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From Taylor, Age 16

Well, for starters, you're not OBESE. Your BMI points to you being VERY slightly overweight. By less than a whole point, so it's not something to freak out about really. Obese is a BMI of 30 or greater, and yours is only 25.5. A healthy BMI ranges from 18.5 to 24.9, so you're really only .6 away from having a healthy BMI. Which isn't bad at all. You'd only have to lose 3 pounds to get rid of that .6 and be at a BMI of 24.9, which is considered healthy. But I get that it's toward the upper end of your range, and you'll likely want to lose more, I'm just saying this so that you know it's not some big impossible feat. Thirty pounds is a lot to lose, and you could actually lose weigh less and still be perfectly healthy. Fit doesn't always mean skinny. It's not like the thinner someone is, the fitter they are, so you might wanna aim for losing less. Especially since you're younger, you're probably not finished growing and developing, and chances are you'll grow a few inches, and that can even out your weight, it happens for a lot of people. Losing 30 pounds puts you at the lower end of your weight range, so if you were to grow a few inches it could leave you underweight, which isn't very healthy. At your age, I usually don't think it's a good idea for kids to try to lose so much weight, because chances are, you will continue to get taller, and losing weight can be harmful to growth and development, unless you do it right. So maybe aim for losing 10 or 15 pounds max, and you should be losing no more than 1 pound a week. (You may have heard 2 pounds per week, but that's really for adults, because losing more than a pound a week that can harm someone who is still developing.) As for the junk food the trick is, to just make healthier choices over all, don't tell yourself you can NEVER have those things again, but just that you can't have them all the time. It also tends to make those treats A LOT more enjoyable because you don't have them all the time. For exercise, you seem to get the idea, but if wii fit is boring to you, find something you like. You don't have to be on a sports team, if that's not your thing, even if you just like dancing to music in your room, or jumping rope, or walking around your neighborhood, then that's fine. As long as your active, you don't have to be a star athelete or anything to be healthy, you just have to get out and move. And as for what that boy did, forget him. You want to find a guy who doesn't care what you look like at all. If all that guy cares about is weight, what if you had been "thin" enough for him to want to date you? I garuntee he would've treated you horribly. Guys like that are never the kind you want to go for. And hun, poeple are right when they say you're mean to yourself. First off, you're not fat. You're not just some fat kid. You a person, a human being, and your special, and what you weigh can't change that. If you stop calling yourself fat, I bet you'll find that you'll be happier because of it. No one likes being teased or put down, but I don't think people realize that it still hurts even if you're just doing it to yourself. It can destroy your self-esteem, so be nice to yourself. Be positive. Good luck, hun! <3