you can still eat out at those3 places. just pick a healthier choice. such as a veggie dish (with a litle bit of the other stuff you like just to taste it) at the schinese place and cut out the fries and maonaise at mcdonalds or have a salad. eat really slowly so that you're on the same dish even though your familie's on thier third or whatever and just eat realy slowly untill you have to leave and be really happy with what you have! learn how to love tiny tastes of food and cut out zero calorie stuff like soda for drinking and only drink water and tea and things with no sodium or calories in them. cut down on your salt intake becasue it makes you bigger by retaining water that you don't need in your body. just make tiny changes that are good and work up losing weight. you can do this and it can bne for life,. oh- and the whole boyfriend thing- well- i didn't get my first kiss even untill i was 15 so don't worry about it becasue there are wonderful people out there that do look past this stuff. i happen to be dating one of them for ovre a year. just give yourself a goal like "i won't add any exra salt to my food" this week and "i will only drink water when i need something to drink" the next week and then "i will only have 1 plate when i go to the chinese buffet"- i know it's hard becasue i love that stuff too but just pace yourself. good luck! i really want to see you do this! and by the way- i'm thinner then my older sister but she's the one that has all the guys(not bad looking ones either-some i had a cruch on) all over her- so just wait untill your time comes...