From Dave, Child's Age 16 - 08/07/19 - IP#: 174.216.30.xxx Click here to reply
Just to shed some more light on my situation. My son is around 290 lbs( and getting bigger. His stomach hangs out of his clothes. Hes had some mishaps because of his weight. A button popped at dinner and he bent down once and split his pants. Hes broken some flimsy furniture before too. I have an old baggy sweatsuit that is huge. XXl sweatpants and xxl sweatshirt. He wore it all the time because it was baggy and now... its tight. His stomach hangs out of the bottom and his rear end peaks out the top. I dont know how he got so big he outgrew sweatpants but I'm so worried. I've tried just about everything to get him to lose weight but nothing seems to work. Can anyone help?
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 08/17/19 - IP#: 39.44.161.xxx Dave you also said that he's broken furniture and had accidents, did it effect him,did you see him show any effort to lessen or avoid them by his actions or did he seem unconcerned? Is being overweight in his genes or also family history or he's alone? When did he start piling on the pounds?
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 08/17/19 - IP#: 39.44.47.xxx Dave,why don't you put restriction on his video games until he does some kind of physical activity for the day, is that possible? Also does anyone call him out on his weight at home other than you, his siblings or anyone, or at school,maybe he thinks he's okay to all but you and ignores you.
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 08/15/19 - IP#: 174.216.34.xxx I'm taking food addiction into serious consideration. Unfortunately my son's fatass doesn't fit into any Jean's, not even my Jean's. I do already make passing comments and even tease him a little sometimes, hoping that will motivate. But nothing seems to work.
Reply from Felix, Child's Age 16 - 08/15/19 - IP#: 172.56.34.xxx Hi Dave. Do you think your son is addicted to fast/junk food? Is it a constant snacking or full blown junk meals on top of dinner? Jason eats fast food nearly everyday and it’s concerning. But I can’t stop him as he makes his own money. Maybe have him buy his own clothes? I do that with Jason - if you have a job you can buy your own clothes. Also read something about how you’ll notice your size more if you don’t wear sweats/elastic - maybe get him some jeans/pants? I was talking to a friend who’s daughter is also large and she says that she’ll catch her in the act with her comments - for example if she’s out of breath going upstairs she’ll innocently ask why she’s breathing so heavily. Possibly something to consider. No concrete solutions but some points I’m taking into consideration.
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 08/09/19 - IP#: 67.60.59.xxx Sarah, I've asked him multiple times if he'd like to go with me for a jog and he always says no. I made him go once, and it wasn't long before he was puffed and had to stop. He doesn't seem embarrassed. He bulges out of all his clothes but never does anything about it so he either doesn't realize his fat is hanging out or he doesn't care.
Reply from Sarah, Child's Age 12 - 08/10/19 - IP#: 39.44.235.xxx Dave why don't you go with him for walks or jog, does he have any siblings,they can accompany him in any physical activity maybe if he doesn't feel motivated to do this stuff alone, it can get lonely and you easily get demotivated d. Also do think that he feels embarrassed by his weight and bulge?
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 08/09/19 - IP#: 67.60.59.xxx No problem Felix. My son seems to eat constantly. I buy snacks here and there, but not too much as I known how high hes getting. He just buys his own anyway and sneaks it. He constantly gets seconds at dinner, even after i reprimand him. He does get pretty winded walking up stairs, tying his shoes, etc. Which is what worries me the most. I've taken him to the doctor for it(who also told him to lose weight) and he just doesn't listen. He never seems to care when I confront. He just grumbles out some halfhearted promise to me and then continues eating. I don't know what to do about him.
Reply from Felix, Child's Age 16 - 08/09/19 - IP#: 152.207.27.xxx Hi Dave, sorry for choppy response. Does your son eat a lot at home (snacks/cooking)? Or is it primarily fast food? Jason eats a ton of fast food and I don’t know how to stop him. Does he get winded around the house/school? What has been his reaction when you’ve talked to him?
Reply from Felix, Child's Age 16 - 08/08/19 - IP#: 152.207.201.xxx Hi all. Just flew with Jason and he could barely fit in the seat. Quite concerned. On holiday and he’s eating so much, literally as much as me, his mother and his brother combined. Dave, has your sons weight gain been rapid? Have you talked to him about his size? Janis, hi, that’s not good. What’s your son’s reaction to not being able to fit in the front seat? That’s concerning. Does he eat a lot of junk? How’s his basketball performance being so large - I assume he gets winded often.
Reply from Dave, Child's Age 16 - 08/07/19 - IP#: 67.60.59.xxx Its definitely not healthy. I cant think of any fat role models in my son's life. I've always been slender, even as a kid, and his teachers are fit( I know, I've had talks with them about my son's weight as well. My brother and father( his uncle and grandpa) are in his life but both are slim as well. His main friend group are all thin and have teased him about blowing up so much. I dont know why he seems content with blimping into a teenage balloon. I've talked to him, my dad and brother have, his P.E teacher has and so has his doctor. He just seems to brush it all of and goes back to shotgunning soda and candy bars. I know hes almost an adult and has his own freedom, and there doesn't seem to be anything I can do. But i don't want to stand by and watch my son fatten up like a pig for fair.
Reply from Janis, Child's Age 14 - 08/07/19 - IP#: 72.235.193.xxx Dave, one more thing...I wanted to mention role models for our obese sons. My son Paul's father isn't in his life and my brother is Paul's surrogate father figure. He's massively obese at age 31 and is always eating. I mentioned that Paul is playing on his school's freshman basketball team. Last week I went to a parent's meeting for the school basketball program (Varsity, JV, freshman) and was surprised to see that out of the 6 coaches, 3 are slender, 2 are fat, and 1 (the Grade 9 coach) is tall but positively huge (has to weigh near 400, and seems to be in his late 20's...met his wife who mentioned having 2 young children). He was introduced as being an alum of the HS basketball program who went on to play college basketball, so he must have gained a massive amount of weight after college. He ("Coach Rob") seems a nice guy and Paul and his friends all like him, but what kind of a role model as far as weight goes is he for the kids? Half the boys on Paul's team are slender, but the rest range from plump to obese like my son. It seems like fat teen boys like our sons are just surrounded in real life by other fat kids and fat adults. It seems hopeless sometimes.
Reply from Janis, Child's Age 14 - 08/07/19 - IP#: 72.235.193.xxx Dave, speaking from experience with my son Paul I'm not sure you can do anything about your son's weight. He sounds like he is independent and has sources of excess food that you have no control over. Since he's 16, he needs to be more independent to prepare him for adulthood but being able to handle his independence (like controlling his appetite, not overeating, exercising more) is a problem. I have the same problems with my son Paul, who is 14, 6'3" and currently weighs 357 pounds. I just bought a new car (a Cadillac SUV) and Paul can't fit into the right front seat because his hips and rear end are so big, so he sprawls in the back. He has a source of money I don't control (debit card from his grandmother) so he's always snacking and eating extra meals. He's playing summer basketball right now but it hasn't had an effect on his weight. He seems proud of his size and nickname ("Big Paul") and I wonder, reading other recent posts from parents of obese teenage boys, if our sons are not motivated to anything about their weight because they're proud of being so big. The sad part is that a teenager doesn't realize, as we parents do, that "big" in the sense of massively obese, doesn't equal "big" in the sense of muscular, large,and fit. I've heard Paul and his friends talking, as I chauffeur them home from practice, and there are times when the talk about eating and Paul brags about how much he can eat. I guess it's a "teenage guy thing" but it certainly isn't good for their long term health.