From Sara, Child's Age 13 - 11/30/14 - IP#:  Click here to reply  
Hi. I have a 13 year old daughter who is obese. She is about 5"3 1/2 in height and her pant size is 10 but I don't know if it is in Woman's or Juniors. She is an average athlete. She runs miles in 8 minutes and 30 seconds or less.My daughter weighs 142 lb, but in the summer she lost 5 pounds and seemed to gain it back.i am very worried for her, even though she has many friends and is almost at the top of her class.i tried to talk to her about her weight but she keeps shutting me down. Lately she's been sneaking food and lying to our faces. I just want her to be skinny or at least 110 pounds. I myself am 43 and weight 165 and my husband who is 50 weighs 170. My older son weighs 200 lbs but is only 5"7. He is 17 almost 18 and is very lazy. I just don't want to see my baby girl go down that same road. Please help!
Reply from Beverly, Child's Age 4 - 01/13/15  - IP#:
Sara, I understand your cause for concern. However, a mile in 8 minutes??! This sounds like a girl at the top of her game to me. I am borderline overweight - curvy, you could say - and in a mile's jog I would have to stop several times to catch my breath! I was once an overweight teenager of 13. I can tell you personally that nothing tastes worse than not measuring up. You express your desire for your daughter to be "skinny" or absurdly "at least 110 pounds". Unfortunately, most people cannot have it all and your daughter evidently excels in academia and social interacting. This, in my opinion, is a lot more important than being aesthetically appealing at the age of 13. Before you retaliate and say you are concerned for her health moreso than society's perception of your beautiful daughter, rest assured that a "health" argument is, in this case, simply unfounded. I stress: a mile in 8 mins.