From Helena, Child's Age 9 - 09/18/15 - IP#:  Click here to reply  
I am just curious if any other parents have experienced this -
My daughter is very overweight but it doesn't seem to bother her in the least. No one at school has said anything and it's almost as if she doesn't realize her stomach sticks out. Sometimes when we're at the grocery store I will see her and her bare fat belly is just bulging out and I have have to pull her shirt down.
I see this in today's teens as well at the mall, you will see them walking around with bare midriffs and the flab is just hanging over and it doesn't bother them. What is happening to this country??
Reply from Jolene, Child's Age 15 - 09/20/15  - IP#:
I agree, Helena, there's only so much you can do. My husband is a big man (350 pounds) and was big when we were married 20 years ago (he played football in high school school) and he sees nothing wrong with our son's weight. He keeps on saying that John will "grow into his weight" but John just keeps on getting wider. My son idolizes his dad and I think that he's proud of his size because his dad is so big too (if that makes sense). As far as girls not liking fat men, I'm not so sure about that. Last school year we had a real problem with a girl who was chasing after our son, sexting him and doing all those terrible things. My son was already over 200 pounds, so this girl wasn't put off my his weight. But basically, I've accepted reluctantly that I can't do anything about my son's weight now except to encourage him to be active. I fix vegetables and salad for dinner, and my husband and son eat them, but covered with butter or dressing! If I try to make less food, my husband will complain that there wasn't enough and he'll order pizza because he's still hungry and my son of course matches his dad slice for slice when the pizza gets here. Very frustrating.
Reply from Helena, Child's Age 9 - 09/19/15  - IP#:
Wow, Jolene, I'm so sorry your son gained 40 pounds, that is a LOT of fat even for an adult, but for a kid his height that must pretty drastically alter his appearance and ability to get around, I mean imagine picking up a 40-pound dumbbell and putting it in your purse and walking around with it, you know? His stomach must be enormous.
I've noticed that boys are "proud" of their fat whereas the girls seem either oblivious or pretending they are Miley, wearing the same styles. There are pools in our neighborhood and we see young boys and teens walking by with no shirt, carrying a towel, their stomachs looking like they are truck drivers. I just wonder what's going to happen when they start dating because though there are some men who love chubby women, I've never met a woman who liked chubby or fat men, it's like "ewwww!" to them.
As I am typing this, my daughter is sitting across the room on her phone on the couch. Her thighs are spread out to either side, her belly is hanging over her jeans button and her arms have that "chicken fat" thing. It just blows my mind because two years ago, my husband and I actually discussed buying her nutrient shakes because she seemed underweight and we couldn't always get her to eat.
It's definitely a dilemma...but there is only so much you can do.
Reply from Jolene, Child's Age 15 - 09/19/15  - IP#:
I've noticed the same thing, Helena. This summer my son stayed with his grandparents for three months. During that time he grew 2 inches (he's now 5'6") and he gained 40 pounds (now 270). He's very active but he's enormous (has to wear size 54 shorts and pants/jeans because his hips and legs are so big). His friends (most of whom are fat or chubby themselves) have nicknamed him "Butt" and when I played dumb and asked him why they call him "Butt" he said "It's because I'm so big mom" like he was proud of it! He's got a naturally stocky build, but he's obviously got a lot of fat on him. It doesn't seem to bother him at all.