hi my name is monica and i have the answer.the one way thats healthy and safe to lose weight is to join weight watchers.it incourages to lose weight and the people there cheer you when you lose weight and they wont stop incouraging you till you lose the weight you want.yes it is very hard to lose weight and being heavy,but when you lose that weight you will happy your family and friendswill to because you will be healthy and not indanger of heart disease or arthiritis.good luck on losing the weight and i hope you wil join and you will be happy with the results.