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From Tessa, child's age 14
I posted a while ago about my 14 year old son Jack who was, at the time chubby-to-overweight (five foot six, 179lbs). This was in late November, and my biggest worry at the time was his rapid weight gain.
Since then, I have been trying really hard to motivate him to lose weight, but he has been hesitent and has often lashed out.
To make matters worse, his appetite has gone through the roof. On the rare occassion we order pizza, we will order two large pies for the five of us (Me, DS 16 who is on a successful diet so isnt eating too much, DS 9 who is skinny as a string bean, and DH who is, admittedly obese) which I think is a perfectly fair amount with maybe a few slices to put in the fridge for a snack later. But Jack will devour his 2 pieces, then whine until we allow him more, and then talk about how he could eat a whole pizza himself. Same with everything, nothing is ever enough. Seconds, thirds even and he will complain he is still hungry.We try to stay firm, but every time it becomes a fight. He has started to 100% sneak food, and when he is out of the house there is little we can do besides limit his spending money, which can only go so far.
He has put on even more weight. We finally got him on a scale and were shocked (but not really, sadly) to find that now he is 197lbs. He has outgrown clothes he fit perfectly mere months ago, and is wearing 38inch jeans. It seems like all of his weight has gone to his belly, and he has a lot of stretch marks there.
Its really taken a toll on him, last week he was invited to an offseason football practice/meetup and I felt really bad watching him. For one thing, he had to wear his High School's football shirt which he hadnt touched since the end of the season (mid-November) and it barely covered his belly to start. And the exercises, which were not at all hard (think basic, push ups, sit ups, etc; not lifting or anything crazy) were hard for him to complete. By the end he had sat out most of the sit-ups, and was panting heavily. Apparently at the pizza buffet the team went to afterwards, he ate almost 10 slices of pizza plus other stuff, though that's according to him as parents weren't invited.
When, after weighing him, I asked if he wanted help to maybe lose some weight and get more fit, he threw a fit and said he didnt care and that he thought he was skinny enough so we should just drop it.
I just dont know what to do. He is such a handsome kid, if you just look at his face, but as soon as you see the rest of his body you just feel sad. He can barely fit into clothes he wore fairly comfortably a few months ago, let alone a year ago, and every time we try to nicely help him, he brushes us off and says he thinks he is fine how he is, he has even said that he thinks he is skinny or thin!