Hey- Listen girl, it is hard, I know. Right now I weigh 257lbs. But guess what? That is down from 272lbs. Liking yourself is a very slow process, and I dont think anyone ever completely finishes it. You have to focus on what is good about you. So you are overweight. That is a fraction of who you are. I dont think that you have to like yourself when you start to lose weight, but I think it is an excellent part of the process. Once you start to follow a healthy diet and work out, you will start to have more pride in yourself. Not because you look better, but because YOU have the strength to over come something that thousands of adults dont. You are actually changing something about yourself that you arent happy with. Listen there is so much to say on this topic that I cant even say it all now. If you want to email me, I would be thrilled to hear from you. My addy is Newsiechic85@hotmail.com. Drop me a line if you feel like it.