From Merdi, Child's Age 17 - 07/25/15 - IP#:  Click here to reply  
My daughter was never overweight. Then all of a sudden she gained a lot of weight. When I say a lot I mean a ton. She is fat and gross. She gained aver 80lbs in 6 months. She needs new clothes all the time and she still wears bikinis. When she sits wearing a bikini you can not see the bottom part. Her fat covers it. She weighs 195 lbs and is 5'3. I dont know what to do with her. She refuses to exercise and will not follow a diet. I am embarrased to be seen with her. How fat is she. Is she obese.
Reply from Andrea - 08/01/15  - IP#:
Dear Merdi... I'm sorry you are in such distress. Your daughter's weight gain could have numerous explanations - and Im hopeful that will your goal will be to find out the cause. You could start with seeking a medical opinion, as there may be medical explanations that you would want to address immediately. If that is not it, I would explore a psychological cause: could she have experienced a trauma unknown to you? A therapist would be helpful to explore that -- and to help with the self-esteem issues that she no doubt has owing to both the impact of the weight gain on her social life and on her relationship with you, which has clearly been harmed by her weight gain! My hope is that your disgust with her is something you can thoughtfully consider: it is not likely she will ever feel whole if her mother sees her only through the lens of her physical being. She is more than just what she looks like. Teenagers, in spite of how arrogant or flip they may appear take criticism to heart and sometimes become depressed. Please tread gently and understandingly.