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From Libby, child's age 14

I know this is not for me but I want to know if you guys can give me some much needed advice. I'm basically very worried about my daughter’s weight, and I really don't know what to do. Some background info, I have one daughter named Sara and she's always been a chubby girl all her life. I really never worried about her weight and let her have w/e and everything she wanted, no matter how large. I know this wasn't smart but I didn't really know what to do but make my little girl happy. As she grew older I realized she wasn't just chubby or pudgy anymore, but becoming quite fat for her age, especially around ages 8 and 9. I still hesitated, and continued to indulge in her horrible and large diet, which I now realize is my fault. This became the worst during her preteens, when early puberty caused her appetite to reach new heights, and of course I stupidly I continued to give her all and w/e foods she wanted. Her weight naturally sky rocketed to the point where even I was taken back, and yet I still didn't do anything. Sara continued to gain and get bigger and bigger while I pretended nothing was wrong. I just kept telling myself that she's happy and that’s all that matters. Meanwhile her meals were becoming larger and she was continuously getting fatter, and I recently realized something needed to be done. The reason why I am finally realizing this now is because last week Sara went to the doctors for a physical. She's 14 yrs old today and was weighed in as 302lbs. I was so shocked that I couldn't believe it. Yes I knew Sara was very overweight and she was getting bigger but in my mind I always thought of her as in the early 200lbs, and that’s why I hesitated. But seeing my baby girl being weighed in as over 300 at only 14 knocked me out of w/e denial I was in. Now I truly see all the mistakes I've made over her life and desperately want to fix them. Since that visit I really see differently the way Sara eats and live. She eats huge meals (unbelievably I make them), doesn't exercise (I never made her), always snacks (I never made rules), and doesn't care at all about her weight (at the doctors she wasn't even listening). She’s become so overweight she’s three times as large as me and twice as large as most people on the street. I can’t even hold my baby girl anymore because I can’t get my arms around her, and it makes me want to cry. I realize most of these are my fault and she’s only going to get bigger if I don't take action. But I just don't know how to approach or follow up on the citation. How can I start teaching about health and exercise when I never taught it b4? How can I make her see how bad it is to be her size? How can I enforce diet and exercise when she becomes sad about her weight? And lastly what else can she do to lose weight? Please, I really need advice as I don't know what to do. I want her to be happy and healthy at the same time, but it looks impossible. She's become so fat now; I really need to get her healthy. Pls reply, Libby.