From Rick, Child's Age 14 - 08/02/06 - IP#: 64.40.61.xxx Click here to reply
I will start with thank you for all the info i found here on this site. I have been herefor 3 plus hours reading and learning. Here's why, Last night the person I love and care most about in the world handed me a note on her way to bed that said she was not happy with the way she looked and would be willing to do any thing to lose some weight. She said "I might be bigger then you dad. I am very uncomfortable with myself and HATE the way I look. I mean those words." This is my baby girl, if your a dad you understand what i mean when i say all I see is perfection and my baby girl who I would die for and do anything for. She told me she was tipping the scales at 206 I was floored and shocked. Then I got worried about her health. Some where in the last 14 years she has grow up and the first year of high school and this home coming dance thing that is in two mounths became important. Who knew? Not Dad. She told me that the dress will cost 200 dollars and she wants to buy a size 9-10 and she is now in a 18. I used your BMI tools and other meausureing tools you provided. And I dont see this being possible for her. Not healthy. I am a single dad, I guess all you moms had that figured out by now. Help!!~!!!! I got it figured at a safe good diet and a personal trainer for the work outs at best if she truely willing to do anything Feb. 07 she could be at 135/140 Am I close and will the doctor tell use whats safe to lose a mo. for a 14. Females are gods greatest gifts and A Dads most important job. What do I tell her 16 year old brother about the new food and new rules about what will be in the new healther kitchen. HE and i are not blessed with that gene. My mom, sister, aunts, all have had to deal with this. I cant belive it was such a shock to me I just saw by little girl. Any help or advise is welcome. Thank You Rick
Reply from Debbie, Child's Age 9 - 08/20/06 - IP#: 68.97.219.xxx Weight Watchers is a great change of lifestyle plan. they have a webiste you can go to and local meeting sites. It is not reasonably healthy to lose that much that quick, watch her closely if she starts dropping large amounts. It will be hard but necessary to remove all unhealthy food from the house and only bring in healthy foods, also they make great low fat sugar free desserts and snacks for those times when its just necessary, sugar free jello and sugar free pudding made with skim milk is wonderful. You sound like a great dad, best of luck. She will need all of your and your son's support.
Reply from Julie, Child's Age 8 - 08/04/06 - IP#: 65.13.128.xxx Hey Rick, You have a brave daughter to come to you and tell you she needs help. It must be a shock to hear how badly she is hurting yet many kids here are too. Has she seen this site yet?? I think it helps the emotional side of kids losing weight. That helps a lot since there are not many places for that. I think talking to her doctor is a great idea. Most kids can lose 1 to 2 pounds per week yet if your daughter is still getting taller, she maybe able to lose only 1 pound per month. I wouldn't put so much emphasis on her weight though. Do lots of activities (exercise) together as a family and encourage your daughter by complimenting her artwork, school work, creativity, generosity....not really her weight. As for your family, I would say things like, "it is time for all of us to eat healthier." Keep the food you do not think your daughter should have out of the house...no exceptions. Do not make your daughter eat one way and you and your son differently. That is way too hard and sends a really bad message to your daughter. I hope this helps. Good luck to your daughter and to you. I think you are being a great dad!
