From Sara, Child's Age 28 - 07/27/12 - IP#:  Click here to reply  
I'm concerned about my daughter and don't know what to do. She's over 500lbs and can barely move...
She was maybe about 180lbs when she graduated high school...played some volleyball and all that. But it was in college she really started to put on the weight, she admitted to being over 300 when she graduated (I wish she were only that big now!)
My daughter got married to her boyfriend almost right out of school and kept getting bigger and bigger. The problem is that as she's gotten bigger, she is less and less willing to even talk about it with me. I know she's her own woman now (she's 28 and married), but its such a sensitive subject for both of them (her husband too) that if I even serve them diet coke I can see they get offended, like I'm demeaning them about her weight.
PLEASE she's getting so big. I know she used to eat a lot of fast food, but at over 500 pounds her belly is getting SO BIG that she can't fit behind the wheel of a car at all. She works from home and just has food delivered all day, from what I can tell. I'm afraid that if she doesn't change this she'll be 600lbs by 30...and totally bed-bound. I see how hard it is for her to move, and how she often needs help with everything but still she doesn't want to change.
WHAT DO I DO? Part of wonders if I should just accept the fate that I'm going to have a bed-bound daughter...
(I'm sure it doesn't help that I'm not small myself, 280lbs, and probably this is all my fault!)
Reply from some guest - 04/23/14  - IP#:
Well, all you can do here is try to extrapolate te situation that which is going on. I mean you should try to say something like so:
Try to invite your daughter with husband, prepare the food they like and try to talk with them something like so: "I don't want to force you to anything, it is your life and your business, i just want share some information with you" and explain her how bedridden immobile fat people daily routines are going. And than ask whether they want this. If they really want go this way, you will not be able to stop them. If they don't want go this way and this is just a temporary lost of control, this picture will scare them and they wil ask you for help and adwice.
Reply from Evette, Age 16 - 04/12/14  - IP#:
I'm sorry. That must be painful for you. All you can do really is to reach out to your daughter and let her know it's not too late to save herself.
Reply from Michael, Age 18 - 09/23/13  - IP#:
I'm sorry to say this Sara, but your daughter might not even make it to 30 if she keeps gaining weight. All that excess fat she has is putting extra strain on her organs like her heart. It's only a matter of time till her heart or another organ gives out. It's not a matter of will she die from an obesity related cause like a heart attack but when.
Reply from Megan - 02/01/13  - IP#:
Get her up have her walk 1 to 2 times a day around her living room, then let her rest for about and hour and have her drink lots of water! Only Water! Then in a hour have her repeat walking around the living room, she will not lose weight to fast but its a progress and even if she loses 1 pound that can give her alot more energy! Since she is so big she will probaly lose weight fast by doing little exercises do not push her at all until she can move easily!
Reply from Robert, Child's Age 13 - 09/11/12  - IP#:
Hi there. My daughter is also severely overweight. She can no longer go to school due to her size and lack of mobility. I was wondering if you would like to chat some time. I have yahooIM and MSN. My yahooID is and my MSN is Hope to hear from you soon
Reply from Jennifer, Age 10 - 08/16/12  - IP#:
If she wishes to try this she may!
Drink lots of fluids, it makes you feel full, so you don't eat anything else.
Also exercise daily,even just short walks will add up. If she doesn't want to walk outside, then get her a treadmill. Best Wishes!
Did i mention i am 10 years old? ( But not a parent, Thank goodness!)
Reply from Annie, Child's Age 13 - 08/01/12  - IP#:
Is your son-in-law obese also? If your daughter ever wants to lose weight, he's going to have to support her. If for some reason he wants her to be so big, your efforts aren't going to work. (Too bad!)
Reply from Grace - 07/27/12  - IP#:
Hello, ma'am. I'm just a teenager, 17, but I read your story about your daughter and it reminded me of a book I'd read with a woman in a similar situation. The book is called "Daily Word for Weight Loss". In it, a woman named Tamara Guilliams shares her story of how she weighed 550 pounds and lost 367 of them. It's an amazing and very encouraging story. I hope this helps you And your daughter in some way.