ill be honest w/ you...yes everything starts by loving yourself, but i started getting guys after i lost 20 lbs. Guys are sick sadistic pigs, their really not worth it, i thought all i wanted was a guy when i was overweight, but when i lost 20 lbs, and got guys,and then we would break up, they still acted like jerks and teated me bad, even though i wasn't over weight. They put a lot of unesecary weight on your life that you don't need. Your better off trying to live a happy single life, and live it for yourself not for guys, its working for me.