted to say great that all you single fathers are doing great jobs with their children, it really means the world to them. I’m trying to convince my children that weight loss would be good for their health and confidence. Maybe it’s because I was never very heavy (largest 220 at 6 feet before the military whipped me into shape) but I know it has to be difficult being over 300 pounds. I was a medic in the military, I studied biology and health science in university so I know about healthy eating and living but it’s just so hard to try and implement that on my children. My wife and I are separated and my kids just moved in with me due to a number of factors, mainly better schools. I took a look back when we were moving into our new house a few weeks ago and it’s like “woah all of my kids are heavy”. My 18 year old is at least 230 pounds, which was the result of a 30+ pound gain in 6 or so months for football. My 16 year old has got to be over 300 pounds now and my 20 year old is getting heavier while at university. At this point I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to give up and wash my hands while they fatten up but I can’t control it. I cook healthy food almost every night and they go behind my back and gorge on fast food. I feel like they’re eating themselves into a grave and I feel so helpless about it.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Agree with Fabian, Brett. Your wife would be happy you kept the family together and your kids are happy. Compared some kids I see who are neglected and don't have enough to eat, at least our kids know they are loved and are happy.
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 82.113.98.xxx
I don't think she would think bad of you, you care for your kids and that's what matters, as long as they feel good it's good enough,is what I think.
 
Reply from Brett, Child's Age 13 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 181.214.40.xxx
Hi Fabian,
Yeah, 400ish is my last known weight from about 7 years ago, before my wife passed away (aneurysm - very sudden). She was big too and the kids weren't exactly sticks even back then, but they were closer to normal size than now. My wife was a great chef and there was a definite change in diet (though not volume) of what we consumed after she was gone. Both boys took it hard but the younger one is the one who found her in the kitchen on the floor. It happened when he was 7, about 4 years ago now. I do sometimes wonder what she thinks of my poor attempts to do this.
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 82.113.98.xxx
And same here Brett, I am am in the 400eds at least probably closer to 500 or more and cooking is hard af, I still try but it's fast food more and more because it's just so much easier
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 82.113.98.xxx
Yeah the food situation is pretty similar, lots of takeout and fast food too, it gets exhausting how much I have to cook for us three. And about their mother, no she's not around, our relationship was already really rocky before, but really shortly after my second son was born and she left me and I got full custody and all that, don't really want to go in full detail, but yeah, I haven't seen her for pretty much 13 years now
 
Reply from Brett, Child's Age 13 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 181.214.40.xxx
Hi all,
Another single dad here. Its good to know I'm not alone in this situation. Parenting is hard enough but then add a couple of hundred extra pounds on to the boys and it becomes even harder. I'm no good at cooking or baking so we do takeout every day. I know thats a big contributor to my boys sizes but I don't have time to learn and work and be a dad. Somethings just get let go and this is one of them. I'm also a big guy. Over 400 lbs and I don't set a great role model. I love to eat, love movies and tv shows and video games and hate to exercise. Guess how my sons feel about things? I keep hoping maybe teenage rebellion will set in and they'll fix things on their own, but I doubt it at this point. Like Mark I also have them in an online school at home. It eas easier on my work schedule than trying to get them to another part of town than work and easier on them as they were both struggling physically and emotionally at school. Its been two years since I did that and neither one has said they want to go back. My boys are 13 and 11 by the way and I am not sure of their weights. Don't even know if we have a scale anymore. If we do it's sitting gathering dust in a corner as it hasn't been used in a long time.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Yeah Dave, we order our share of pizzas and we go to BK or McD's sometimes. For Fabian, Mark and Dave: it seems like we're all single dads. I don't mean to pry but are your kids' moms involved in their lives? If so, what do they think of their weight? (My wife died when my son was 3 years old)
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
I had an intent to try to change the eating habits here in our small family after christmas, but so far it has failed miserably, just so you know that things are far from perfect here, for sure. Even though we all like to cook and bake, my boys love takeout and snacks too, and we have had that a lot the last couple months.. Same for you other guys?
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 89.245.49.xxx
and hey Mark, bit personal to ask but what was the thing that made you unenroll your kids from school?
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/21/20  - IP#: 89.245.49.xxx
Dave, I can't speak for Mark, but for my kids yeah, they don't express interest in doing stuff other than what they are already doing. I also handle most chores and they are also pretty much only a bit helping with cleaning.
We have a dog too, but they don't really express interest in walking him, they love him though.
All of this is kind of a mess I know, having two preteens that are that big is unusual, but it's also hard to handle all of this on my own sometimes
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
Jesse, that's great! My oldest went on a 2 week roadtrip with friends last summer and is planning an overseas trip with friends the upcoming summer - and both my boys have friends around or visit friends all the time.
Mark, don't they find it boring to do nothing? No friends, no trips out, just more or less voluntarily homebound?
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Lane keeps his room clean, takes care of our dog Sparky, and helps with everything. He likes to make simple food on his own. He made lunch for us today, tuna sandwiches, tomato soup, ice cream with sliced bananas. He likes video games and reading and board games. He's a good kid so I let him eat.
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
My boys are home schooled they don’t do anything but stay home, I do the shopping and such. Their only chore is to make sure their rooms stay relatively clean.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Lane is in 6th grade st a small charter school. He has friends. He's active, Saturday we had snow and he cleaned our elderly neighbor's driveway and walk. He's slow when he moves, he waddles when he walks but doesn't complain when we go to the mall. He likes swimming and we go to the Y evrry week.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
But how is their mobility at that size? Like, everyday stuff like shopping, walking around to do regular chores and so on? Both my boys are big (16 and 18 at around 300), but nothing that is any problem in everyday life, school, spending time with friends, normal activities for teenagers..
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Clothes are hard for my son too. Last month I had him try on my jeans (I'm 5'7", 335) and they fit him in the waist and seat. Have to roll up the legs but Lane thinks it's cool. When the weather warms up it'll be back to sweat shorts and basketball shorts.
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 89.245.49.xxx
Clothes are a nightmare I can barely find anything for them, so they are forced to wear kinda bad fitting stuff. But as with mark's kids, they are not going to school, so at least it's not something they get made fun of for
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
Clothing is tough, I do buy them adult clothing which fits a bit too long length wise, but not much I can do about it. Their clothes aren’t very stylish just simple T-shirt’s or tank tops with sweat pants or basketball shorts but my boys don’t mind they prefer their clothes being comfortable and actually like the clothes they wear.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
How do you do it with clothing? My boys are oød enough to fit into adult clothes, which makes it relatively easy, but I imagine finding clothes that fit a 300+ 11/12 year old must be very hard? My boys were "only" around 200 then, so it was a challenge, but not too hard to find something stylish that fit.
 
Reply from Fabian, Child's Age 13 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 89.245.49.xxx
Hey Mark, nice to meet you. I'm in a very similar situation, hard to say no to my kids, single parent and we all eat a lot (I'm quite large too)
my sons are 11 and 13and both are over 300 too, I have don't know their weight either. I can totally relate, it's easy for this to have gotten out of hand like it did, and parenting kids that are these sizes totally isn't easy (my size doesn't exactly make it easier myself)
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
My 17 year old is 5’10, 14 year old is 5’5, and my 12 year old is 4’9, and it’s been some time since I last had them on the scale so I’m not sure what their weights are at now to be honest. I guess I could weigh them though.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
Have you had any thoughts about what will happen in the future? If your boys steadily gain weight, what will happen when eventually the first will see mobility problems due to his size, if it hasn't already happened? What is their current height and weight?
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
I do cook and bake, but at the same time my boys still like to order delivery when they’re hungry. They don’t do much physical activity other than walking to the kitchen or bathroom, I do make us go to a park once a week to walk and get a bit of simple exercise in but even this has become much more difficult for them.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/20/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
I really love to cook and bake too, and my sons also seem to have inherited this, and often make dinner or cookies etc. The good thing is that we all in general eat relatively healthy, the bad thing is that it is easy to eat too much. Mark, do your boys do any physical activity?
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/19/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Do you cook or ia most of what you all eat from take out places like KFC or BK? Are your boys big on candy, chips, soda and things like that? Do they eat veggies and fruit? I like to cook and bake which is part of our problem.i made a double batch of cookies yesterday and they're already eaten.
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/19/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
I guess his size doesn’t really affect his daily life anymore, due to their growing size I unenrolled all of them from school before the current school year had begun last year, and now they’re just in online classes for homeschooling. Which I admit was a bad move on my side because now they’re just home all day and don’t get the daily exercise that kids get while walking around school and such.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/18/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Same with me. I weigh 330 and have been fat since middle school. My son is 11 and weighs 230 and finding clothes for him is a struggle. He's been a big boy since he was born. I make healthy meals and snacks but we both have big appetites soi make a lot. Trying to diet has never worked out for us.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/19/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
Sounds a lot like me and my boys then! Have tried some attempts at dieting, but it has always failed. Have your boys always been big? A 12 year old over 300 sounds pretty big, isn't that a problem in everyday life for him?
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/18/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
Yeah I’m a big guy myself, and my boys don’t care to loose they don’t mind their weight.
 
Reply from Jesse, Child's Age 11 - 01/18/20  - IP#: 174.239.7.xxx
Mark, are you heavy too?
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/19/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
Ok! What do you guys usually eat? Are your boys happy with their weight, or do they want to lose?
 
Reply from Mark, Child's Age 14 - 01/18/20  - IP#: 108.65.80.xxx
Hey Dave, and there’s not much activities we do, my kids prefer to just sit and play video games. Food is a big influence and is always available. Doesn’t help much with keeping their weights in check.
 
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 01/18/20  - IP#: 159.203.185.xxx
Hey and welcome! What do you usually do when you spend time with your sons? Is it all about food and meals, or do you have any activities in common? Do they seem okay with their weight, or do they see it as a problem?